Controlling Children For Study Habbit...

@visavis (5945)
Philippines
October 28, 2010 4:26am CST
Hi there mylotter friends. Every parents knows that children are lovers of playing, watching TV, running around and others, few children are lovers of studying and decipline. What is the right idea to change your children to study habbit instead of other way around. Is it better to controlling them saying "do that and do this, do not do that and so on" or compromise with them saying if you study hard and your grade up I will give this and this or what is your way to do that? Share with us and learn from.... see you around..
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10 responses
• China
28 Oct 10
hello , friend. glad to hear your subject here. so interesting things to find this questions. but it is so hard to let our children to have a habit of studying . what should we do ? whenever i let our children to study harder and harder , but they all said that they are tired from classroom . so being a father , i have to let them have a good rest. how should i do for this ? thank you .
• United States
28 Oct 10
That is because they feel that studying is a task to be done. Don't ever pushed them hard to study especially if they are still young. Let them enjoy. What I do with my students before is color any page of the book and afterwards we are going to proceed our lesson. I start teaching with a song or a game so that they will be ready to learn more. Or start a story on why studying is good for everybody.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
You know for me the best thing to guide our children to do something inside our will is to make our good relationship and gain respect from your children. So try to be open in all aspect of action between you and your children, children must realized and recognized your position as parent to gain respect. Avoid aguing with them and try to compromising using promises, and try to tell the good result of having good grades. Avoid forcing them and yeiling them... see you around
@jharia20 (365)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
If i where you i will use reverse psychology, children are weak on that matter :) insisted of saying do this and do that why not just tell them to play all day long. I'm sure they will be the first one to stop playing and then study :) just try it :)
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
Hmmm I think good your idea, thanks anyway. It is includes also in compromising... see you around
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
It's kinda scary to try, but I guess the child will learn somehow. It'll probably take days to try this method. Of course a child lives for playtime. They'd probably just go to sleep when they get tired and when they come home from school, they'll start playing again. Sounds good though when they start getting tired and you urge them to play some more. lol..
@pogi253 (1587)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
Study habits may differ from child to child, every child needs a special study habit. I've been tutoring my two cousins and have realized that each of them have different listening and studying skills. You have to consider how long they can study and actually listen to what you are saying. It would be useless for you to be lecturing if he/she is incapable of listening. it also applies to his/her studying skills, you can't expect a child to study for 2 hours every night or even just for 1 hour in some cases, right? And it can get worse. Children are very prone to some influences from the outside environment that may change their mind in their study habit. Make sure you instill in their mind that what they are doing is good for them and is special only for them. Other children may be doing other stuff that they are not doing, and sometimes incapable of doing, that may attract them in changing their ways.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
Ok that is another way how to change children their habbit. I think this is not sure fire ways to change... see you around
@mmaine29 (13)
• United States
29 Oct 10
To me I love the approach of "If you do good by me then I will do good by you". If you don't do good by what is right there are consequences meaning if you love to play that Xbox, look at TV, or like going outside playing with your friends etc. your gonna have to abide by my study and discipline rules. Believe me it works magic unless your kid just don't give two cents then that's another story.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
I think if you do that your children will make the say way in their children. I think "responsibility" is the best for this. If you can guide our children to have responsible to their life they can do good. You suggestion is little bit danger..
@angelic123 (1112)
• United States
28 Oct 10
Kids are not robot. You can not tell tell to do this and do that. Maybe what you can do it create a schedule with them. Ask them what time they want to play and what time they want to study. Let them negotiate with you. This will let your kids feel that they have freedom tho choose what they want instead of being dictated or force to do something. Doing that schedule with them will help them to learn about responsibility. Don't always give them reward neither punishment. Give them those if they truly deserves it, because if you do that they will be conditioned to it. The essence of being responsible and the eagerness to study will be clouded with their desire for reward. And as they are conditioned to that expectations about reward will rise up too. Give reward and punishment in moderation. And make studying habit fun too. Maybe you can start with a question or a song that you can relate to their lessons.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
Wow this is the best response now I received with full and complete suggestion. Keep up the good works. I hope from this response others will see how their children guide to the right path.. see you around
@yna410 (431)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
I think it depends on the family's situation. Strict controlling may not be the best strategy for children to have good study habits. If parents will always dictate what their children need and should do all the time, it may be unhealthy for the kids. They may take it negatively or may not help them develop certain traits like leadership, initiative, etc. There are children who know or understand the importance of balancing their studies and play time as long as they are guided properly and encouraged to study well. Parents should show their children their full support. Their presence is very important and they have to think of creative ways to stir the curiosity of their kids and keep them interested to learn and study more. Eventually, they will develop good study habits. Parents should give their kids time to play and enjoy their childhood because it's part of growing up. They also learn and discover things while they play. For those who have hard-headed or stubborn children who haven't improved, strict controlling may be of big help. But parents should still be cautious and sensitive to their kids needs and feelings to avoid any misunderstanding or further problems. =)
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
Yes agree with you and go ahead, good result will prevail.. see you around
• United States
28 Oct 10
My daughter is not the book worm I wish she was. I would never get her to be no matter what I did. So,to get her to keep her graades up. I would give her cash for her grades on her report card. I ould give hera $20 for every a,and 10$ for every b and nothing for anythig lower.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
Yes, that is a good idea and action, but sorry I have a little bit doubt because in that situation your daugther like she study hard may be because of money, then later on she become depend on it. Meaning prostration would be resulted if something happened in her grade like not achieved.. there what do you think no danger?
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
i guess we parents need to stick to our grounds. my mother always stick to it when we are younger. we are 5 kids, 3 guys and 2 girls. me and a brother next to me were disasters. but my mom hide our toys were we can not find it and me and my brother are forced to be good or else we can not play with it anymore. during those time it was game and watch are the craze. so we make sure we follow rules and do our chores and study before mom gives what we want. to please her was the key. kids needs to know who is the boss. when the toy is there for them easy access then they will abuse it. you need to tell them rules that they need to follow then you will give their playing time. my child is only 4 years old but my wife makes rules already, it is not bad for it makes our child knows that there are certain rules he needs to follow and we give price if he is a good boy.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
Yes but I little bit dictator type becuase of rules and regulation. In that situation let say your wife not around might be your children think our mother gone so we do whatever we do... but in a democratic and compromising and promising type I think better result... What do you think? see you around
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
You can do a rewards system instead of allowing them to play all they want let them study first and tell them they can play afterwards. You can also motivate by giving them something when they did good in school, for example if they got a high score in a test recognize that by giving them a time for playing like their favorite online games. You can also make some discipline as of which days watching TV is allowed like Fridays and Sundays and mean it. Hope these can help.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
See this is informative and we can use as guide for our children... rewarding system...
• India
11 Nov 10
There is no necessity to force them nor there a necessity to show them rewards to study.... Giving rewards is ofcourse a good way... But that should not become a habit to them..... Just making them understand that studies is one of the most important things in life will help it for sure.... You might just want to make them understand how it is to grow up and be successful in life....