what do you think wolud be the limitations in having a friend?

Philippines
December 2, 2010 7:58pm CST
all of us have friend,i have a friend before i shared everything to her all my secrets,until we had a fight ,so all my my secrets that must be kept open up,i really get mad to her...ive realised that although were so much intact of friendship i shouldnt tell everything.how about ?have u ever had experience like this?
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@karishna (86)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
hi! yup you should have a limit wit regards to your friends especially your best friend because sometimes your worst enemy will be your closest friend right? I believe that it is better to share it with your siblings rather than your friend because there are times that your friend will be the one who will ruin you. If you really really wanted to share to your friend just set some LIMITS on what you tell him/her. as we all know there is an idiom "slip of the tongue" which is very common to everyone right.
@knicnax (2234)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
I had. It wasn't a pleasant experience. I don't know why people who you confided in before would betray you when you're no long friends. It's you never became friends at all. I don't tell everything to my friends, it's hard to deal with the betrayal. It's not that I think we'll fight and they'll betray me, i'm just more cautious
3 Dec 10
yes i also experienced what you had experienced. and it was painful for me because i thought i can kept all the secrets that i've shared to her. but what happened was opposite with what i'm expected. from that on, i realized that not all friends are trustworthy.so we should not tell all our secrets to our friends. even a close friend.
• United States
3 Dec 10
Yes and although he was a guy he was the best friend I had ever. He knew for a fact that I was a very personal and private person. That I would never find myself in any form of gossip and I can not stand people who gossip. One day we were going to a ball game, sort of a reunion with old friends. While in the car my phone rang and one of the mutual friends called to tell she would not go as she had a long time grudge with another friend that would be attending. So my guy friend asked me what that was all about, and the thing is that we never had to tell one another not tell other people as we both trusted one with the other. Some how I felt the need to say please do not say something to anyone at the ball game especially the other girl as I liked her very much and the last I wanted was to get in the middle. So no sooner then we plant our behinds on our seats he blabs and tells her every thing. Oh my gosh I looked at him as if he were an enemy as it caused friction with her and the other girl who had called me. I was so embarrassed and confronted for almost a year. All the while I was so upset with my guy friend as he knew very well that I was not that type of person and he put my friendship and caring nature to a test. Since then I must admit that he and I are amicable but as far as being close it ended.