If you can't have a happy ending, would you then settle for a happy pre-ending?
October 31, 2010 5:50am CST
When your relationship is headed to its imminent end, should you just call it quits right away, stop fooling yourself, move on and hope the pain goes away soon? Do you still fight for it knowing all is in vain, clinging to the littlest bit of hope that everything will still turn out okay? Or do you enjoy the last days you'll be together, have a blast and celebrate remembering the times you were together, be thankful that even though it's not going to end the way you wanted, you're still glad you were there for each other, have experienced love, and have shared wonderful memories with this person you may still love? I'm choosing the third option. My soon-to-be-ex and I are going on our best vacation trip yet and that will be our "happy pre-ending." For me, really it's not surprising. I've always believed that the journey is much more worth than the ending, and I live my life with no regrets, especially when it comes to decisions I make in my relationships. Still, there are times that this growing sadness I feel is letting slip this thought luring at the back of my mind that all I'm doing is a hapretending (happy pretending). That I shouldn't waste anymore time and instead start with the healing process and hope that maybe someday I'll still have a shot at that happiness when I find the person truly meant for me. But knowing myself, I'm gonna go through this. One last wonderful experience I can spend with someone I love, will never be a wasted time. It is what I live for.
30 Oct 12
Hello silentwill. I am very happy to know about the settlement for a happy pre-ending of yours, which is so positive in mind. It reminds me of my ex-girlfriend two decades ago. We did not part happily, but with an unpleasant and painful memory to me only. Anyway, let the bygones be bygones. I am now living a very happy life with a happy family. Live your life to the full, silentwill.
31 Oct 10
I would settle for a happy pre-ending if I truly believed that ending the relationship is the best way. At least, you won't have to walk away with as heavy as a heart than you already have to. This is accepting that although inside the relationship, you cannot fit, in each other's viewpoint you both still remain worthy people of that chance that you had.