Are You a Sheltered Kid?
November 28, 2010 10:10pm CST
I used to be, and while it was okay to be watched over so much as a kid, it's much harder to accept now that I'm in college. I'm still expected to call/email how many times a day, with phone calls every friday night. Fridays are 'movie night'. I know it sounds a bit lame, but I honestly enjoyed all that care when all the friends around me had divorced parents or hated them. I couldn't bring myself to dislike either but I am a bit annoyed. I'm 22 years old now, and yet there are several times where they still act like I'm a little girl who cannot take care of herself. It's aggravating! Does anyone else have any similar experiences?
2 Dec 10
Yes I was a Sheltered kid. Till twenty four my father treated me as a small child. He did every thing for me. When going by bus I found it difficult to press the bell at my own bus stop. When dealing with my friends it was difficult to me. I realized this and seek my job far away from my parents. After that every thing was OK.
30 Nov 10
i understand your feeling but somehow now that im older i realize my reactions then (like yours) can be really funny. my dad goes to school with me until i was in college and he would wait for me when im out in class. would you believe, now at 25, im still not entitled to go out late with my friends. my parents should know who im going out with and they always make sure im home by 10pm. that really sucks. i already graduated and handling a business but still im treated such. it had its negative effects on me as i havent practiced much of my social skills. thank god for my early work experience that i was able to communicate with different sorts of people. i never was the obedient type of daughter. i attribute part of my knowledge to my exploring in my younger years. have i not done that, i guess i will seem like a kid until now. but really i thank my parents for what they have done for me and i appreciate them for the person ive become now.
• Turks And Caicos Islands
30 Nov 10
I don't know if I would say I was sheltered. It's more like I was overprotected. My parents often wouldn't like me make my own decisions and would always be asking me questions to make sure I was doing things the way that they thought was right. I know someone whose elder relative still babies him and let's him be dependent on her, but it's different in his case because she doesn't monitor everything he does, so he still has freedom to do what he wants.
29 Nov 10
I'm quite the same. From young till now, my mother expects me to report to her where I'm going and to call her if I'm going to be late upon reaching home. There was once when I was attending a Scouts activity and the group took us all to another place to buy the uniform and I didn't call home. The activity lasted till night and my mother was worried, very worried. When I reached home, my parents gave me a good beating and from then, I was expected to report where I am.
• United States
29 Nov 10
I suppose that I was sheltered. But, moreso, my mom was very protective of me. Things that other kids were expected to do on their own - like ride the bus - my mom didn't want me to do. I'm grown now and my mom is still a very integral part of most of what I do. People often admired our relationship, while others called me spoiled - even when I was your age. Although I wouldn't trade my mother's concern and support for the world, it is important for you to get your independence. You can find a way to have and cherish both. And, if you do this I think you will have a lot less stress in your life because you will know that you can make your own way and you will also know that you have the support of your caring, loving parents to back you. So, like you said in your post, be grateful that your parents are who they are.