How many kids do you want to have?

Vietnam
November 8, 2010 6:41am CST
Nowadays, almost people don't want to have many kids. Because life is more difficult than before. The cost for a child is quite expensive. But I still want to have some kids. I love 3 kids after I would get married. Children is very wonderful! How about you?
12 responses
8 Nov 10
Children are wonderful, but they are very hard work and you turn into a worrying parent. I have two daughters, but when I was younger I didn't really want to have children. Then I fell in love, got married and having a child seemed like a natural progression. When my first daughter was born almost ten years ago now, I decided that one child was enough and my husband agreed. However, my husband then decided to change his mind and we now have a very cheeky 2 year old. But certainly this is the point where we stop. I have found the change from being a career minded and rather selfish to becoming a full time mother very difficult. I can understand why people are deciding not to have children now a days; the world is in such a mess and I do fear for the future of my children, but all I can do is bring them up the best I can and educate them as much as possible so they can make the best of themselves in the future.
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• Vietnam
9 Nov 10
Almost people here also have a progressing like you. Don't you want to have a little boy in your family? I always like boy :)
• United States
9 Nov 10
I've actually never wanted children. It really has nothing to do with the state of the world and only a little bit to to do with the cost. I'm sure in 5-10 years I could have enough to raise a child, I just don't want to to. I have no instinct or desire to have a child and I never have. Not to mention the absolute horror that is pregnancy.
• Vietnam
11 Nov 10
Are you a woman? I think that all women have instinct to have a baby. You can contact much with children. You maybe know more about your mummy instinct.
• United States
11 Nov 10
I am a woman and I have absolutely no mothering instinct whatsoever. In fact the very idea makes my skin crawl and my stomach churn. I don't even like being around children, or for that matter pregnant women. Not all women have a "mummy instinct", there are many women who never want children and never have children and live full happy lives because of it. It's called a childfree lifestyle.
@doormouse (4619)
9 Nov 10
i have 3 kids,but i only planned on having 2,the third was an accident,if i liked being pregnant then i would have loads of kids,but i don't,that's why i was going to stuck to 2,after the third i had my tubes cut,so definatly no more little surprises
• Vietnam
11 Nov 10
I can say that is a cute accident, right? :)
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@doormouse (4619)
11 Nov 10
my 3rd is 9 and still does'nt sleep through the night,so at 3am he isn't a cute accident,lol
• Mauritius
8 Nov 10
i'd love to have 3 kids too though with the salary i'm getting and the salary of my boyfriend, it seems irresponsible to do so.. we don't know but we talked about it and we have to have greater income to be able to cope with life nowadays
• Canada
8 Nov 10
I'd like to thank you on behalf of the entire world for carefully considering whether or not you can afford to have a child before you go ahead and actually have one. It is so sad to see people who struggle working three jobs just to keep a roof over their heads, and as a result their children are neglected, fall behind in school, and often end up getting into trouble with the law.
• Vietnam
9 Nov 10
I understand your worries. But I want to say that we often worry about many things so we don't dare to do what we like. We often scare future and don't reach to ahead. If I want to have 3 kids, of course I must have some preparations to greeting them.
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
9 Nov 10
You are right, it is very hard to raise too many kids these days. I also wanted to have only 3 kids and that is with proper spacing as well. That i am sure i get to raise my kids well and they won't be seeking much attention when each one is born.
• Vietnam
9 Nov 10
I realize that almost people want to have 3 kids. But finance is a problem which we must think about much. We want our kids were cared carefully in the future. So, we don't dare born many kids.
• Thailand
9 Nov 10
well, i want to have 2 kid. i will love kid very much. i don't want to have 3. it illegial in our country. just 2 is enough mate.
• Vietnam
9 Nov 10
I wish your dream will come true. 2 kids are also good and they'll make you happy.
• Canada
8 Nov 10
I always wanted to have three boys. My first child turned out to be a girl, and I love her more than anything! My husband and I are torn right now over having more children -- we both love kids and wouldn't mind a houseful, but there are finances to consider, as well as the fact that I had a lot of complications with this first pregnancy and delivery, so we don't know if we want to put me through that again.
• Vietnam
9 Nov 10
If you'll be influenced by having more kid, you should consider carefully. If not, you'll meet more difficult when the second kid run out.
@nanayangel (7839)
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
Hi there TK Online VN! You're right. With our economy today, we have better opportunities on providing the need of our children and more if we have less of them. That is one of the major reasons why until now, we still have our son as our only child. We're planning to have another one after I graduate from college, though, but still, I think two is reasonable enough.
• Vietnam
9 Nov 10
I wish you could do any things you want. And your son is well. I think that 2 kids is enough but I still like to have 3 kids :)
@Xansus (950)
• Bulgaria
23 Nov 10
Its early for me but i think 2 is best :P Since i'm a only child its lonely work being only child :) At maximum 3 but i think its starting to get too much .
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
I would love to have 2 or more children; They are the future of the next Generation.. and even if they might be costly, the joy and privilege to nurture a life will be worth every penny. Having children should never come as a second thought to anyone... because to become a parent is the hardest occupation any Human being can accomplish. Not everyone can become one; Not everyone can be a good One... We can only try our hardest.
@maximax8 (27368)
• United Kingdom
21 Nov 10
I am a primary school teacher. I have always wanted to have children and wondered when it would happen for me. Before I had my children I thought having two children close in age would be ideal. I wished to have a baby girl and then two or three years later a baby boy. Children are expensive and I am very keen on traveling over Life worked out differently for me. I had my first son born when I was 22 years old. My marriage lasted just six years and then I got divorced. Then I had been busy with my career and missed out on having anymore children. I felt so disappointed that I hadn't got a daughter. Years later I got into another relationship. I ended up getting pregnant again and hoped I was going to the daughter that I have always wanted. At 16 weeks pregnancy had a gender scan and they said I was having a baby boy. Then at 36 weeks pregnancy found out he was a disabled boy. He was born when I was 34 years old. Last year my wish of having a daughter was granted. My baby girl was born when I was 36 years old. So now I have three children: two sons and a daughter. It makes me very happy to have three such wonderful children. I am happy with the number of children I have got now.
@gjax57 (897)
• United States
11 Nov 10
I always wanted a bunch of kids but only had 2. After now dealing with my Grandchildren whom I adore when their at their best behavior, I'm glad I only had the 2