In life we all have those bills to pay

@joystick (1680)
November 28, 2010 2:08pm CST
Why is it that people that either want you to lend them money or people that want you to get things for them, think that i do not have the bills that they have got.For instance people want me to get things for them, yet when i give them the things that they wanted to get they never give me the money straight away, they say i will pay you for it next week.I am not talking about just one person, but i am talking about a few people.From now on this is going to stop.
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16 responses
@megamatt (14327)
• United States
28 Nov 10
Yes that really does irritate me. Especially when I might have actually had the money to give them. Providing they would have paid me back the money from the last time I lent it to them ages ago. This is one of the reasons why I stopped lending anyone any money period. It is just something that is an exercise of frustration. Some people will pay it back. Many will not. I can't deal with that so I just stopped. They're just going to have to figure out how to get by like everyone else. That might seem cruel but hey, that's life. Life is not fair, far from it in fact. I might be short on money, but that just means I have to do without something for a bit. They should take the same advice and not try and beg someone for a hand out.
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@ajithlal (14569)
• India
24 Mar 12
I also think we have to pay bills in life and most times there would be lots of bills. Sometimes planning might help to overcome the bills to some extent.
@joystick (1680)
24 Mar 12
I think that no matter what people should pay their bills first and if there are things that they want or need, then they should save their money, rather than blowing it.Some people prefer to get a tattoo rather than paying their rent and other bills, then when they get a letter demanding money or court they panic.
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@ajithlal (14569)
• India
17 Apr 12
Good planning and budgeting helps to come over some of the bills. I think lots of people do plan in their life.
@tkonlinevn (5784)
• Vietnam
29 Nov 10
In life, we'll have time when we need helps from others people and when we help them. So, you don't worry that no one helps you when you need after you help them with all your interests.
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@ajithlal (14569)
• India
26 Feb 12
It is always good to find people who are very good friends and who will help us and who we can help when they need it. It is sometimes hard to find the real friends in our life.
@joystick (1680)
24 Mar 12
I think that you are right when you say about people being real friends.A lot of people tend to use other people for things and it seems that I have been used for my money a few to many times that I would like to mention, but now they can not, as I will not let them.
• Singapore
29 Nov 10
You know what? It is important that you think about yourself too. If no ones is doing that for you, then you need to do that for yourself. If they want you to get the things for them, tell them to pay upfront. Tell them you don't have extra cash to spare. See what they say. But you know, sometimes even we are not comfortable saying that because we don't want others to perceive that we are somewhat lacking. That's the trouble with most people. I can perfectly understand. But now that I'm working towards better financial system in my life, I need to protect the people that matters most in my life - that could be my family. If they don't get enough just because others are asking to lend money, then I'm not doing justice to the people closest to me.
@joystick (1680)
24 Mar 12
I think that there are a few people that take the mick out of other people when it comes to spending money, as well as borrowing money.I think that people should buy the things that they can afford, rather than borrow money that they can not really afford to pay back.I am trying to get some money behind me, as in the future you never know when you need money.
• Singapore
9 Apr 12
It's great to hear that you are trying to save some money. We never know when we would need them. Do not allow others to take advantage of you, joystick! Stick to your savings plan!
@Jacobus1919 (1683)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
Well, there are two things I know that are constant in this world of hours. The first is change. And the other one, is Bills. We all have bills to pay. To eat we pay the bill. To have water there goes another bill. So, the only time we get out of bills is Never?
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@joystick (1680)
24 Mar 12
I find that if I have to cut back on things that I want to pay my bills and go without other things, then so will the people that want to have my money and not pay it back.
@hushi22 (4940)
29 Nov 10
ohh....you should start to be firm on that pal. i hope you'll get over that problem. have you ever confronted them?
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@joystick (1680)
24 Mar 12
I am never lending money to anyone any more, if people ask, I tend to say that any spare money that I have I tend to need sooner or later and it is in my savings account, that way there are no more people asking.
@pogi253 (1587)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
I'ts better to have an agreement before you do the task. And I think you always talk to the wrong person. They are just using you, taking advantage of you.
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@joystick (1680)
24 Mar 12
Yes you are right, but there are people that have used me only for the things that I can give them and now it has got to the stage of I avoid them.
@LadyMarissa (12161)
• United States
29 Nov 10
One way to stop that is to ask for the money before you go buy whatever for them. When they say I'll have the money next week, just say then I'll be happy to pick it up for you next week as I don't have the cash flow to enable me to do it this week!!! After one or two times they'll stop asking you altogether!!!!
@joystick (1680)
24 Mar 12
I have now got to the point, that I do not see this person anymore, as I felt like I was being used all the time.The person had money for things like a tattoo and going to these clubs,etc, but never for the bills, or food for the children.I tend to see my friends that do not use me as their bank, as I find life easier that way.
@lumenmom (1996)
• United States
28 Nov 10
People want instant gratification. When they get what they want, there is no pressure for them to put out any money or effort. People hate to part with money, even if they owe it. I have had so many people act differently toward me when they know they owe me money. They seem to have no problem asking for it or asking me to get them something but when it's time to pay back it's a different story. I also don't like when people take more than they ask for. An example of that is when you let someone use your credit card. Once I let a family member use my credit card to get a few gifts for her children for Christmas. She not only bought for her kids but for the neighbors kids too. She practically maxed out my card, which I normally did not use much. She then only made two payments toward the bill and I had to pay the rest. People will really misuse you if they think they can get away with it.
@joystick (1680)
24 Mar 12
In the past people have come to me when they want money, but never seem to come to me when it comes to paying it back to me.I think that there are a lot of people that tend to waste money rather than paying their bills and then they borrow money and grudge paying the money back to the person.
@vandana7 (67680)
• India
29 Nov 10
Hi joystick, I noticed this too. When we borrow, we pay back before they can ask. But if they borrow, they dont return monies for over 50 years... and then they do not like the issue to be brought up, especially if the amounts are large... they think it is not right to ask! But they have no objections in asking... Interesting. Isn't it? So I look at it philosophically now. I think ok - I lost 200 bucks now. Thank god, it is 200 and not 2000 or more. Expensive way to learn whom to trust and whom not to. But at least it clears the trash out of our circle of friends. :)
@joystick (1680)
24 Mar 12
It crazes me when people do not get their self and their priority in order.I tend to not buy things unless I have the money to do so.Also if I had to ask to use money, then I would always pay as soon as I had the money.I think that you are right when you look at it in the way of it is only and not more money that we can lose.
@vandana7 (67680)
• India
25 Mar 12
My father's sister and his brother took a piggy ride on him for 20 odd years, and their children started doing that with me! Dad was supporting them till recently..a few well wishers drilled sense into his nut. So much love for them and nothing back..only became a laughing stock..they treated him like a menial. So now, he is out and out for me, even though I've been labeled as BAD. :) Sometimes it is good to be bad. If the person who is bad is calling you bad then it means you are good, right? :)
@Nadinest1 (2040)
• Canada
1 Dec 10
Good for you!!! You don't need these types of friends. It is time for them to grow up and take responsibility for themselves. You work hard for your money just to give it to someone else. Stand up for yourself and be proud to say No.
@joystick (1680)
24 Mar 12
I try to save as much money as I can,. I also try to cut back on things to spend less money, so that I have more money in the bank.You are right that these people should try to stand on their own two feet, rather than taking advantage of other peoples good nature.
@Elixiress (3893)
29 Nov 10
Maybe they are asking you to get them something because they do not have money at that particular moment? And I don't think they assume you don't have bills to pay, just that either a) your bills are at different times b) you have more income so more disposable money. Personally, if I wanted the money back straight away and knew that they wouldn't pay me back until a week or so later then I just wouldn't buy them the items in the first place.
@joystick (1680)
24 Mar 12
I am a person where as I have always had to stand on my own two feet, but there are people that are always looking for a free ride in life and there are people like me that help them.Not lending or giving any money or other things to any more, as charity begins at home.
• United States
29 Nov 10
I completely, 100% understand where you are coming from. I have the same friends. Constantly asking me for 20 bucks or 100 bucks, with their open ended promises. I started to say no, since they still have not paid me back and decided to ask for more. I am not a bank, maybe someday, but definitely not this year. I sat my friend down and explained to him, what he was doing. He was destroying our friendship because he has the inability to save any money. How is that my fault?
@joystick (1680)
24 Mar 12
I think that you are right to have sat your friend down and spoke to him, as I do think that it is better being honest.I do feel that there are somne people that will never live their lives without having to borrow.
@jugsjugs (13045)
29 Nov 10
I know what you mean.I feel like there are alot of people that have no money as they spend the money that they get on alot of rubbish, rather than paying their bills.I get so fed up of hearing the same old thing and like you say we all have bills and they should be top of the list to pay along with if you get things off people, then going out and blowing money last if they have anything left over.
@joystick (1680)
24 Mar 12
I think a few people should really take a look at the way that they spend their money, as that way they will not have to make people wait for their money.I also think that people should only buy the things that they can afford and do not try to keep up with the rest of their friends.
@ajithlal (14569)
• India
29 Nov 10
There are lots of people who does not gave back the money we lend them. It happened to me lots of time in the past. Now a days I gave money to only people who gave it back. Sometimes I gives the money that I needed or needed to pay the bill within one week and hope to get it back within one week and sometimes does not get it back. I think we should lend money to people whom we can trust and hope will return it back.
@joystick (1680)
24 Mar 12
I do not see one of the friends that are known for liking things for nothing and never want to pay any of it back.I try to save all the money that I can as well as cut back on a lot of things, so if I can do it plus pay my bills, then I am sure that they can.
@jujunme (2440)
• United States
28 Nov 10
People that borrow money or expect you to do things for them,are not thinking about you , or the fact that you have bills to pay.They're only interested in themselves and getting what they need .Proof of this, is when they tell you they'll pay you at another time. if you're in the habit of not saying no to these people, you're being taken for granted and depended on as the person who will always be good for a loan or gift. I suggest the next time someone asks to borrow money or asks you to do things for them,tell them, "you know what? i was just going to ask you for a loan, since i'm really broke right now" That should stop them in their tracks.
@joystick (1680)
24 Mar 12
Me and a few friends of mine tend to avoid a person that is always after money, as well as something for nothing.It got to the stage where as this person wanted things and never paid the money until they were told the person would go and get the money.I feel that some people will never change unless they are made to.I also think that when you are in your 30s or above, you should know if you do not have the money to get things then dont get it and also ensure their bills are paid first.
• United States
17 Apr 12
That's where you need to put your foot down and stop being taken advantage of. You need to take care of yourself and your family's needs and finances. Instead of borrowing money to others why not pay down your debt and maybe build a nest egg instead for retirement or a home ect.