How to say no to a friend

Hello nangisha! yeah its been a while ive been really busy trying to work things out on my modelling career that i forgotten about this great community of mine called my lot friends :) but anyways im here again so that means alot of cool discussion for all of us. Yeah i think we should really consider the true meaning of friendship and that is to make people happy in alot of ways and if we are not in the position to help anybody out then i think we just need to face the fact that we cant.We should first tend to our individual responsibilities before alloting ourselves to help others no matter how dear they are to us. Thanks for the wonderful thought and have a great day my friend :)

Gez Modeling career , I think its will great if you really serious about it. I hear its a hard world and full of competition. You have to be unique and have good manners to survive. Its good to hear from you again .

Im trying to be as serious as i can my friend but sometimes i tend to be so much busy too like i just cant give all my time for the business sometimes i want to go out with my friends too and spend sometime with my pc as well lol . But since life nowadays is pretty much hard and im not that rich at all i need to make a living too thats why i choose the career that suits me the most. Thanks for giving me some of your time again and glad that you still remember me as well. :)

Somehow i was able to used that kind of approach too my friend. You see there are times that these so called friends of mine get the best of me. I just cant help it but to help someone in need specially whenever i can that is why these people tend to exploit that trait of mine whenever they can. But that is all in the past now, i was able to learn how to control them and control myself somehow too. Thanks for sharing your thoughts

Thank you for answering my friend indeed its really hard to say no to people whom we called as friends but your right there are times that we really need to step up the gas and say no to them. Not really to hurt them in any way but just to give them a lesson or to teach them not to rely on us all the time. Im glad to know that lots of people are experiencing the same thing too i thought for a while its just me but now that you guys are telling me that your having the same problems before too im feeling better already. And i will also learn how to say no to my friends sooner or later so that in the end you are right we wont be hurting each other even badly. Thank you for the time answering and good day

Yeah its a really tough situation where in you really want to help but your not sure if you can. Or if you can its pretty much certain that you will have a hard time dealing with it yourself too.I often give in and say yes to my friends thats why sometimes i end up having the same problems too. But this time im trying hard to say no to some of them no matter what to save me the trouble of having to look for help myself. Its good to help other people but it wont be good anymore if you push yourself too much that ive learned my friend im glad that you shared your thoughts about this too made me feel lighther thank you for your time and effort hope to hear more from you pretty soon

Hello crimiloilo ! yeah i think it is indeed best to be frank about it. I mean if you just cant help for the particular situation then just say so, even if it will hurt them temporary that doesnt mean there wont be any other chance for you to help that friend. I read a book before saying its a no no for us to say sorry i cant when friends are asking for help that we cant help in return. If someone says sorry i cant its as if we admit we can do something for them but we refuse lol. But anyways no matter how we say it what matters is that we will get the point across them pretty clear no matter what will be their reaction that there are times that we just cant help them out no matter what we do :) Thank you for sharing your ideas and hope to see more of your ideas pretty soon my friend

Yeah i think thats what we can do when we are pinned in that kind of situation i mean its better to admit to them that we wont be able to help for now instead of saying yes and in the end you wont be able to help at all making it much worse for your part. You will be even labelled as a person without a word. It may be a lil bit painful for them but if theres no other way its better to have it that way instead :) Thank you for sharing your thoughts believe me this is one of the problems that im really having trouble facing i often try to push myself to the limits just to help someone this time i know if i just cant then i will have to say no for the sake of the both of us and our friendship too. Have a great day and see you again next time my friend

Indeed sometimes there are problems that you dont want to be involved with. Like situations that might just get you in trouble as well. I believe the only way to deal with them is to try hard to explain that you wont be able to help them out. Now if they will be feeling bad about our decision of not helping them this time then i think thats out of our hand already. What matters is that we clear to them that we wont be able to help them for the particular event but that doesnt mean we cant help them some other time instead. They might get mad at us but hey thats life sometimes we make it sometimes we dont and we have our own worries to think about first before we try and reach out for others problems too. Thank you for sharing your thoughts my friend and have a great day hope to hear more of your work pretty soon

Yeah thats the problem for all of us. I mean its really hard to say no to a friend who needs help specially if you see that he or she honestly needs our help. But certain situation also comes where in we just cant do anything about it too so we just need to try and explain in a very nice way that even if we want to help them out we just cant for the time being.Now trying to explain the reason why to them might help too. Thank you for sharing your thoughts im really relieved to know that other people are having the same problems just like me too. Hope to hear more from you pretty soon my friend

Hello joysantso yeah its really nice to just explain to them that you wont be able to help them out no matter how much you would want to .Its just that sometimes there are some of our friends who are pretty much hard to explain. I mean they will think that you really dont care about them etc etc. Thats what my problem is lol but im glad that now its pretty clear to me that letting these people know that there are times that i wont be able to help is a part of our lives and that they just have to accept me for what i am and for what kind of help i can provide for them too. Your right if they are real friends they will undestand :) thanks for sharing your thoughts and idea