Because of FEAR

@rolash (34)
Philippines
November 28, 2010 10:57pm CST
I have so many issues when it comes to love. I want it so badly in life but every time it becomes get close something happens and what i thought was gonna be my forever love ends up leaving me broken inside. It's like they take a piece of you that will never return and you are left with a shell of heart that will forever be broken. No matter how hard you try it can never be repaired. I was told once that with the right person, the right love it can and will be repaired but how can that be? Once they see the broken pieces of you, they run. No body wants to wait around and give you the time you need for the repair to take place. It can't be done immediately, it takes patience, time, tenderness, love and willingness to stick around through it all. For some reason, no one is willing to take the chance, and therefore the broken pieces continue. So I do fear that i will end up alone and i have to learn to be okay with that... =)
3 responses
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
if you pray, no worries. but if you worry, you did not pray. why not let yourself repair what has been broken from you. change is the only permanent in this world. why be bothered by your past since there is future that awaits from you. never dwell yourself from the past, move forward and live your life to your happiness. fear is not be feel, because there is Someone up there who loves you and Has already plans for you. :)
@rolash (34)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
thank you for this! im learning that today. I know that God is the only one who can really help me, and He's the only one who knows what to do. I came to realize that the most common reason why i always feel lonely is that im thinking negatively. I should think happy and positive thoughts because the way i think defines the outcome of my future, right??? so now, nothing to worry =)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
yup, besides its your choice to be happy or not. so best choice is to be happy and God will be your guide. i suggest one of the must read book, of course aside from the bible, its the book of entitled Happiness in the Nutshells by Andrew Matthews. He has insights of being happy and how to be confident in dealing with one's individual life. Hope it could help you. :)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
hello rolash! it's understandable that you misunderstand a lot of things about love and about being broken hearted, considering that you end up always left behind, broken inside, or so you thought. well, first of all, nobody can heal a broken heart but yourself. When your last relationship failed you, you should not go jumping again into the love area, just to mend your heart. You should let time heal your wounds, your pains, your aches. If you go into another relationship hoping that it will somehow mend the past hurts, you're mistaken. You will only brought along with you your past hurts and that's a heavy burden to carry, that's why maybe those new guys scurry fast, away from you. No one in his right mind would engage himself with someone who is loaded with baggages from the past. You have to heal yourself first. All that saying that the right person can heal you is just a myth. Only yourself, and perhaps with the help of someone supportive and understanding, can heal yourself. No matter what a loving man would do for you, if you let yourself chained to the hurts of the pasts, if you will not let go of it all, you will not be able to mend your heart. So, stop expecting others to heal you. Take responsibility for yourself. Unless you will, nobody can.
@rolash (34)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
That's so nice of you deriellevc73!=) I'll take your advice but it's going to take a whole lot of work! I'm glad to hear this anyway!
@pogi253 (1587)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
Fear of being alone studied, we all have a fear of being alone, and we don't think that we are going to end up alone. It's not in our plans, but it could be in God's plans, only for a for the moment. We all have fears within us, we all have to face our fears one time or other. We all have to see what it is that is beholding us to our fears, to let our fears go, to give our fears to God.