Funeral....what to give ?

@shia88 (4582)
Malaysia
November 29, 2010 9:26pm CST
Dear MyLotters, I was pretty sad this morning as I got a news from my friend that my best buddy's father has passed away this morning. We just emailed each other yesterday about her dad's condition and my friend is rushing back to our hometown as his dad condition is not in good position,but I never think that her dad will leave this world so fast. I am so far away from my hometown and I am thinking what is the best to give to my buddy's family? I have sent a note via facebook for my Condolances to her family. But I do think of either sent her a flower bucket(for funeral) or either give some money which can be used to pay for funeral expenses. If you were in this situation,what is your opinion?...share with me..!! Thanks.
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@sanjay91422 (2728)
• India
5 Dec 10
If you think that they will accept your money then try to give but what I think is this that in such times your emotional support is most important for them. If you can then visit them and try to talk to them. Rest depends on you. I visited my relative when my uncle expired. All I did is I gave my ear to everything the aunty had to say. Sometimes she cried and I felt like crying but after few days it was ok. I wish you a good luck and have a nice day ahead.
@emgee595 (336)
• Philippines
1 Dec 10
Hi there! I am sorry for the loss of your best buddy. Indeed it is not easy to condole with grieving friends and people who are dear to us when we are miles apart. Although we would really love to be with them in their moments of loss and bereavement, the distance between us makes it impossible for us to be physically with them. But then we can always reach out to them by making a call, sending card and emails to help them go through their sadness and loss. I believe prayers for the one who passed away and for the loved ones he/she left behind also helps. Aside from flowers I also send a Mass Card. It is like offering a prayer petition. Though not all religion have this practice but since I am a Catholic and if the the bereaved family has the same faith with mine then I think it is safe to offer one. I hope my post helped somehow.
@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
30 Nov 10
what is normally done? i think flowers or a fruit basket would be nice if at all possible. something to let them know you are thinking about them will be appreciated.
@jamuls (530)
• Philippines
30 Nov 10
it would be nice if you can go home and be with your best bud. he/she needs you now more than ever. losing a love one is very devastating... i've been there and thanks to my friends, i was able to cope up with my loss... if you can't then give your friend a call every now and then just to see how he/she's doing... give our condolences to your friend too...