Love triangel
By Reed201084
@Reed201084 (347)
United States
November 30, 2010 5:36pm CST
I have three friends caught in a love triangle and don't know if i should say something to them at large or should i just but out. One of the people is someone that i grew up with and went to youth group at church with for years. The other are people that i worked with and know very well also. The man that i worked with had a baby with the other woman that i worked with than he left her for the one that i grew up with. so now the one i grew up with found out that i know the man and the one that he is now with and she wants me to try and talk him in to coming back to her. I really don't want in this mess care about and like all the people involved im looking for any advice on what i should do.
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7 responses
@Elixiress (3878)
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1 Dec 10
Theoretically speaking I would say don't get involve, you are friends with them all and taking sides will only ruin your friendships with them. However in reality I cannot help but get involved so I probably wouldn't follow my own advice so I can't really expect anyone else to.
@Elixiress (3878)
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1 Dec 10
You can't or if you can then I don't know how, which is why I think getting involved will loose you friends.
@Reed201084 (347)
• United States
1 Dec 10
eah but how do I do that without hurting anyone's feelings. Any ideas?
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
1 Dec 10
I would say unless one of them is asking for what you think and or express their feelings of some sort of funny feeling with the relationship, then I would not meddle.
See if someone was asking I probably would not be direct, but would certainly say something to make them somehow figure it out on their own. What may happen if you meddle without being asked you will be put int the center and loose all friend relationships.
However if I was one caught up in this mess and I asked you directly then I would expect the truth from my friend.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
1 Dec 10
If I were in this type of situation and he was telling me to get out of it, but yet she is asking me to get into it. I would go to him directly and let him know that she is asking. If my friendship with her was valuable that is then I would tell him, you go and talk to her directly as I want no part of it. If you do not then I will tell her for you.
If he does not say anything to her then he does not value me as a friend and how can I be a valuable friend to her. See I would be thinking that if I was her then the female knowing would not be a good friend.
This way if he does not go to her, and she comes to me then I can easily say I have my thoughts about it and I feel something is not right but you need to speak to him directly.
Good luck it is a tough situation.
@Reed201084 (347)
• United States
17 Dec 10
I think maybe it is best I just let the whole situation go.
@Reed201084 (347)
• United States
1 Dec 10
That is the thing i really don't want to meddle with it. He has asked me to stay out of it and she is asking me to get into it.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
1 Dec 10
You have to be careful if you try to dissolve a love triangle. You may end up being the one who gets hurt when all you are trying to do is help. there are so many factors to consider. In a love triangle someone is going to lose.@Reed201084 (347)
• United States
1 Dec 10
But that is the thing I am not even in the triangle. Should I even involve myself at all. Should I?
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
1 Dec 10
I suggest you just butt out. It's not good to meddle with other people's business even if you have the permission to cuz if it turns out wrong, and in this case it always do, you're the one to be blamed for making their decisions.
@Reed201084 (347)
• United States
1 Dec 10
Yeah I been trying to butt out but she keeps trying to drag me back in. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but what choice do I have?
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
1 Dec 10
I guess you'd have to hurt her feelings in order to do what's right.
@pogi253 (1586)
• Philippines
1 Dec 10
The messiest and mainly complicated love triangles involve marriage and children, where the latter should be the major concern for all concerned. Anybody eager to enter into the tangled mess that comes from sharing a partner of someone else may suffer from deep-rooted insecurities and self-esteem issues.
@Reed201084 (347)
• United States
1 Dec 10
There are kids involved. And that is what makes this so c0omplicated . I just want to be friends with all of tyem but it is hard to do when they are trying to pull me into this mess. What should I do?
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
1 Dec 10
You shouldn't get involved at all. You can give an advice to your friend but really, it's better to keep your butt out! YOu don't want to be in that kind of mess! And you can still be a good friend to your friend even if you stay out of that situation. Good luck!
@Reed201084 (347)
• United States
1 Dec 10
I dont want to be involved but they keep dragging me back in. How do I stay out of it without hurting anyone's feelings?
@achilles2010 (3051)
• India
1 Dec 10
I know for sure one thing. When two people are involved with each other then the one who comes between them gets cut. Best thing to do is not to come between them. If they approach you then just give them your tacit advise with clear hint that you would not want yourself involved in all this. Let them sort the things of their own making.
@Reed201084 (347)
• United States
1 Dec 10
Yeah it is a messy situation and i want out of it but they are my friends and they are trying to drag me into it. What do I o without hurting anyones feelings??
