I love my husband but

October 6, 2010 3:38am CST
I love my husband. But there is a big but. It seems that love isn't enough. There are always complaints. I guess I am not good enough. Despite the service and being the breadwinner, these are not enough. He says I don't respect. But I do. Whatever. I am in a really foul mood. But nobody knows. It is just here in Mylot that I vent out my real feelings. Nobody knows. I like that idea. I hope it stays that way.
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12 responses
@zoey7879 (3092)
• United States
6 Oct 10
Some people just complain because they have nothing better to do, and don't realize the toll that it takes on others. Others complain .. simply because they lack efficient communication skill. I hope that one, or the both, of those two are the case, because those things can always be improved on. Some men, and women, that I know feel intimidated or feel lower of themselves when they aren't the providers... but without knowing more, Im afraid I cant offer more advice except to say that I hope he is soon able to express some care and concern for you and that your day soon improves.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• United States
6 Oct 10
lower of themelves.... inadequate is the word that escaped my mind at the time I wrote that, sorry.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
7 Oct 10
With a good and maintained communication in marriage and relationship, there's is no better way to solve problems especially if there are too many complaints from the other party. You should sit with him and have a clear talk on what exactly is going on, how you two can make it better, and what kind of thing that you two stop doing. Otherwise when everything becomes more complicated, more arguments will happen, and it will be harder to talk about it. Especially you two are married, there is a greater responsibility there that you two definitely need to handle with good communication and relationship.
• Indonesia
7 Oct 10
falling in love is the beginning of the adventure the most beautiful and challenging. and as an adventure, alove is a challenge which has accepted with courage adn indiscriminate by the spirit of young and old, small and large, and the commoners, and overlord. to be a winner, we must find ourselves the greatness that is caused by love, immediately after the blindness and madness to subside.
@med889 (5941)
7 Oct 10
Sometimes men do not seem to see what we women do in life for them and for the family and sometimes I think they purposely like to do that just because we work like them and we bring food at home, some men really do not like this though!. I also love my boyfriend but there is always the but! As I am the sole one to do the whole households, as he will rarely help me out and this tires me a lot.
@tupeiwei (42)
• China
7 Oct 10
sometimes nobody will know what we are thinking and what we want to do. i really know this feeling, but mine is the relationship with my family. i am always in a bad mood and i only want to stay away from my family, and do everything by myself to show them that i can do well without them and i only want to say that i have grown up. while in some certain time, i missed them, too. it is just in conflict, you know. maybe what i have done ia just to let them see my success and i think they will. maybe you can tell your huaband.
• Philippines
7 Oct 10
Your love are a poppy love in the first you enjoy life but in how many years there are no extension to each i can understand why i am felling good,., in the bf & gf are very exiting love there was a time when your love we don know what we do their have a relation to other,., you see that it is enough,.,.,
• Bulgaria
6 Oct 10
Hello. If your husband make you feel that way not you arent enough good. He isnt enought good for you. Ask him what does meen you dont respect him? What you have to do? Finally may be he must give you more attention. Try to go out whit friends, make a new vision, change your hair coulor, then show them what he can loose.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
7 Oct 10
I also experienced the same thing with you. I'm not doing any resistance. I listen to all my husband's complaint. I received, my husband's complaint, and I told my husband, I will definitely try to do my best.
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
6 Oct 10
I can really relate to you. Whenever I feel like I wanted to reveal something but I don't want any of my friends to know, I preferred expressing it here. We are all strangers so there's no big deal. Whatever your problem/s are concerning your husband, I hope that you both can fix it before it gets worse.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
6 Oct 10
you HAVE TO TALK TO HIM... discuss this situation. if you keep these things to yourself you'll never manage to solve anything, and your couple problems will grow, into many many problems, frustration
• Philippines
6 Oct 10
have you heard the quote "Love without reasons lasts the longest"? when it comes to love, you need not to have any reasons to love the person. you will accept him for who he was, not for what he has. you should also weigh the fact of why your questioning now yourself with "but". if i would be at your place, be calm everytime you have fight, listen to him, dont add fuel to the fire, and speak out what you have in mind and what you feel. in every relationship, both you are the dancers, its just how you dance with your partner, giving and taking. :)
• India
6 Oct 10
cool. every husband and wife loves each other. you said you guess u r not good enough. first of all shed that thought. between the pair, never count the service. the bondage of husband and wife is beyond that. I know one thing pretty well. No husbuand expects respect from their wife, during their personal intimate moment. Only when in society, they expect due to false paradigm. the recent generation doesnt expect that too. they call each other in signular, or by name. Anyway, cool. Pray to God. plan for a second (or third honeymoon). God bless u for more lovable and joyful moments.