Would you enjoy your life first, or work for it later?

United States
October 21, 2010 8:29pm CST
A friend of mine is a newly wed, and he did spend a lot of money for his wedding. An estimate around $30,000 for the wedding ceremony and the festivity. Also, he spent money for the wedding photos, which he didn't disclosed to me. Also, he spend around $10,000 with his bride for the honeymoon in Europe for 2 weeks. So, accumulated around 40 to 50 grands conservatively. Now he is back, and he told me that he had to take care of the rent, and he is still living in an apartment. I told him, if he can sacrifice all these, with that much money, he could possibly pay for a foreclosure home with a big down payment already. The rest of it, you might only borrow a loan for 15 years with very low interest rate. Maybe he is right, enjoy your life first, otherwise you might not have another chance. What do you think of it?
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10 responses
• Malaysia
22 Oct 10
That really depends on the person. I've known quite a few people who would rather spend the money on a good wedding and work towards getting a home later. I've also know people who managed to juggle both a great wedding and owning their first home at the same time. For me, I'd rather live in an apartment with my husband and spend all the money on an awesome honeymoon. If I had a wedding, it would be limited to just my parents and their siblings, no second, third cousin nonsense. Friends and family who want to wish me can do so at the hen night the night before.
• United States
22 Oct 10
I guess different people have different wants and needs in their life. They want an awesome memory for lifetime. Some people would rather settle down, and have a stable home first. That is personal preference.
• Malaysia
22 Oct 10
Yeah, it's very much personal preference.
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
For me as a student, I would prefer to have a work. Working student is hard but I must have a work to earn money and have an experience in working and what it looks like to be a working student. I'd like to work first to earn money and after that will the time to enjoy my life like traveling around the world.
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
22 Oct 10
i would like to think doing the other way around. it's not that i'm enjoying my life right now but i'm taking things on a daily basis.. i think of the future but we all know there are things that are things that we can no longer control no matter what we do. but i try to balance everything just to get through life in general..
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
22 Oct 10
I wouldn't want to do one without the other. i would like to enjoy life while i was working. i wouldn't want enjoyment to have to be my reward for working. i would want both together.
@Yada25 (44)
22 Oct 10
well, It depends on the purpose of your spending. For me, I would like to enjoy my life too but it have to be balance. It is good to have a really nice wedding because it is something that you want to do it only one time and you want to best and also honeymoon. But I will make a bit of balance to don't have problem later. Because if you happy for 2 weeks and 15 years after you have to worry about the house everyday it mays not a good idea.
• India
22 Oct 10
different people have different needs and responsibilities and priority in life..amount of money needed depends upon family needs and persons need..i think we should enjoy life first
• Philippines
22 Oct 10
I think you can do both.you can work and enjoy your life at the same time.I think the best things in life are free.unless I am or I would marry a rich guy,spending hueg amounts of money on my weddings is absurd.I would actually enjoy more if,after my wedding and honeymoon,we can go to our own place we call home and not worry about rent.
@hushi22 (4928)
22 Oct 10
i would like to enjoy while working. =) nah....i think i do both.
22 Oct 10
yes Ive been enjoy my life first,,whats is work if life is messirable,,you should enjoy your life ,,,
@gemawei (18)
• China
22 Oct 10
As far as i am concerned different people have different choice when facing marriage.Just as mentioned it is absolutely depends on the person,some peole are the rich while some are the poor,some peole are luxurious while some are economical.so how to operate just depend on their ecnomic situation and vaiues.Different peole have different outlook on life.some people perhaps like to make merry while he or she can while some others like to economize to avoid running short and to calculate carefully and budget strictly.Maybe your friend think that marriage just have one time in life ,so to take it seriously.But if i am to marry i will watch my spending and tighten my belt,make every penny count and cut the frills,i have to pinch and scrape to make both ends meet and do not lay out that kind of money.I would be keep track of our expenses closely and control our budget carefully in order to live more economically.