How to cope with longingness?

Philippines
October 30, 2010 5:17am CST
I was assigned here in this very strange place, this is my new world. Now my problem is I really miss my home. I long to go back in my place. What I should do to cope up from these longings?
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@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
30 Oct 10
You could perhaps have regular contact with your relatives and friends at home. I suggest that you make new friends in your current location. In time it won't feel so strange for you. I think that you could get some lovely posters to decorate your accommodation with. When I was a student in a halls of residence I got some travel brochures and cut out some pictures of tropical islands. I made them into a tropical style wall covering. I hope that you will get familiar with your new area. Maybe you could try to find out about nearby local attractions like a museum, art gallery, beach, forest or mountain range. Good luck.
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• Philippines
5 Nov 10
i want to contact them but my phone is damaged and i can't email them that much because i'm kind of busy in my work. i really miss them so much
@tkonlinevn (6362)
• Vietnam
4 Nov 10
You can try to love around people. Because you'll live with them for a long time. And this can help you in your jobs.
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
I tried it but somehow it doesn't work all the time. Still I'm longing to go home.
@greenline (14838)
• Canada
30 Oct 10
I understand your feelings. I have been assigned to new places too. I work for a company which is doing business internationally. So, I get assigned to places where I have never been to. I really had to sruggle to stay active. But, after a few months, I get adjusted to the place, the environment, and the culture, and felt quite comfortable. So, don't worry, you will be alright after a few months too.
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
I hope I could also adjust faster like you. How did you adjust that fast?
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Oct 10
Well Abhish, Sorry to hear about your problems and I believe that this is your first job away from home. In life at your age there are two options - stay where you are and find out a means to make your life - you get both of the worlds. the second - move away from your place to make a better life. I think you have opted the second one and so you have to be strong. These things of being lonely are for the initial days. As you get accustomed to the new place I believe that you would start enjoying more and be happier. For the time being, if that is a big place try spending time finding out new things about the place like a tourist when you are free and have time to spare. Also try making friends at workplace and visiting them on holidays or Saturday evenings. Lastly do call up home but keep reducing the number of calls per week as that way you would stay away from being reminded of your people back home. Hope that helps Cheers, theSids.
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
I'm making friends already but still I could compare them from my friends home. I still miss my old friends and right now I'm not hanging out with new friends because I just don't like it. I still want to be home but because of my job, I think I should stay here for longer time. OH, I really hate it I'm home sick!!!
• United States
30 Oct 10
Oh so sorry to hear of your homesickness, it happens to a great many people when they are so use to having lots of family and friends around. Try as much as you can to either IM, Skpye, texting and or emailing all loved one from home. Although it will not compensate for the ill feelings at least you will have some form of communication. In the meantime develop some form of hobby while you are away, and venture out a bit so that you can start meeting new people. This will help with the lonely hours. Maintain yourself as busy as you can and soon you will find that it is not so bad and when you are able to return back it will make life that much more pleasant to re-visit all your loved one. Please feel free to exhale all your feelings here and we can all try to be a bit comforting. God Bless and I wish you well.
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
Hey, last night, I actually started writing stories and just this morning before going to the office, I went to the sea side and draw the ship. It's really fun when you have something to do because that diverts your attention but just this moment I already miss my friends because I don't have news about them and also my family.
• Philippines
31 Oct 10
Don't worry too much about it abish. Just enjoy yourself there. I know that you will like your new workmates and I'm sure you won't find it hard to be their friends. I will miss you. Good luck. Take take. I will be waiting for someday to see you again.
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
Mackenz...I miss home so much!!!
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
Sorry to hear that. I guess you have a very strong will to survive being homesick. It would take you a couple of weeks to get use to it and soon you will feel better. You have a goal why you are there, right? Focus on your job and get the chance to enjoy the type of living in that new place together with living away from home. Get busy with work and find time for yourself to enjoy time with friends. ^_^
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
I have to be strong, that's the best thing to do as of now. I've met new friends here but we're not that so close to each other. I wish I can go home now.