Do you have any quarrel with your partner ? ? ?

@xtmlove (402)
China
October 5, 2010 9:38am CST
As we known, most of lovers will have quarrel with each other more or less. But the ways that people choose to deal with them are differ. Some people choose to accommodate their partners, while some choose to forget them. If you have quarrel with your partner, how are you to handle this matter?
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
5 Oct 10
Hi xtmlove, it is common in partners but we always try to compromise. If there is a love between the couples then anything can be possible. Some times quarrel also makes couple understand more and make them more close. But there should be positive thinking.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
6 Oct 10
do you agree meeting after quarrel will be very sweet and that moment will be like sweet memory for us.
@xtmlove (402)
• China
6 Oct 10
Hi, Jotomy I agree with what you said. If the quarrel happening, we should try to compromise with it. After all, we don't want to give any hurt to the lover with us.
@pjnjclyn (176)
• Newton, New Jersey
6 Oct 10
Everyone has a quarrel at some time or another if they are not then someone is in denial. There is nothing wrong with fighting as long as there is repect for one another. We do not have big fights that often but when we do I have learned that I have to take a couple moments to think before I speak so that I do not say something that I really do not mean. It gets easier as time goes by.
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@xtmlove (402)
• China
6 Oct 10
Thanks for your response. I think that you've done a good job to solve such things.
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
5 Oct 10
I have no any partner. So there are no chances for quarrel. Because I think it is also need of a relationship to quarrel sometimes. Because if there is no any quarrel in a relationship then their no any twist comes in life.
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@xtmlove (402)
• China
6 Oct 10
Hi, anurag I agree with what you said. Through the quarrel, we can find some problems that we could solve them together. After all, everyone has a unique visual angle to think the same problem. I hope you can find a partner as soon as possible. Good luck!
• United States
5 Oct 10
As humans we must always remember that there are no two people the same no matter how hard we try to find someone this way it will not happen. Luckily my boyfriend and I do not have quarrels often. We do agree to disagree sometimes and well the respect factor is always upheld.
@xtmlove (402)
• China
6 Oct 10
Yes, I agree with what you said. We should know that there are no two people the same. We need to respect and understand both of us.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
5 Oct 10
Yeah I quarrel with my partner sometimes especially over disagreeing of something. But we always do realise there's no point arguing over something that we both don't have same interest about. Then we will just stop arguing about it and promise as usual not to talk about the same thing again, though we will do again in the future lol :)
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@xtmlove (402)
• China
6 Oct 10
Thanks for your response. If you are had different opinions on the same thing, just don't talk it any more. You can find some other things to talk. This could reduce the unnecessary quarrel any more.
• Canada
5 Oct 10
We try so very hard to have contructive discussions instead of quarrels! If we are too tired and upset, and we know we will have an argument, one of us usually says "we need to talk about this tomorrow, I don't want to fight." Then we will usually do something fun together to improve the mood. We try to keep things light and fun when we have minor disagreements: he knows my desk will always be messy and I know he will never be able to remember little things. Not to say we never raise our voices, but very rarely.
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@xtmlove (402)
• China
6 Oct 10
I think the way that you are handing the quarrel is a good method. We should not talk about one problem all the time when it hasn't any result. Just as you said, we need talk about it tomorrow, and then forget it.
@banban (601)
• China
6 Oct 10
Yes, where there is a life, there is a quarrel. In recent days I don't get along with my boyfriend quite well. And it's pretty sad because we have many more quarrels than before. But, luckly, we're back to be good now. Though I'm angry each time we are having a quarrel, we try to make the other one calm down. Yesterday, we two were trying to memory our happy times during the past years that we're together.
@misheli (552)
• Philippines
6 Oct 10
I think it's normal in a relationship to quarrel sometimes. My husband and I have some quarrels too but we make sure that we finish everything before the end of the day. The good thing about my husband is that every time we have quarrels he will just say something explain his side then he will shut his mouth so that it will not be a big issue for us. After an hour or two we will just look to each other then we will laugh and say sorry to each other. Thats how we quarrel.
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
I'll never leave my partner just because of petty fights. but if you say CHEATING, LYING, that's a different story. LOL
• Portugal
26 Oct 10
if me and my bf argue i say all that i think to him^^ and then we both say sorry and solve things ahah^^ is the way we solve things^^ we both say how we feel and what we will do to change and then things are ok again^^ talk is always the best way to solve quarrels^^ honesty is the big must in a relation^^ ignore the arguement or argue even more is what destroys a relation. but if you talk means you care so hour relation can be saved for sure^^ as long as there is love there is a way to be ok again^^
@aurel83 (102)
• United States
6 Oct 10
i often time have a quarrel with my partner. sometimes it is because of a small things. everytime i had a quarrel with someone i prefer to be quiet, i dont wanna talk a word with him. i realized that just be quiet doesnt solve the problem. but for me thats the way out. i am contradicted with my partner. he likes to talk to solve the problem rather than to be quiet just like i did. when we had a quarrel, we did not talk or communicate in just a day but everything are cleared up the other day.
• Philippines
6 Oct 10
It takes a lot to make a relationship to be really strong has to go through a lot of tests. Not all the days of togetherness are rosy for both the partners in love. Jealousy, tension, quarrel, fights all are part and parcel of it and has to be handled with patience. It does not matter how old the relationship is, fights and arguments can take place between partners at any point of time and over any issue. While some are resolved quite easily with one partner giving in, some relationship have to bear the brunt of it for a long time. An ego clash is not desirable in such situation as it will only make things worse. It is better to resolve the quarrel as soon as possible according to my experience. But before doing so, one must realize who is at fault. Once this is decided then it becomes easy to point out the one among the partners who is going to break the ice. However, the initiative should be taken by both to resolve the quarrel. Apologizing to show your partner after a heated argument will definitely not make you small in his eyes. On the contrary it shows your strong character and undying love to our partner. So just don't let it go, rather device plans to pacify him so that you can full him back.
@sam8pro (376)
• India
6 Oct 10
Well During a quarrel if you are really angry you will not realize what you will endup saying the important thing i guess even during a fight dont cross your limit so that you dont something which causes an irreparable damage...neither allow your partner to do that... and ofcourse later please always be ready to be the first one to take the first step towards making it up ... you are in relationship because you love your partner there is no ego is making it up... thanks :)