Are you scared

HI GABS, I'm sorry u are ecperiencing this fear. I really don't think about dying that much. Our children will cope w/it just like we have had to. I think my grandson would miss me more than anybody else would. Hope u feel better soon. big hugs.

I think that everyone whether they admitt it or not has a fear of dying. It pretty much is the fear of the unknown. Think of it this way, we don't know when we're going ot die un;ess you have a terminal illness and even then it's unknown. Then add on the fact we don't know how or if it'll hurt. Then there's the emotional factor. Will anyone misd me, is there an afterlife, will I have kids how old would they be and will they be ok? In my honest opinion I don't feel that dying should be a worry because eventually we all will eventually. It's how we spend our life now that counts. If I'm happy throughout my life I will die happy. I beleive that there's an after life or reincarnation. Therefor we're not really gone.

I'm afraid of it, but not immediately afraid, if that makes any sense.

I would guess that fear of dying was a way that your body expressed it's stress many years ago. My thoughts on this are lists. Write down exactly what you fear and then take a long hard look at these and write down a solution for each. This will force your mind from the irrational response to a rational one. Hope this works. Blessings

I faced a lot of what you are talking about the last few weeks as I had open heart surgery, a double pass one. We tend to think of all the crap like are we going to be eaten by bugs in the ground............ The best we can do is get hold of ourselves and make life good for those who love us, like your kids. Showing these fears only serves to make our loved ones think we are over the edge or want pity. I , for one, don't want that. I want my family to like me!!! hugs and hang in there, quita

Hiya gabs, I can feel for you too. This is a late response as I have written to you in much more up to date responses. Anxiety Attacks are very tricky they play with your mind that´s all. Even if you feel very ill. My Mom had a few too, but I was able to calm her down enough. She would only eat if I made the meal for her and her Cups of Tea too. How are you now in your new Flat. Hope you are not in so much pain and not so worried and much more relaxed. That´s my gal all strong again.

I'm so sorry Gabs that your going through all this crap. Its just not fair. I try not to think about dying. In some ways dying scares me in other ways it doesn't. I don't want to die, I have too much to do yet with my life. I don't want to leave my family. I understand why you would be feeling this way. You have been under a temendous amount of stress. Your health, trying to find a safe place to live, it all adds up. Somehow, someway you will get through all this. Keep you head up, keep the faith, continue to say your prayers. Put in a prayer request for all of us here at mylot, we would be glad to pray for you. In fact I just said a prayer for you. Take care hun, sending lots of gentle hugs...

I have no fear of dying. I don't want to die any time soon but I know I did my best raising my kids, I lived my life as best as I could. There is more I could do and if given the time, I will get some of it done. Gabs, what you have described I think many of us have thought about at one time or another. We can not know the future or the inner strength of our loved ones.

Here's the thing: the more you think about it, the worse the fear will become. So a word of advice. F'get about it. Force yourself not to contemplate the topic. Find a hobby. Get busy. Become happy. Once you become free of the obsession, then re-approach the topic in small increments. Take it slow. Realize there is something more than just the physical.

so sorry friend. im only scared of like what you said, my kids missing me, is it going to hurt really bad fighting for breath. but ive also been reading about reincarnation and am to the point where i think once the tough part is over, it should be happy, happy after that. anyway, im not going to rot. the kids are intructed to have me cremated and the ashes joined with my John, love of my life that i still have with me.

Oh Gabs! You have got to get a hold of yourself! You are not going to die! We aren't going to have any of that! We all love you way to much, and what would poor Gissi do without you? It is just your mind playing tricks on you! I think I am going to die all the time, but must admit I have never gone so far as to thinking about being put into the ground! I would certainly freak out for sure! You are going to be fine. It is just that all the things you are going through is just too much for you to deal with right now. You have so many people that love you and care about you, besides you children and Gissi! You have to hold yourself together for them at least! You can not let this moronic landlord azzhole do this to you! You are going to find a nicer place to live for you and Gissi where you will still be near your new friends and Gissi's. Just try to hold on because we all love you so much! I am here for you, as so many others are and praying that this will soon be "fixed". I loved Gabs. Love, Les

I am sorry yo hear that

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