Reconnecting after 25 years

United States
November 19, 2010 11:42pm CST
When I was in my 20s I babysat for a woman who became a dear friend of mine that I loved like a sister. She had the rare quality to allow me to be myself without ever having to say or do anything...simply by being herself. Many of my fondest memories are from the times I sat for her, listening to her music on her stereo system. She was a houseplant fiend and a creative person whose home decor was rustically stylish and I always felt completely comfortable in her home. I don't remember exactly what happened or how we lost touch but we each moved on out of each others' lives. Over the years I have missed her off and on and thought of her often but was unable to find her until now. I recently was able to acquire a CD of one of the albums that I used to listen to at her home. Hearing this album which I had not heard in years brought back a flood of emotion and memories and a renewed need to find her again. So I went onto Facebook on the off chance of finding her. It took some digging. I had changed my name since we knew each other and she was not registered under the form of her name that I knew her by. After searching through many profiles, there she was! I cannot even begin to express my joy at finding my long lost friend. Do you have friends like this that you have lost? What efforts have you made to find them again? Maybe you were successful and can understand what I am feeling now or maybe you have not been successful. If not, I urge you to try again. It is well worth the effort, believe me! Old friends are always the best.
2 responses
• United States
20 Nov 10
I have not been through this but I enjoyed reading about you finding your friend again. This is a wonderful touching story and I am glad you shared this with us.
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• United States
20 Nov 10
I'm glad you enjoyed it. I have felt so alone for so long, it's like a breath of fresh air to reconnect with people. I have other friends I have tried reconnecting with over the years without this good result and it breaks my heart. It is always good to have people who have known you when you were young around when you are old...it makes you feel more comfortable in your old age.
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
Hi, I have never experienced this joy and missing of yours but I'm happy you found her :) I do have a friend I miss so much and I am afraid to talk with that person because I feel ignored already. I keep thinking of that person though. So sad couldn't be with that person and talk about things anymore :( Maybe I'll reconnect after 25 years too LOL. Happy lotting Madam :)
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• United States
20 Nov 10
It is worth it to reconnect, believe me. No one knows us like our old friends do. Those we share history with and can reminisce with will always be far more intimate than those we have only known a short while. They have more reference points in our lives and can see the changes that have happened over the years. There is just something comforting about that.