Love that's not meant to be

Philippines
November 9, 2010 10:45pm CST
How will you deal with your ex who constantly send you messages even if you two are now committed with someone else? I've got a friend who's ex is constantly sending her messages, who goes to their house and all.
5 responses
beeh13u
@beeh13u (1038)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
Wow. That's creepy in a sweet way. She should tell the guy that they are not together now. They should move on. But does the girl still like the guy? Maybe the guy wants a second chance. :(
beeh13u
@beeh13u (1038)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
Oh. That's sad. Was the girl his first love too? First love is the most painful to remember and the hardest to forget. I think the guy is still denying the break-up.
joysantos
@joysantos (131)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
That ex of her is her first love. I think one way or another she still has feelings but not in a way to wish they will be back together.
neelia_lyn
@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
Was that your friend or you? :) Well, if they text each other in a friendly way, then no problem at all. You know there are exes out there who have remained good friends afterward. But if that ex is a bothersome and has no respect to the other one's new relationship, then talk to him/her frankly.
joysantos
@joysantos (131)
• Philippines
11 Nov 10
Its my friend. I also agree that there are exes who become friends.
Peaches and Herbs
@lipstick2009 (1236)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
I have the same problem with my ex, and believe me, its giving me hard time to ignore him completely.Not that i still have feelings for him ,but i just know he is still hurting and I just cant help him with his problems. Ignoring is the best way to deal with it and cut all communications. But how can u really do that when he has all the means to reconnect in his own special way. This has been an issue of arguments that i had w my present love.
joysantos
@joysantos (131)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
Its really hard to ignore someone who has all the means to connect with you.
vangie26
@vangie26 (445)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
That's unethical for both sides. The ex should not be acting like that in respect to the new gf/bf of your friend. Your friend should confront the ex to stop what he's doing because the relationship is already over and both have new love.
keeegan_ess
@keeegan_ess (512)
• United States
10 Nov 10
Wow. That's a really tough situation. Well, if your friend really feels bothered by it, they should casually talk to their ex about it. I don't mean to make it seem like a serious and bad conversation, but to just casually bring it up. Put a few jokes in there! Just mention that they both have partners that need their attention now, and it would be best to put their attention towards them.
joysantos
@joysantos (131)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
Thank you for the advice. I already told her to do that actually. And she did by the way. She told her ex that she is now with someone and she doesn't want to have problems. But the guy is so persistent.