The 7 year itch
By charlesming
@charlesming (1865)
Singapore
November 18, 2006 4:31am CST
Regardless of being married or just being with a partner, how does one cope with the dreaded 7 year itch? How would one keep the spark going after being together for say 20 years and beyond. To deal with the progressive changes through different stages in life and all, how do you cope, and what is it that is important to you at that stage.
Those who have not reached that stage yet pls feel free to comment though!:)
5 responses
@Faye88 (1009)
• Singapore
18 Nov 06
I don't think it takes that time to happened it can happen anytime.If love fade it just does .It does take two to clap so does this thing call relationship.You have to keep the sparks going everyday not just till then or it will be too late or even difficult to rekindle that.Both have to work on that to maintain relationship or it will not be a couple thing anymore.It like no difference as when you are alone.Communication is vital + lots of care and love.There are couples out there who love only each other so much that there will be no one to be replaced.No one can change that even if there is or there is no seven year each.
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@charlesming (1865)
• Singapore
26 Nov 06
i guess love doesnt show itself in just one or two forms. when 2 people just got together, it is a lot different than 10 years down the road. one of my friends used to say a good way to keep a relationship going is to keep each other interested in the other. something new to learn about the other, for example.
things like being able to complete sentences and pre-emp thoughts just freaks her out
@charlesming (1865)
• Singapore
26 Nov 06
woah. hahaa... yeh i do agree. but there is a 'risk' also. my mom used to tell me, one should not date for too long. if you both feel you are settled down enough then just get married. too long a dating makes the girl insecure and the guy bored and it could end quite badly..
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
25 Nov 06
I have been married for almost 16 years and thank God neither off us got the seven year itch as they call it. We love and respect each other and I think that helps and both of us knowing if we mess up that we will lose something special that we may never find again with someone else. Sometimes the seven year itch is caused by maybe a person not being satisfied with the way their relationship is going or it's has changed and not what they expected it to be and go try to find that feeling again with someone else. But if a person is happy in their marriage and satisfied then they won't be looking for another person to scratch that itch they will have the one they love do it..
@mansha (6298)
• India
19 Nov 06
I think 7 year itch is a myth we never had tht been married 14 years now.Nothing to dread about.Keep loving your partner and keep exploring eac other enjoy parenthood support each other through illness,difficult times,pregnancy and ypu will never come to know where the time flew.When I look back I find it amazing married to same person for 14 years it seems like yesterday when we were dating.
@cachitodemialma (1313)
• United States
24 Nov 06
my fiance and I are going on 7 years in feb...what we do is we still go on "dates" and we still do fun stuff! We make time to have fun alone as well as with our kids. We talk alot too...when he finds interesting stuff he tells me about it. We find things we like todo & we do them together as corny as it may sound :]
