A friend is really down at the moment
By joystick
@joystick (1675)
November 22, 2010 5:11pm CST
I have a friend that is really down at the moment, she is also looking really stressed out, what with all the things that are going on in her life.It seems like no matter what she do, things are going from bad to even worse,rather than getting any better.I feel helpless, as there is nothing i can say or do to make things better for her.
6 responses
@manleyjoe (1597)
• United States
23 Nov 10
Tell her of Jesus and help her to talk with him and ask him for help, then believe and he will heal her.
@CynergyDiva (805)
• Canada
23 Nov 10
Sometimes even if you can't solve a friend's problems, it helps just to be there to listen. You don't realize it but being a shoulder to cry on can often be worth a lot more. If you're there to listen while your friend gets things off her chest, she may be able to figure out her own solutions now that her head is clear.
xoxo
Cyne
@CynergyDiva (805)
• Canada
24 Nov 10
It sounds like your friend is depressed and in need of professional counsel. You might just have to use force to get her to seek help
xoxo
Cyne
@joystick (1675)
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23 Nov 10
I do try to get to see her as often as i can and i always take things for her like flowers and a few odd toys for the children, to keep them busy.It seems like she do not want to even leave the house now and is staying indoors as much as she can.I also call her of an evening, sometimes i take her a snack round, like a few rolls that i have made.I think that she is feeling isolated, at the moment as well.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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23 Nov 10
To be honest with you this time of the year makes us all feel abit on a low.There have been loads of things that have not worked out for me just latley and that got me down.I try to think on the terms that there are alot of people that are worse off than i am as well as there are people that, no matter how hard they try they still seem to come up with problem after problem.
@joystick (1675)
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23 Nov 10
Perhaps you are right that this time of year it is really cold and maybe that is another reason why she wants to just stop indoors.It seems to me that she just do not want to even socialise out side of her four walls.Perhaps she feels safer being at home for some reason.
@Jacobus1919 (1683)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Well, you could always ask her indirectly about it. And try not to pressure her about telling. Some people just need time to open up about problems. Try to ask her to do stuff which she loves that might help a bit. Hope it helps.
@frenzylady (518)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
Hello joystick! I think being with your friend and empathizing with her current situation is fine for now. One thing that will need to be addressed though is that, does your friend want to be helped? Sometimes, there are cases where you are really helpless especially if a friend can't help herself, whatever you do, you will not be able to uplift her. I suggest that you just let her know that you are there for her, lift her problems to God and all things should work out for good. Cheers!
@joystick (1675)
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22 Nov 10
I feel so sorry for her as no matter how hard she tries and fights doing and sorting things out, the worse things are getting.I feel like she is now getting to the stage where as she is giving up.She use to be so much fun and would do all that she could to help other people, but now she is getting to tired mentally as well as energy.
@joystick (1675)
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22 Nov 10
I think that she has been fighting for far to long to cope with alot of things and now it has got to the stage that no matter what she do she can not win or things can not or will not improve.It is a real shame to see a great friend that use to be so much fun look so old and ill.
