expect and get dissatisfied

India
November 27, 2010 2:29pm CST
yesterday i had a sort of quarrel with a person with whom i am in relationship since birth. (not parents) today during discussion it was revealed that 'expectation is the biggest source of dissatisfaction' more over many times without any intention some one dear to you hurts you un-knowingly as we never know what is other's expectation so even if we try our best but many times we fail to fulfill the expectations, so the way out...your suggestions
2 responses
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
Great expectations either would give you great happiness or the other way around which is great disappointment as well. We should just expect not much for us not to be disappointed that much as well and always think positive that whatever we think will turn out the way we want it.
• India
28 Nov 10
i feel expectations are such a thing which we dont do knowingly or intentionally but it is true greater the expectation greater the satisfaction or dis-satispection
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
27 Nov 10
My husband and I have that problem. I set myself up to be disappointed in him. I'll see something as an opportunity for him to do something sweet for example. And then when he doesn't do it I find myself disappointed and upset with him. I think the best way to avoid that is to be open with your feelings and expectations. If you tell someone what you want you are more likely to get what you want and be happy. And if you are disappointed or hurt then you need to talk it out and explain what you needed. Sometimes having the person know that you were hurt and saying they were sorry is enough to make you feel better.
• India
27 Nov 10
hi ravinskye! communication is very important to know and to let know. i agree that it is only communication which can avoid this expectation trauma