Can you smile while in deep pain?

In tears... - the truth hurts...
Philippines
November 9, 2010 1:00pm CST
Often times, we feel deep pain inside our hearts. We tend not to tell anyone about it especially if too personal to us. Since we cannot tell anyone about it, we keep it to ourselves. Can you manage to smile while in deep pain? If you are facing a very serious problem that you cannot tell anyone, how do you handle that? Pease share.
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@creyos (276)
• Indonesia
9 Nov 10
No, I can't hide my feelings. Even I'm still smiling most of my closed relatives know that I feel sad. They said they can look from my eyes. Maybe my eyes express well than my face. So when I'm having serious problem, the best way for me is just staying in my house and don't meet the peoples. I will put my feelings on the writing or just crying it out.
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@vrianna (185)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
We're the same. However, we show them a fake smile, but they can look in our eyes if we have a problem.
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@kguru1979 (380)
• India
9 Nov 10
Hope I never smile in such kind of situations. I may feel bad since I am alone. I may feel somebody to be there to give a moral support. May be I can laugh thinking the total negative aspects happening for me in life like this situation...!
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• Philippines
10 Nov 10
it's hard to do that but there are more important things to do than mourn.
@joysantos (132)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
I can smile while I am in deep pain. My friends often tease me for that. I can control my emotions. Specially if I need to work the next day. I concentrate a lot to control my tears.
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@dapy17 (74)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
Yes I can still manage to smile but I cannot hide the pain/sorrows that can be seen through the windows of my soul - my eyes. When I'm in great pain I'd rather be alone and pour out the heaviness I felt inside by crying. After that I feel relieve. Writing is also my way of expressing my feeling.
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• United States
10 Nov 10
Yes, I smile while in deep pain a lot. The reason behind this is because so many people have their own problems, and I just don't want to come to them being a whiny little baby. I just try to deal with my problems myself and hope that I'll get better soon. Sometimes, I think it feels like a show to me. I give off this outwardly happy appearance when inside it's not the same. I mean, I don't cry on a regular basis but I just feel sad sometimes. Mostly because of this overwhelming nostalgia.
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• United States
9 Nov 10
Sometimes I can. When my son had his wreck I had a hard time letting myself smile again. And even now I have to remind myself that it's okay to do fun things even though he is still not well. It's really been difficult to just relax and smile again. But I can now have a good time occasionally.
@jugsjugs (13045)
9 Nov 10
I have had to try to keep a smile on my face, when really all i could do is just cry.I try to not let people see that i am upset or in pain and as soon as i am on my own then i tend to either to try keep my mind busy by being on the internet,or have a good cry to get it out of my system.
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• Philippines
9 Nov 10
It's difficult to think of happy thoughts and smile when you are in deep pain. You think deeply and figure out things on moving on, but smiling during those painful moments can be done but difficult to do or maybe impossible. Indeed there are times which you wanted to hid or ignore those pain you went through, but deep within your heart you wanted to cling to someone who would hear and understand. There are reasons behind when someone smile despite of deep pain- a kind soul, a listening ear, an understanding spirit and a friend whose there for you no matter how life has been. Obtaining one's peace of mind and believing in God would certainly make a joy to someone in pain.
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@dante_off (607)
• India
9 Nov 10
Ya I smile instead I have been smiling since last 2 months even when I am in deepest of pain in my heart, my world got devastated on the night of 25th August 2010 and since them I am all alone but smiling with the pain. If anything has happened which left you disturbed, just don't decide that its the last thing etc etc. Just take it in a positive way, see it this way for instance your love leaves you and you are in pain then just think from your heart that he/she wasn't the perfect match for you, God has another good choice for you. But never have any hatred to anyone, because it never helps... And still then if you feel gloomy and lost just think over your life, try to make a sense of it. We always try to see the things that bring us sadness, and in this whole process we nearly forget to recognize what makes us happy, or what we love to do. "You never know, God's around you". ~cheerio~
@KrauseHome (34995)
• United States
22 Nov 10
Personally it can be quite hard sometimes when you are facing certain situations to not let it bother you, and have it show on your face and make others wonder what is wrong. If you are hiding it not telling anyone else ever that can end up being just as bad for you as well. I have learned to smile a lot more no matter what I am going thru and have found it really depends on what is happening as to if there is anyone important enough to really tell about it as well. I think the most motivator part of learning to work thru it is having someone you can talk about it who will care, and listen to you, and also learn to lean on God thru prayer.
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
Most of the time, I manage to smile around people, though inside I'm aching. I tend to keep my grief inside. I'm not a fan of crying in front of anyone. Even though I want to, most of the times it's just difficult to do that. I prefer to spill out everything when I'm taking a shower. That makes shower time to be one of my favorite time. Hehe. It may sound weird, but that's me! :)
10 Nov 10
Yes ofcourse I can smile even when while I'm in deep pain. I been through that last year and manage to conquer the pain by smiling and pretending that I am ok although I am not. Problem of the heart definitely is the reason behind. I know that It is too personal to tell it anyone so what I did is I keep my self busy and I become more active with my family and friends for me to at least ease the pain a little. Whenever someone will ask me about love life i just give them a smile. I just keep quiet. I have decided to go out with my long lost classmates and their friends wherein I have gained more friends. I become open to relationship then after few months I have met a good guy whom I fell in love with. Now we are married and have a 6 month old son. I can say that a way to ease the pain is to try forgetting the cause of the pain. Find what will ease that pain and try to become open to new scenarios in your life. Finding what will ease the pain is like finding what will make you happy and It's only you who knows the answer because Its you who knows the real you.
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
I have other alternatives in hiding the pain. First, don't ever be exposed to thing that could always remind you to your problems. Second, don't think that a problem exists. Third, believe that you can overcome. Believe that everything will be okay soon. So I don't need to be anxious because I always think positive. Smile always. Crying is not a solution, It won't help, right? Yeah I'm kinda numb. I need to be numb.
10 Nov 10
my advise for the people who are in pain is to smile. If you smile in times of sadness or having problem, it gives so much relief in you. Smiling is very positive to face problems.and think of this, wearing a smile doesnt spend you a single cent, Its free. So smile and be happy.