Controlling Children For Study Habbit...

hello , friend. glad to hear your subject here. so interesting things to find this questions. but it is so hard to let our children to have a habit of studying . what should we do ? whenever i let our children to study harder and harder , but they all said that they are tired from classroom . so being a father , i have to let them have a good rest. how should i do for this ? thank you .

If i where you i will use reverse psychology, children are weak on that matter :) insisted of saying do this and do that why not just tell them to play all day long. I'm sure they will be the first one to stop playing and then study :) just try it :)

Study habits may differ from child to child, every child needs a special study habit. I've been tutoring my two cousins and have realized that each of them have different listening and studying skills. You have to consider how long they can study and actually listen to what you are saying. It would be useless for you to be lecturing if he/she is incapable of listening. it also applies to his/her studying skills, you can't expect a child to study for 2 hours every night or even just for 1 hour in some cases, right? And it can get worse. Children are very prone to some influences from the outside environment that may change their mind in their study habit. Make sure you instill in their mind that what they are doing is good for them and is special only for them. Other children may be doing other stuff that they are not doing, and sometimes incapable of doing, that may attract them in changing their ways.

Kids are not robot. You can not tell tell to do this and do that. Maybe what you can do it create a schedule with them. Ask them what time they want to play and what time they want to study. Let them negotiate with you. This will let your kids feel that they have freedom tho choose what they want instead of being dictated or force to do something. Doing that schedule with them will help them to learn about responsibility. Don't always give them reward neither punishment. Give them those if they truly deserves it, because if you do that they will be conditioned to it. The essence of being responsible and the eagerness to study will be clouded with their desire for reward. And as they are conditioned to that expectations about reward will rise up too. Give reward and punishment in moderation. And make studying habit fun too. Maybe you can start with a question or a song that you can relate to their lessons.

To me I love the approach of "If you do good by me then I will do good by you". If you don't do good by what is right there are consequences meaning if you love to play that Xbox, look at TV, or like going outside playing with your friends etc. your gonna have to abide by my study and discipline rules. Believe me it works magic unless your kid just don't give two cents then that's another story.

I think it depends on the family's situation. Strict controlling may not be the best strategy for children to have good study habits. If parents will always dictate what their children need and should do all the time, it may be unhealthy for the kids. They may take it negatively or may not help them develop certain traits like leadership, initiative, etc. There are children who know or understand the importance of balancing their studies and play time as long as they are guided properly and encouraged to study well. Parents should show their children their full support. Their presence is very important and they have to think of creative ways to stir the curiosity of their kids and keep them interested to learn and study more. Eventually, they will develop good study habits. Parents should give their kids time to play and enjoy their childhood because it's part of growing up. They also learn and discover things while they play. For those who have hard-headed or stubborn children who haven't improved, strict controlling may be of big help. But parents should still be cautious and sensitive to their kids needs and feelings to avoid any misunderstanding or further problems. =)

i guess we parents need to stick to our grounds. my mother always stick to it when we are younger. we are 5 kids, 3 guys and 2 girls. me and a brother next to me were disasters. but my mom hide our toys were we can not find it and me and my brother are forced to be good or else we can not play with it anymore. during those time it was game and watch are the craze. so we make sure we follow rules and do our chores and study before mom gives what we want. to please her was the key. kids needs to know who is the boss. when the toy is there for them easy access then they will abuse it. you need to tell them rules that they need to follow then you will give their playing time. my child is only 4 years old but my wife makes rules already, it is not bad for it makes our child knows that there are certain rules he needs to follow and we give price if he is a good boy.

You can do a rewards system instead of allowing them to play all they want let them study first and tell them they can play afterwards. You can also motivate by giving them something when they did good in school, for example if they got a high score in a test recognize that by giving them a time for playing like their favorite online games. You can also make some discipline as of which days watching TV is allowed like Fridays and Sundays and mean it. Hope these can help.

There is no necessity to force them nor there a necessity to show them rewards to study.... Giving rewards is ofcourse a good way... But that should not become a habit to them..... Just making them understand that studies is one of the most important things in life will help it for sure.... You might just want to make them understand how it is to grow up and be successful in life....