People Who Fight on Facebook
By rinfour
@rinfour (250)
Philippines
November 14, 2010 1:01am CST
I have more than 300 friends on Facebook, and I am considered "anti-social" by my friends and family. Looking at my friends' profile, they have around 500-700 friends so perhaps compared to them I have a fairly small network. Aside from classmates, we have other friends in common. Having said that, I can see how big our community is but how small it can be when it comes to technology. It makes sharing information a whole lot easier...and scandals faster to travel.
Earlier this morning, I was browsing through my wall to catch up with what's what(I haven't been online for 4days) when I saw (amidst Pacquiao-Margarito boxing updates) a status of a classmate of mine saying something about his baby's mom. Then I saw people who liked the foul status (something about her friend being a mistress)...then a message in all caps. This was from his girlfriend saying all kinds of profanities and lewd remarks. At first is was entertaining, but then I realized how many friends they had and how many people would be able to read that status and the reply. I started feeling sad and embarrassed for both of them. To top things off, their profile pictures were of their 3month-old daughter.
Have you ever picked a fight in somebody's status or your own status? Or in any other public domain in the internet? I actually almost fought with my friend on a thread about out high school reunion but when I realized that many people would be able to read the message, I didn't send it. Instead, I sent her a private message and talked to her there. I just didn't think it would be proper.
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9 responses
@JudgeIronFist (2472)
• Singapore
14 Nov 10
Yea you did the right thing. We should just be careful of what we post online. Unless you're really angry, you want to ruin the person's image or reputation, then no choice. If that person has done something bad to you and now you want to ruin them, then no choice. I find the people who fight on Facebook is just as good as gangsters. They just don't have the guts to stand out and meet face to face and settle it all out. Why bother quarreling in Facebook if you cannot stand the other party and just staying at home and emo-ing down there? It's just better to send PMs to settle it, rather than having it broadcasted to the public, or unless you filter it.
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
14 Nov 10
If people choose to pick fights with each other, they need to consider their surrounding. they should pick a more private place to hash out their differences. they should have more respect for each other and people around them than to air their problems over a social network.1 person likes this
@santosmarichris (1849)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
Hi! It's funny how they fight in FB same with putting on their status where they are going to, what happened on their day, rants, etc. Lol. 
Some families even communicate through fb status, which I find weird. I barely put anything on my status update except for greetings and quotations. 
Some families even communicate through fb status, which I find weird. I barely put anything on my status update except for greetings and quotations. 
@vangie26 (445)
• Philippines
14 Nov 10
Many people just don't realize that being emotional on facebook put themselves on shame. It is because what they were feeling, they can simply put it as a status knowing that the opponent can read it ...not realizing that the public can read it too. That's why many facebook users were not able to find a job (note that employers are actually using facebook now to know deeper the applicant), and many lost their job because of the attitude shown in their status. It is really improper to put it in your status everything that you feel especially if it is too personal :-)
@rinfour (250)
• Philippines
16 Nov 10
Wow, I didn't know that possible employers can look at the facebook account of an applicant. Well, my entire profile is put on "private" so only my friends can see what I post. Even so, I agree that posting shameful content on your status can also degrade your character as well as the other people involved.
@susanana (125)
• Philippines
14 Nov 10
Hello rinfour! I have few people in my facebook as well. I only choose to invite and approve people I am related to or people who I know. These includes, family, relatives, batchmates from highschool and college and friends.
I have encountered similar experience where people post status about their anger towards a certain person in their facebook network. I think that the situation you mentioned is not proper. I feel for those people affected by these posts and I really pity the baby whose picture appears on the same post. I also condemn those people who liked the status and even added insults to the mother of the baby.
If I have some issues with my friends or relatives. I would never post it in a social network and share the discussion to others. Its not their issue so why do i have to inform them about this. I'll just talk to them in person, send them a message or call them privately instead of posting on the internet.
@rovered777 (649)
• United States
15 Nov 10
Posting a fight message on someone's face-book status is completely off limits for me. For one, I feel this is not something I should be concerned about, and secondly there is nothing to be said about such a bad incidence. Nothing should be said, because personal matters aren't handled well among the public. The person who posted such information seems care less in nature, and I hope he corrects himself. Fighting is negative, but bringing it to a personal level, is much more severe. I wish him the best of luck when coping with insults.
@shaggin (71681)
• United States
14 Nov 10
I have never purposefully wrote something just to start a fight but a lot of times I have left comments on peoples status's and the people got mad and it started a fight which led to either them blocking me or me blocking them. Oh well. I'm me and I dont care if people dont like it they dont have to be friends with me. Watching all the drama on facebook is funny but I'm bored with it anymore so I havent been on as much lately. Used to be I was on constantly.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
14 Nov 10
Those guys are immature if they really tend to pick a fight by announcing their personal matters in many people. My failure boss did that before though of course he have not included my name. I didn't pick a fight from him since when I have read his status we were able to talk. But then I have regret that I think I was able to argue with him no matter if his friends will see it but at least I know my rebuttals since I was able to knew everything about him especially his weaknesses. That kind of case should be reported as I know the facebook will do an action for it.
@smartrich22 (393)
• Indonesia
15 Nov 10
I think, they're wasting their time.. and shamed their self.
when they're using facebook for something negative, they're tottally wrong and it's not good for them. they're should learn from the basic, why social site is created, I meant the main purpose of the creator!
