Signs that you are falling out of love

@mayrah (1126)
Philippines
November 17, 2010 8:16am CST
You still remember when you fall in love with that particular person, it seems that he or she is the most wonderful creation that you can't take your eye out of him or her.But now you're feeling like you are falling out of love. Don't exaggerate your feelings. If you are in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship with five years or more, you just feel bored with each other. No thrills anymore as you know everything about that person. So you are considering that you are falling out of love. Absolutely not, because love is defined as "when you take away the feeling, the passion and you stiil care for the person". That is love, maybe your love have come to higher lever, to a mature level. Just consider our parents, they just treat each others as companion but they still love each other. Personally I believe the only sign that yo don't love the person anymore is when you don't care anymore about his or her well being, You are not concerned anymore in whatever bad things that will happen to him or her. How about in your opinion? What do you think are the sign that you are falling out of love? Why?
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@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
falling out of love is a choice, it is when you feel you are on the losing end, i.e. taken for granted. Love should be a two-way street, to reciprocate, to compliment to make a whole. To keep a relationship intact, there should be a continuing effort to sustain interest, affection and understanding to realize what's on hand. The magic spark will stay if there are two stones creating friction..lol!
@mayrah (1126)
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
yes it's always a choice each couple make
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
17 Nov 10
It is usually not a good feeling for us to have when we think we are falling out of love. One way to know is when we don't care when less and less time is being spent with the one you love. If their feelings and wants and needs don't seem to be as important to you as they used to be, the love could be fading from your eyes and your heart. if the spark isn't there when you see the one you love, it could be a sure sign that you are falling out of love with them.
@mayrah (1126)
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
oh yes we agree, spark should always be there.
@arielbsn (199)
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
I believe in the saying that "Love is even greater the second time around" that is falling in love with the same person after all rocky roads that you've been into. Sometimes we feel that we don't love our partner because you are always with him/her and you you feel you are falling in love with another person. This feeling happened to almost all couples and that should not be defined as falling out of love. Love is not just a romantic feelings, it has many responsibilities as well that you have to consider. Maybe falling out of love is true for some teens who are in boyfriend-girlfriend relationship which we called puppy love, but for adult it's a different level of love.
@mayrah (1126)
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
yes it happened to every couple so they choose to break up then regret after losing their partner
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• India
18 Nov 10
Even I undergo such feelings sometime but the best part is I miss that person when I undergo such a feeling. But after sometime I realise now it is more matured enough in our relation and we can think about so many other things. I just realised this message. Thank you for this wonderful message. I will never think in the same lines again.
• India
18 Nov 10
Even I undergo such feelings sometime but the best part is I miss that person when I undergo such a feeling. But after sometime I realise now it is more matured enough in our relation and we can think about so many other things. I just realised this message. Thank you for this wonderful message. I will never think in the same lines again.
• India
18 Nov 10
Even I undergo such feelings sometime but the best part is I miss that person when I undergo such a feeling. But after sometime I realise now it is more matured enough in our relation and we can think about so many other things. I just realised this message. Thank you for this wonderful message. I will never think in the same lines again.
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
18 Nov 10
Relationships are so intricate and complicated to understand. I agree with you, as long as you still car about the person, then you are still in love with him. The main problem will lie if you feel that you are better withouthim, are happy when he is out of sight, prefer to be alone and as you said, do not care anymore about his wellbeing.
@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
Feelings are like add-ons in a relationship. It brings more color and meaning. Everyday we don't feel the same and it cannot be an enough reason to stay in or out just because of it. Like everyone says, it's a mutual relationship when you talk about love. You communicate what needs to be done. The moment something went wrong and it has not been fixed the soonest time, both can grow apart eventually. I've had a three-year relationship before and yes the magic feeling faded. But I tried to discern things because I was the one leading between the two of us. He does not know how to decide on his own and neither was he willing to take a stand on it. It was crucial. So we spoke and told him it can never work that way. He did not improve so I decided to move on. Now, I think he has learned all the points. He became a better person on his career and I just hope so. And this is my choice with no regrets at all.
@lingli_78 (12841)
• Australia
18 Nov 10
for me, the signs will be when i start to stop thinking or caring about the person... then it means i don't love the person anymore... be it my friends, parents, hubby or whoever who are close to me... take care and have a nice day...
@clocks123 (1228)
• United States
18 Nov 10
you are falling out of love because it wasn't real love in the first place. love is commitment, loyalty, honesty, friendship, physical. i'm glad it didn't last because i knew he wasn't the person for me or me for him. i think we should tell someone how we really feel instead of deceiving them into believing we love them. it is better in the long run for both of you. alot of times we don't want to be alone if we break up with someone. however, it will happen sooner or later irregardless if that person isn't the one we truly love.
@rmnrmn (583)
• India
17 Nov 10
Caring the others more I mean when someone find more interesting someone else!