Life Frustrations

Philippines
November 16, 2010 1:40am CST
Do u ever get frustrated or desperate over not getting something or not being able to accomplish a thing because you have to take care of other things first? I do. I feel bad for not being able to help my family back home because I myself already have my own family. I want to help but I also need help at the moment so I really can't help them financially. I always wanted to provide for my family, help my other sibilings and have my mother stop working and just relax at home and just do nothing but to enjoy life until it ends. But with the current situation of the economy right noww I don't even know if that is even possible. I am already 28 years old and Im not getting any younger. I want to work outside the country to be able to fund more for my own house, transport, my daughter's education and our future. I really don't know what's ahead for me anymore. I dont know.... Do you feel the same way?
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16 responses
• United States
16 Nov 10
You're 'only' 28. You are still a baby in life's terms. I'm 61. Yes at the moment I'm seeing some things like you, but I'm wondering where did all those years go so quickly. Now is the perfect timme to go back to school, and get in a field that will always be open like the medical field or computers. Start now so that when you are my age, you will hve a job regardless. I know its hard not to be able to do more for your mom and siblings, but you help when you can like I've always been able to do, and you don't help when you can't. That's just the way it goes. Sometimes it's time for someone to help you. Pray about it.
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
I appreciate your response... Happy my lotting!
• United States
17 Nov 10
Many of us are on the same cups too. We live now with too much pressure on demand hard to say No. like our family insurances which will raise the price 100 fold times, down days at work, mortgage etc..that even part time job is hard to find! so just think positive and pray is the only way we can make it.! Well, you are still young. you can apply work abroad if you have the chance but the sorrow of being away from family if it's your first to be away with them is really hard. But if you are determined you can do it.! But if you can make through working online why go abroad..if you have enough skills you can post online..you can do it.!
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@apples99 (6564)
• United States
16 Nov 10
Well yes I think everyone has moments of frustration or disappointment especially those of us who are still trying to reach our life goals, and are not yet fully content with the way are lives have been going. As for feeling frustrated because of not being able to get somthing I really want or need yeah sometimes I do feel frustrated because sometimes its dificult to get even some of the most common things that almost everyone has, and takes for granted. But do I get desperate no because being desperate can lead to making bad personal decision, so I try to make it a point not to become too dissatisfied with things in life because just when you think things are bad they can always get worse, so its better for me to be thankful for the blessing I have, not saying its not dificult but its better to be grateful then become desperate and make a rash life choice.
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• Philippines
16 Nov 10
Yeah sometimes I do get frustrated when I'm not getting what I want or if something doesn't go my way. My only way of coping up with this frustration is to keep thinking of other ways. I know there are workarounds to every problems. We get frustrated and that limits our thinking abilities therefore limits our flexibility on making decisions and formulating other options. IMHO, it's better to calm one's self and think efficiently for other ways, as I've said earlier. It usually works for me.
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@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
I have the same situation with you now that I am unemployed at the moment and my savings I have from the previous company I have worked with is the only thing that is supporting me right now. I will get back to work with another company again on the 22nd of this month and I have budgeted my allowance until I get my first salary from then on. Then I will be able to get back giving them financial support again. If I get frustrated then I just think of different things that would make me happy and hang out with my friends. I just make myself busy a lot of times doing the chores in my house and do myLot even though I am not earning much here. But I love responding to topics like this that tackles about life and enjoying life in general. I hope we can get over these kind of frustrations in life.
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
Oh thank you I think diverting my attention would change things.. Life is just so unfair.. but we ave to deal wit it or you'll be crazy
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• Philippines
28 Nov 10
Yes that is the exact word in my mind when I respond to your post. divert it all to something more important things you should do in your life. Thank you for the comment. Have a great week ahead.
• United States
17 Nov 10
You are in the same boat as my mother, but she actually got all these wants and desires to work. Its so nice that our world has generous people like you. Families are made with hard work, and benefiting others is only possible with better choices. For you, I believe the payment and employment opportunities have had an overwhelming effect, and I suggest that you still keep on trying. You will never know what lies in store tomorrow or the day after, so definitely keep on applying for residency in other countries. These goals will be reached gradually, if all your sills and qualifications help you work overseas. May good luck be with you always, and never let yourself down. Frustrations are not a healthy part of life.
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
Thank you very much. I know being frustrated slowly pulls us down. There are just time that it pulls me so hard, I dont know how to stand up again. It's like I have all ropes already and I have nothing else left.
@girlx79 (23)
• Italy
16 Nov 10
yes, it's a normal thing you feel so, but I hope the situation will be better
• United States
17 Nov 10
Absolutely. It is a process and part of life. You can try to tone down the frustration by finding the "root" of the problem. I have always used lists. i make a list of things I want to accomplish today, tomorrow and 5 years from now. This always helps put things in perspective and you can use and modify the list to fit your needs.
• Philippines
16 Nov 10
Yes. Definitely. Every now and then I feel like there's lots of things of to do but so little time. You want to accomplish multiple things at the same time but just could not do it. You want to take care of the needs of others as well as taking care of you needs. But I guess this is just one of the realities of life. We will not be able to have it all. At some point in time we just to think that there are limitations on things we can do and we can accomplish. Some things have to be prioritized and some others have to be traded off. As long as we are productively utilising time, I dont feel guilt of not using my full potential to make my life better. Happy mylotting!
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
Yeah me too. I agree. As long as i know I am doing something worth it. Just hope that I'll be able to help my family in the future. Life is worthless wen people you love are not happy.
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
26 Nov 10
well it sounds like me. i have so much to gain in this life. but unfortunately, i did not get all what i want. maybe this is what they call as a challenge. we have to try to reach it.
@dismalgrin (2470)
• United States
18 Nov 10
Yes, I do. I had built up quite a life for myself. Not perfect, but it was my life. Then suddenly it was all gone and ripped out from beneath me. Now I'm trying to get back up on my feet and it seems that I'm always being kicked back down. Most of the time for me it's people in my own family that kick me. I am 27 and I often feel like its almost too late. I'm not saying that I'm old or anything, but it feels like I should have accomplished so much by now. I should be married, I should own my own home... I should be getting better money. But, I just haven't gotten to the place I aimed to be. The only thing I can say proudly right now is that I'm alive. That's all I have good right now.
@liuyh0619 (108)
• China
18 Nov 10
The more elder we are, the more pressure and liability we should take on. Mostly fixed income people would always has that issue. We have to fund our parents and pay for the rent and children school fee. Till our situation improve, we consider to apply for a loan from the bank to buy the house, huge burden always make us feel frustrate. The life is tough and almost every one has the same feeling with you. Don't set too higher goal, stink out through the difficult time and try to make a different.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
Well, don't be frustrating with your life. Just think that there are many ways to make money even if we can't go abroad to having a regular jobs outside the internet. The options is online jobs, my friend. If you believe that you can make some and you do things which is worth enough. Be patient and someday you can provide with your family. For me I feel being frustrated before. Because I lost my computer business which I am dreaming when I was working. I save money to put the business but in one tick I lost it. I am so depressed in one year till I learn that those happen in life is not a hindrances for me to make some again. I am old and over age for any jobs and not qualified anymore because of my ages. That is why I think some remedy and I tried online and I feel it's good enough and I love the game. Now, i forget my frustration and I am focusing on making some money to get back my business again... Have a great day!
17 Nov 10
I lead a very very busy life. I hardly ever get time to myself and many things that i would like to do i never either have the time or get the chance to do them. I feel as though a part of my life is incomplete as there ae many things i have not done but i would like to. This is what happens though when you work full time and when you are also a parent. But my family are the most important people in my life and that is my best accomplishment so i guess i am happy enough. Maybe once my son is a lot older and can do things for himself then i may have more free time to do things that i would like to try out, if im not too old that is, lol.
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
I do feel the same way and have many plans in my mind too at the moment and I could not do it alone since i need a lot of financial support. i think i have to ask for help from my brother who already work overseas if he could fund my placement fee and i could pay him later on when i already have enough saving. Those plan i seek to do as soon as possible as like you i am not getting younger anymore though my look lies a lot as other people think i am still a teenager but they would be shock if they already know my real age is so i just keep a youthful looking image through the years. But it would not last as i grow old so i need to move too to find more greener pastures as the opportunity in my place is very few..
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
16 Nov 10
I can get frustrated rather easily when I try to take on too many tasks at once. If i spread myself too thin, things end up in disaster. Taking dilemmas just one at a time is so much simpler and much less demanding on my frustrations.
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
16 Nov 10
Hi dear, Yes, when things turned around, we always become frustrated. If there is any change in the daily practice, we are tending to do so. Especially, when many things come up with top priorities. Sometimes we need to prioritize thing with more urgent and lesser ones. But when everything is linked to money, we will really get panic. Like you, even I face the same situation several times. We need to manage everything at its own time. Eg, for children school fees are to be at a particular date, house rent on so & so date, utility bills within particular date, so all are comes with more pressure and liability, we will stuck somewhere when we have not enough fund with us. Apart from this, unforeseen matters like illness for self and others, unexpected problems are another headache. Mostly fixed income people with nominal income and higher burden of expenses would always has the issue. That is why we all are depend on such additional jobs which can make a little extra by doing all other works. But there is only one way out of it, by managing all things with a best cost and least cost combination, till our situation get improved. Best regards, Thank-s