Accidentally meeting an ex BF (without closure), what should have I done? :)
By Lexielilly
@Lexielilly (173)
Philippines
November 12, 2010 3:16am CST
It was a funny and awkward moment when I bumped into an ex boyfriend in the mall. Ours was a long distance relationship then, we were living in different cities. We didn't have any closure at all, simply, our love vanished in thin air. That happened 4 years ago.
Meeting him again the other day was an awkward experience, I was just so shocked and became quite timid. We just said hi and evetually bid goodbye after that..Oh! How I wish I could have ask or say something...
6 responses
@Bannybanzie (1397)
• Philippines
12 Nov 10
This is one example of moments where you would just instantly froze and your mind is just blocked... Yeah, it's funny when this happens to us and then after that we think that, Hey, I should have done this and that... Well... There's no way to change what has happened already. Anyways, I think everyone has moments like this (even if not meeting the ex).
Oh, about your relationship! I think it's pretty hard. Long distance and love just faded... I think this is one negative thing of long distance relationships. Well, I think you should just hope that you'll see him again and be able to speak... Practice... you can never tell. Maybe tomorrow you'll see him... :)
@dynzdolina (381)
• Philippines
12 Nov 10
Exactly, long distance relationship does not have an assurance.. it might just bring you nowhere especially if rarely could you see each other.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
15 Nov 10
That most have been a very awkward moment indeed so I feel sorry that it happened to you. Four years ago you were in a relationship with him and then it ended without the closure needed. I am not surprised that you found no much to say because of the shock.
My friend went on a walk with a group and met a guy that was on his holiday. She found that he lived at the other end of the country to her. They got on so well they had a long distance relationship together that lasted eight months. She was so upset that she began another relationship.
They ended up meeting up for a day out half way between where she lived and he lived. She knew she still loved him but the pain was that they had both moved on. She carried on meeting him for another year on and off. Then they stopped seeing each other. I had no idea why and meeting up again with him had been making her sad.
@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
As him for what?????????
That would be useless.......... Leave him alone.
It was good that you only said hi and goodbye........
@dynzdolina (381)
• Philippines
12 Nov 10
I would probably be just be civil to him, project that you have moved on already. Maybe starting a discussion could ease away the tension and awkwardness, that would I guess open up a close book...
@naturalbella889 (135)
•
13 Nov 10
whatever you would have said would have been a bit awkward. You both would have felt uncomfortable for a while. I think if It had progressed the past relationship would have come up.
