Lasting first impressions?

Philippines
October 8, 2010 9:54am CST
We have heard people say that first impressions last. I have had people tell me that I seemed to be a snob because I wouldn't greet them when they see me somewhere else. That's true, I don't greet them because I didn't happen to see them. I am near-sighted, some people just don't know that. It's a misconception of who I am since I am actually friendly. I have also said the same thing about someone else, but in that case, I happened to be right. How were your first impressions of people? Were you proven right or wrong?
1 person likes this
9 responses
• Indonesia
10 Oct 10
oh, I'm sorry to hear that. i think it's not fair to judge you like that. a snob? it's a bad perception about you. i have an idea for you. you can smile anytime, just a simple smile, pure smile. smile can be an instrument to greet someone. trust me, it will help you.
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
It isn't fair at all. Anyway, I just brush it off. I would rather smile at people than say hello to them, but that's only if I kniw they see me. If they don't, I go up to them. But don't you think if I keep on smiling with that person not looking, I'd look a bit foolish?
@kodukodu84 (1576)
• Malaysia
8 Oct 10
Hmmm seems like some people don't really know what that first impression exactly means. Just because they don't know that you are actually having an eye problem, still they should not expect people to automatically see them and greet them everywhere they go. When I go somewhere, I don't look everywhere to see if there is anyone around that I knew and for me to greet Often my own friend before I knew them, They have all made their own guess about my personality and attitude before they communicated with me face to face. Then they admit after talking to me for a while that what they thought was completely wrong. So it was good that they took time to prove their assumption about certain people they know whether they were right or wrong. That is the importance of not judging people we don't know very well, because they only way to know if we were right or wrong is to really get to know the person in person. Happy mylotting
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
I have asked my friends what their first impressions of me were and most of them told me that they really thought I was a snob. lol But they told me they were proven wrong.
• Portugal
8 Oct 10
oh sorry for it :( im sorry that people thought you were snob bcs didnt greet them. but i wish they understood you didnt see them really^^ and that person you thought was snob was snob really so maybe you have a good eye on that^^ about me i sometimes was right^^ other times was wrong^^ anyway im friendly with everyone ^^ i love to smile and talk in a sweet way with people^^ so sometimes i dont know if someone is bad or not^^
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
It got me thinking whether or not I should wear a shirt with a print saying I can't see you if you're not beautiful or handsome. lol
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
10 Oct 10
First impressions can be very lasting if there is not much interraction afterwards. I do try to make a good first impression but not at the cost of hiding who I am. People usually decide within the first few minutes if they like you or not. I am a very open person when it comes to people so I am a little slower to decide if I like someone or not. I usually give everyone a chance but at a certain distance. I have been proven wrong before and have proven people wrong. I also understand that I am not what people usually expect when they first meet me..lol.
• Pakistan
9 Oct 10
well i think you are right.
@sjhaeki (798)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
I never really realize I actually have first impressions on people, until I think about it or asked about it. Though I know what people's first impression of me, guess I'm not that mindful, to me everyone is a stranger. lol. Sometimes, I am right in guessing a person's personality or a part of that personality. when it's bad first impression, after knowing the person, like for example, at first glance the person looks scary but after a while i'd forget about that and see the person as someone not so scary but then if you provoke them they'd go monster on you. however, i don't get too scared of it any more since i already know his/her personality. though i would agree on 'first impression last' that is if I am mindful of it.
• United States
9 Oct 10
I think it is wrong to judge people by your first impression of them. You never know what might be going on in someone else's life, or if they are having an off day. I think it is better to try not to judge until you know the person better, even though we all have a tendency to judge others.
@pogi253 (1583)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
There are some cases where our first impressions prove to be the lasting impressions of a person. Before assessing people and judging them, one should interact and come to know the person fairly well. First impression do tend to make lasting impressions in some cases, but that is only until there is more interaction between two people.
• India
8 Oct 10
well this is a very negative thing about me that during a first impression i look like a very extrovert person who is all time hanging out but those who know me really know that in some matters i am very introvert and there are many things which i will rather think or do alone and will rarely tell until the extrovert wave is going from me. and my nature at first impression seems to be very negative as very frank person but after sometime they got to know that there first impression of me was completely fake and i am much different from what they had thought of.