can you change a man?

Well, it depends.. If you spoil your man, then I don't think he will change. My husband before we were married had hurt me a couple of times. He was into things that I don't approve of and just don't seem to care. I decided I should leave him because he is not worth it. But when he decided to get back with me... I also decided we can but there will be conditions this time. He seemed responsive and proven he already changed. Well, I didn't change him, I motivated him to do so, but the decision was still up to him.. If a person is willing to change then you can do something to help them but if a person doesn't want to then we can't force them and move on...

You cant change a man, a man would change himself by his own will. If he really loves you, he will change those things that he thinks you don't like. He will change to make him likeable to you. If you force someone to change for you, it will just cause problems in the long run.

My boyfriend tried to change himself for his ex because she was never happy with him. He tried so hard, and she still cheated on him. I think when you really love someone you shouldn't feel the need to change him (at least nothing major), you should love him the way he is. The only thing I'm trying to do with my boyfriend is to get him to travel- he's hardly been anywhere and I just want him to see what's out there in the world. I'm not trying to change his personality- I just want him to experience different things...

hello sswissheart, I really believe you cannot change a man no matter how hard your try. There personality are ingrained. They are so different from females. Many females have tried and failed. I accept there weakness and try to help or guide them to where I hope they may want to be but if it is forced they will buck it. The men need to go at there own pace and we just need grace and little discipline to see the fruits of there labor. Thanks and have a great night! Sincerely unqiue16