"I like you!"

Philippines
October 17, 2010 7:52am CST
Have you ever told that to someone you like? I haven't told a guy I liked that I like him. It's because I am afraid he might reject me and that would be humiliating. I don't want to be rejected, I want to be the one who does the rejecting. lol So what happens is I just wait for them to tell me they like me, and if I like them back, lucky them. If not, well, too bad. =D If you've ever told someone you like how you feel, what was their response? What happened after that?
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@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
19 Oct 10
When I was younger, I am very timid in expressing myself. It is really hard to tell someone you like that you do like him especially if you don't see any chances that he might like you too. But now, I guess I am little vocal with my feelings. I can tell a guy that I like him. I look for a situation where I could find the right time to voice it out. Like I will talk about this one guy who is very nice that will make him think that I like this guy.. most of the times, the guy you like will ask if you like this guy you are talking about.. and I would answer NO, I like you better. : )
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
I am glad you like it! Thanks!
20 Oct 10
Yeah, it is a good one! I'm going to add that to my list.
• Philippines
19 Oct 10
That's a good one! I might try to use that sometime soon.
• India
18 Oct 10
Ya I have told a girl about the fact that how much I liked her. She was stunned when I told this to her. I don't know why did she got so stunned. She mildly refused. I learned that she had a boy friend since 3 or 4 years. But some how I didn't come to know till that time. But for sure, even if I knew about the fact that she had a boy friend, I would have told about my feelings then also. I believe, one should be expressive. If you feel something for someone just go and say to him/her. Expressing your feeling is not bad, instead its a good habit. It all depends on our attitude that how we take the rejections. If you like someone it is not necessary that the opposite person will like you. But it may happen that yo like the person and even the opposite person has a positive feeling for you and days are past, in the confusion that whether I should express my feelings or not. But one thing, I would like to share. I never found a girl then whom I would like and its 3 years past to this.... Ha Ha. Be expressive dear... Best of Luck.
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
Whoa, girl with a boyfriend. Ouch. lol That's okay, at least you were able to tell her how you feel. I am not the expressive person, so people just keep on guessing how I really feel. I know I should try to show them my emotions but I don't know.
• India
18 Oct 10
Be expressive. If you are not gonna be expressive, if you are not able to be express just think what will happen if you express and if you don't express. As I already told above. Assume you love someone and even he loves you. And like you he is also not expressive. Then what will happen. Both of you will live your lives without saying this to each other and later marry a person whom you don't really love. On the other hand assume that you love him and he doesn't love you, then when you tell him about your love at least you come to know that he does not love you. After some days you will get out of his love too. In both the cases expressing yourself gives a result that is good for us. And if you don't tell all your days( not whole life though) will be spent in vain. So believe me and be expressive. And please, if possible for you, please change your pic, it is a very nice pic, but it gives others an impression that you are sad. I don't know about others but I felt like this. But be expressive. Best of Luck once again.
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
You have a really good point. What have I got to lose, right? I will really try to be expressive, just let my feelings flow freely. At the moment though, I have no one special to say my feelings to. And about my profile picture, I am sad. Well, a little bit. I haven't actually 'moved on' from my ex. But I am okay. I love the picture anyway. It reminds me of the first phone theme I made.
@glenn4jd (127)
• India
18 Oct 10
I think this discussion is only meant for girls.... But being a guy I think there is no harm in expressing your feeling to the one u like but your feelings should be true. I have also once been told it too and I thought she is a great and courageous girl, so I accepted her and now we're married, living happily with one lovely son. Don't hesitate to try it, coz you will never know what it might turn out to be. Being rejected is a part of life so don't be ashamed of it. If an opportunity comes just grab it or else someone else might........ GoodLuck.....
19 Oct 10
Well, the way you worded it, it sounded gender neutral, so yeah.
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
I guess it was meant to be for girls. But the guys' opinions count as well. At least we'd have an answer from a guy's point of view. Anyway, maybe I would try that when I fall for a guy whom I really, really care about. But I guess that is still in the far future.
17 Oct 10
Yes, in my life, I told a few girls that I liked them. I try to do it a sweet sincere matter, not in a forceful matter. Rejection does suck, and sometimes it hurts, especially if it's someone that you liked for a long time. The one that bothers me the most just happened a few weeks ago. After a year of crushing on a girl, I decided to man up and tell her that I liked her. I also had the impression that she finally broke up with her boyfriend, so I was pretty confident. I was extremely nervous, and when I finally said, "I like you," she showed her incredible smile. I went on explaining, and she told me that she was still dating the guy that I thought she broke up with. She however, gave me a big wonderful hug, and a thank you. That hit me pretty bad, and I still feel slightly bad today. We are still friends, and because of that incident, we are getting tighter every time we talk to each other; things between us isn't completely over. I still long for her. Don't be afraid of rejection, because rejection might actually make you a braver, more confident person in the long run.
18 Oct 10
Haha, while what you said might be necessarily almost true, some girls I know have more guts then the guy. Girls have it easier, okay :D (well, most of the time.) Most normal guys feel like a train wreck after asking a girl out.
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
It depends, I guess. Girls don't have it easier. We get to wait for the right guy to come along, or we have to make the first move if some of us cannot wait any longer. Not a lot of girls have the confidence to ask the guy they like out.
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
That may be a different thing because you're a guy. But don't take it against me, alright? I just really think that most girls do not have the confidence to tell the guy they like how they feel.
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
i never experience telling a guy that i like him, even if he like me too. i mean am not comfortable and its awkward.
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
I totally agree. It feels kind of awkward and uncomfortable. And it may mean that there is a 50% chance of rejection, though not always.
• Vietnam
17 Oct 10
Well, for me, it's hard to say that even i am a girl. But i did try to say that when i really like a boy when i was in high school. It was ... too difficult, but i did it well ^^.
• Vietnam
18 Oct 10
Thank you. But that was past days. I don't think i can do it now. When i was young, i thought that nothing's impossible. But i grow up, it's not like that. I admire who can do it. Hope U too.
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
It must've been difficult. Not everyone can do that. If you did it well, then, congratulations!
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
I don't think I will ever do it. I mean, I haven't met the guy with whom I am going to confess to. When I do, I hope I succeed.
• United States
17 Oct 10
I've had crushes where they've eventually figured out I liked them w/o me saying it usually thru other people. Typically they don't say much of anything to me either play dumb or ignore me as usual. Sadly I think it's better to wait for a guy to chase you & like you first. Only problem is waiting for someone to respond to your feelings. As I've gotten along with a few guys but always ended up being the "friend" and when I told one once my now hubby came around I told him he wasted his time ignoring me and I had found someone else who is interested in me and not to speak to me again because I can't wait a lifetime for him to figure out that we made a good match no matter how much I hinted.
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
And that's one of the reasons why I don't tell them I like them. It is amazing how they seem to be blind when we were the ones who liked them and then turn out becoming totally stupid when we are with them.
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
i already did. many times actually. there's this guy from my hometown.. we know we like each other and we've been friends for years now. but we never say i love you to each other, to the extent of being into each other 'cause we know it's too much as to what we really feel. we simply like each other, period.. when there's this new person as well that i like, i sometimes tell him that i like him but i should know first how he would possibly take it you know.
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
In that case, that's a good thing. You both know you like each other but you don't want to be more than just friends. At least you get along with that arrangement and no one gets hurt.
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
20 Oct 10
i never asked it. but someone ever guess that i like him. and he is absolutely right. just like not love. and we still continue to be friends right now
@babyanna (1216)
• China
17 Oct 10
Hi,lynlypiochy! Yeah,I have.I don't like waiting for a guy to propose if I really like him.And yeah,being rejected sucks.But it just feels bad for a moment.I mean,what if he thinks you are too good for him that he is not brave enough to tell you that he likes you.I wanna grab the chance even it means I have to risk being rejected,instead of waiting and seeing.Guess I'm kinda brave in that.Hehe. I once liked a boy very much.He is so kind and simply wonderful.But when I told him that I liked him,he said he considered me just as his friend.It was kinda hard for me to get through it,hehe.And it had been very awkward between us.But after several weeks,we gained our friendship back again. So maybe you can try,too.Maybe it won't end up like you expect,but at least you can have a chance,right? Have a nice day!
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
I don't think these kind of stuff are for everyone. I think it really isn't for me. I am not the kind of person who takes risks, so I guess I'm not taking this one.
• Portugal
17 Oct 10
ahah i didnt obvious tell^^ but one guy one day understood that^^ anyway he liked me as friend only^^ anyway is ok to wait that the guy tells us first^^ me too i was waiting that maybe he could like me and tell me that but was too obvious and he understood that^^ anyway about you is ok if a guy rejected you. bcs you just were telling your feelings^^ if you like a guy and wait for some time and he doesnt say nothing is bcs maybe he doesnt see you as gf but if you tell him you like him maybe he can start to see you in a different way^^ and maybe can like you^^ so you can wait sure but if after a long time the guy doesnt say nothing is ok that you tell him^^
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
I don't tell them at all. They just somehow understand and sometimes we try to see if it works but if it obviously doesn't, then we don't force it. Anyway, as I said, some things just aren't for some people. I think this one just isn't for me.
• Philippines
17 Oct 10
So do I. I never ever in my whole entire life mention to a guy that I like him no matter how much I liked him. Filipina portrays a conservative characteristic, therefor it's not a girl thing to express to a guy how we feel for him.
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
That is true. If Filipinas were going to tell some guy that she likes about how she feels, she gets labeled as a flirt or something much worse.
• United States
26 Oct 10
I look for hits that they like me or i drop hits that they won't notice to see how they react. this way i know with some idea if they might like me or not, but for the most part people tell me they like me i ten to not talk much, i like to listen.
• United States
17 Oct 10
I told a boy i liked him and he just said ok and walked off.It was 9 years ago i told him.To this day i still think he liked me too but was just afraid to tell me because we were friends.I guess he didnt want to mess up our friendship. Like i said i still dont know.
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
Wow. Are you still friends today? Do you guys still talk?
• United States
18 Oct 10
I have told someone that I liked them, but it felt like a slap in the face to them. I couldn't say that I loved them because I didn't love that person. I know what love is, and I have been in love, and I have been with the man that I am in love with for three years now. After I told the guy that I liked him, I explained that I didn't feel that I was the woman for him and I didn't think that he was the right guy for me, basically, "let's see other people". I think that he wanted me to say that I loved him, but I didn't feel it, and if I don't feel it, then I won't say it.