How to get over a beak-up?

@mayrah (1128)
Philippines
November 21, 2010 3:28am CST
Breaking up with someone you really love is the hardest thing to do. If you find out that the two of you are not growing in the relationship anymore and you find out that it's impossible to stay because the relationship is suffocating and not worth to fight for. When this things happen all you need to do is learn to accept it but before you can come up with the acceptance you have to undergo the grieving process, which is denial,anger,bargaining,depression and finally acceptance of course within the time you've spent together it's acceptable if you'll get upset with that grieving process that you have to take for you to move on. You don't need to suppress your feelings, cry it out when you need to. Because you'll just find it hard to move on if you never allow yourself to express what's inside. Only time can heal a broken heart, you'll find out one day that you get over him and you're no longer affected by the things connected to him. How about you? What are the other ways you did to get over break-up? How effective was that for you?
3 responses
@ansi09 (151)
• Tunisia
21 Nov 10
I strongly agree with what you said about how one needs not to supress his/her feelings & grieve when he/she broke up. This may sound weird, but crying is in 99% of such situation is great, beleive me, if you have the pride not to cry infront of your parents or friends, that so fine, close the door of you own room, & whenevr you feel the need to cry, don't deny it or repress it, it's good to express yourself that way, & that's not a weakness for you men, don't take it that way, coz the worst thing that can happen to a grieving person is repressing his feelings, this can lead him/her to strong & long depression. Like you also said, time is what makes such wounds heal, time is a bless. I know that some couple get attached to each other so deeply that when they break up, he/she gets into a deep situation of denial of the fact that they broke up for good.
@mayrah (1128)
• Philippines
21 Nov 10
the weir thing that happened to me is I was shy to cry in front of my my co-workers I just don't want them to pity me, but I do cried when I'm alone and it helps a lot.
@ordecai (46)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
oh man its so tough on me to handle break up.what i remember I was on the street sobbing like a child.I was walking on along the street and suddenly my classmate in college saw me crying like a baby..wow!i couldnt believe it.At that time i was looking for a phone booth and i shuld call back just to save the relaiotnship.but it was so useless.when i remember that situation i just couldn't stop smiling and said to myself what a fool I am.well fortunately i have friends who helped me out to carry my heartbreak,I spent more of myself at overtime work and i went for mountain climbing just to feel the freedom of being lonely but of course along with my self.. but now im fine but not this time,,thanks for this topic..
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
21 Nov 10
Breaking with someone you once loved is hard. I cried a lot. I can really remember the moment when I locked myself inside my room and stare at our pictures together. Now, when I can recall those times, I can't help but laugh out - really loud. I can say that I finally recovered and I proud that I'm no longer like that.