What happened to your love letters?
By johnpillai
@johnpillai (2082)
Germany
October 12, 2010 8:24am CST
Writing love letters to one's lover in very normal. I thing it is happening all over the world. After starting to live together or after marriage there is no need to write love letters. i like to know what happened to your love letters. how many of you still have them for sweet memories.
My husband and I were separated as lovers for 13 years because of the war in our country. I used to write letters in that period.After my marriage my husband showed a bag full of letters, which I wrote to him, to me. i was so shy to see them and read them again. All with sentimental words. I sat in the middle of the letter mountain, tear them in to pieces and put them into the bin, when my man was not at home. It took only one hour to do this job. now what happened to your love letters after your marriage. do you keep them still.
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11 responses
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
12 Oct 10
I'm not married and i don't write any love letters!!
The reason behind, telephone, Messaging and Internet have become the most reliable thing and they reach faster.
SO Love letters have been erased now days.
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@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
12 Oct 10
Yes you are correct. that didn't strike in my mind. Now a days nobody write letters. i have stop writing letters for my old parents even. the story which i relate is about 11 years old. some times this discussion may suit for elderly people. Thanks for sharing.
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@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
12 Oct 10
Qfey008: Do you think it is useful for others (you). then I will be happy.
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@pemulabanget (142)
• Indonesia
12 Oct 10
I kept a love letter from my ex. It was the only love letter I ever received and it was really heart felt, and she was my first love. Even though I have no feelings for her anymore and I am in an even better relationship, I still won't get rid of it. It has so much meaning, and brings back so many cute memories of when I was in love at 22 years old. I couldn't even dream of throwing it out.
If you have no feelings for your ex and you are happy for him, then keep those notes as your happy memories. Just because you have them doesn't mean you are unhappy in your relationship now at all.
I look back on that letter sometimes and it makes me smile so big, knowing that at that age, I had someone that really cared about me. She was a big part of my life back then and burning that letter wouldn't change that.
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@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
12 Oct 10
He is not my ex. He is my present. As we are living together i thought it is not necessary to keep them. They all are written in a depressed position. now i am happily. So i like to forget the sorrowful past. Separation is realy difficult. I don't like to have it once more.
@prinzcy (32322)
• Malaysia
12 Oct 10
Never write any love letter for my entire life. I guess I am not that romantic enough. The bf or my ex's also never write me any (that's why we are/were a couple) I wonder what will happen to them if I did write any. I've been proven as someone that can keep something for years. I still have my first diary I ever write. So I guess I would still keep them. Until I got married I guess.
@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
12 Oct 10
Thanks for sharing. your's is a good attitude. actually my husband felt a bit uneasy for my action. Those days i was so pleasing and humble aslo. My husband would be happy, if I would a chaming charactor. but I like to be fighter now.
@doormouse (4599)
•
12 Oct 10
i had kept all my love letters from school,until my husband at the time got in a mood and burnt them all,i'd had them about 7 years or so,my ex husband was abusive and got in a mood one day,he took my memories box outside and burnt the lot,i now don't have any,but if i was meant to keep them then i would have done
@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
12 Oct 10
i feel sorry to read this. do you feel for that. Or have wiped away the bitter remembarance and fresh for a new life.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
13 Oct 10
Hi john,
Yes, I too had exchanged a couple of these love letters with my wife before our marriage. We both have them safe and we do read them together at times when we are not feeling easy and comfortable just to refresh the times and memories. At the start every time, we would start laughing because we hesitated so much (even in those letters) to say the three words - I Love You!
They have been a treasure to keep and help us rewind and at times sooth us.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
13 Oct 10
I can understand the pains that you would have experienced and that too for the long 13 year period. I admire you now. These days, people forget everything once they are separated for even 13 months...
We too had a similar situation when I was away to Hyderabad for some assignments and she was here at Bhubaneswar. But I would say that this distance for about an year made us more close to each other. I remember many hours of telephonic conversations between us that brought us much close. Really great memories and worthy treasures.
@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
13 Oct 10
What you say is correct. But my story is a different kind. actually I started my love afair very early. The start of the love was very very supper. those day I need not to write letters. Because we were always together like free birds. That memory was supper. still we remember those early days. But these 13 years, I wanted to forget them. there can be no pleasing memories in separation period.
Yes as you told the memories helps us to refresh the uneasy situations. I also have the same experience. Whenever i have fight with my husbends, I think about his innocent small village childhood. It helps me to refresh the love. But in my case not the letter.
@sweetloveforeve (13106)
• Portugal
12 Oct 10
i dont have any love letters :( never received even one. anyway i wish i could receive someday^^ and i would keep it forever for sure^^ im happy that your hubby kept all your letters^^ it just means that he really loved you so much. 13 years is so long separated and you always waited him thats too cute^^ im happy that you kept your love letters^^ i think it must be saved forever^^ so even old can read and remember sweet memories^^
@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
12 Oct 10
Thankyou very much for your reply. 13 years separation was too difficult to bear. i wanted to forget the memories. But before thea separation I had a happy period. We always remember them together. My love affair didn't start with letters. I need to write letters only in the separation period. I didn't save the letters. He seldom wrote to me. i was the one who wrote hundreds of letter.
I wish you to receive letter soon.
@zoean_arch_27 (297)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I always keep it and tressure it. I want to have it in the rest of my life. This love letters are very important to me.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
12 Oct 10
wow that's a quite a lot of love letters you received and sent. But I think you should not have destroyed them all. They can remain the proof of your love and remind you of the happy moments of youth.
I don't have any love letters as of now. 
I don't have any love letters as of now. @johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
12 Oct 10
Now we are proofing our love in our day to day life. And there are two little living proofs also. How could be there happiness in 13 years separation. Only fight and disputes. Realy i like to forget that bitter separation period. I had a happy period. I was a cute small girl. he was a cute small boy. In our own village. Those days we didn't want to write letters. till my husband and i speak out about our childhood love in our own village. That is supper interesting.
Where are your letters?
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I feel so romantic now
Yes,i still have some love letters written by husband.
He used to draw a card and wrote love letters when there is an occasion in our life.
I had a scrapbook where i put all my souvenirs,cards,letters,photos,tags,dried flowers and etc something that reminds me of someone,events and occasion.
Now,i still have those love letters,waiting for me to read again and feel the love,and maybe i could figure out,where love has gone
Yes,i still have some love letters written by husband.
He used to draw a card and wrote love letters when there is an occasion in our life.
I had a scrapbook where i put all my souvenirs,cards,letters,photos,tags,dried flowers and etc something that reminds me of someone,events and occasion.
Now,i still have those love letters,waiting for me to read again and feel the love,and maybe i could figure out,where love has gone
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
For about 17 years, I held on to the love letters that I made for my husband and the ones that he sent me. But sadly, when we came across some personal issues, he decided to burn all of them, including the voice tape I sent him when we were in College.
@idodatder (39)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I still have mine. do I read them? never thought to until now. I'm 20 so my love letter days are far from over
