Why do we have to fall sometimes with a wrong person?

@joygracia (1325)
Philippines
November 30, 2010 6:49am CST
Had my broken hearts with a wrong guy just last month. I know for a fact that he is not worth of my all but heart dictates all my actions and fall to his trap. Its like a force that leaves me defenseless that time. Now I`m left nothing but pureness of pain. I know I should have not let myself be in this disposition and now I`m still continuing to ask myself why do I have to fall to a wrong person? Ever has situations like this?
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10 responses
@substance (585)
• India
30 Nov 10
I remember an SMS I got from a friend and hope it lightens you up. Imagine your dad have two cars, one is ugly and old and the other one is expensive as well as new and he wants to teach you how to drive, in which car do you think he would teach you. He will teach you in the old and ugly car so that you can crash/scratches it and when you learn how to drive, he would give you the pretty/expensive one. That is how God works.. He would not give you the right one for now, because he know that you can do wrong and loses him/her forever. He wants you to meet at-least one wrong person just to make you know how to treat the right one when he/she comes along... That is the ways of life.. enjoy..
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@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
1 Dec 10
I`m enlightened by what you said. THank you so much! This really made me realize something and it made me better.
• Philippines
26 Dec 10
hello joy, No one wants to find the wrong one its just happened that you fall for someone whom you thought was the right one. Don't blame yourself for finding the wrong one becoz in the right time the right one will come along and you will find the true happiness with him. have a nice day!
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
27 Dec 10
THank you.. I realize that now, I thought its really a big sadness in me if we`d be separated but I am better now without him. I though miss him a lot sometimes but I just thought of the things he`d done bad to me and that made me realize more, he is not meant for me.
• Philippines
27 Dec 10
good move :) you can be better person without him and you will find someone who is deserving for your love. :) have a nice day!
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
1 Dec 10
Oh yes! Been there and done that more than once! I got as far as marriage before realising I was with the wrong person! I suppose having our hearts broken by jerks teaches us valuable lessons because it is by knowing what is not good for us that we learn to look for better. Right now you have to endure the pain but believe me; you will come out of this stronger and wiser and you will have another chance to be happy!
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
1 Dec 10
Wow.. so you married him... this far.. boy I can imagine how painful you`ve gone through but still your able to over come it. I so praise you for that. Thank you so much for sharing and I believe I can overcome this as well and be happy soon..
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• Philippines
30 Nov 10
Because we can't control our hearts to whom it should love. Loving is like a game of chance. You have to take a risk for you to find out if you'll win or not. If you won't undergo the feeling of being hurt, you will not learn from your experience. To be hurt teaches us to be careful the next time we fall. And besides, there is no one in this world, who can tell if he/she is the wrong person for you. I would be up to you to find out. So chill! Be glad you end that relationship too soon. The longer you had been involved with that guy, the harder it would be for you to for forget him and move on.
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
1 Dec 10
Your trully right about everything you said. I fall for him quite a long while. Its been 3 years that`s I keep coming back to him even though he hurt me so much before but this time its worst. I dont ever wanna see him again. I`m glad that I`m able to have the guts this time to end it all. It kinda hurt though at this time but I know it will be okay soon for me. thank you so much for sharing.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
1 Dec 10
Everyone of us might fall in the same situation just like you described above. Sorry to hear it, and we are human beings, and we all have our emotional heart from time to time. When you are truly in love especially, I think. So, you learn your valuable lesson in a hard way, and pick yourself up. Don't fall for his trap again. By the way, if he done something wrong to you, and hurt you, he might got it back the same way. What comes around, goes around.
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
1 Dec 10
I just hope he realize how hurtful he`d cause me... Thanks for sharing..
@buddhis (58)
• China
1 Dec 10
you could not trust the person fully even who you may think you have knew him very well.the relationships between people is much complicated than you think in the society.i believe that you have learnt a lesson from it and you will be more cautious to situations like that.though you have nothing in this moment,i think you can pull up your stacks and obtain what you have again.instead of regreting that all the time,you can make yourself more powerful with the efforts.cheer up!
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
10 Dec 10
Thank you.. this msg from would really lift me up `till I could stand up tall again. Did realize a jerk like my ex does not deserve my cry. I have alot of things ahead of me that I should look forward too and that includes the right one. I`m kinda excited just thinking about it and will think about this from now on and try to forget the hurt of past and look forward.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
30 Nov 10
We don't always know that the wrong person is the wrong person for us. If we could know that, we would make better choices for our hearts. Sometimes we can fall for the wrong person for the right reasons. then we can be more confused romantically than ever!
• Philippines
30 Nov 10
bcuz our emotions keep playing on us...
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
1 Dec 10
like our hearts control everything. thanks for sharing..
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
30 Nov 10
I hope my answer will help you feel better. We fall for the wrong person so that we can learn from that lesson and be able to find the perfect one for us. It's just like practicing! I hope you will be able to move on and find that perfect mate for you! Good luck!
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
1 Dec 10
I just hope the right one comes so I wont have to feel depressed with all this. Thank you so much.
• Tokelau
30 Nov 10
you're definetely not the only one! 90% of guys i ever liked, i never had or i realised too late they're wrong for me. maybe at first we like it, cause it's all new, they treat us diferently than the others, but eventually we realise it was just wrong for us. but don't worry, there has to be someone that's right for us, no doubt. you just have to search some more, or look better around you, maybe that guy/girl is already found, just not realised it yet.