Have you been told you're not the kind of lover he's looking for?

I think if someone admits this to you it is because they are dissatisfied with themselves. they may not even know what it is that they want in a lover. Don't take the burden of guilt on yourself. it is the other person who needs to come to terms.

Ouch. Yeah, I have experienced this. 2 weeks ago he told me I wasn't the girl he was looking for. I cried a lot after that. But I am fine now. I don't need a guy to run my life. That's why I don't base my happiness from him and I choose my career.

I have thankfully never been told this, but I would hope if someone feels compelled to tell their lover that at least they are a bit subtle about it. As sometimes couples need to grow within the bed area and learn each others wants and needs. so hopefully anyone having experienced this was told in a nice way and or perhaps was also willing to learn other pleasing methods.