if I should LOVE again...i am sure it won't be YOU..

@jaiho2009 (38810)
Philippines
December 3, 2010 10:04am CST
Your love broke your heart. And now that you have learned to moved on,and totally have forgotten all about the past, then here comes again that person that broke your heart asking for forgiveness. Would you give another chance? What are the chances that you might give that person another chance? Or are you brave enough to face and say " if I should LOVE again,i am sure that it won't be YOU" have a great weekend everyone 12/03/10
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@Freezole (246)
• Malaysia
3 Dec 10
Okay I'll give second chance but not the third time.
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@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
hello Freezole, What a precise answer,second chance but never a third Yes,i think it's reasonable enough that there will no third time. I also believed that,doing the same mistake over and over again doesn't need explanation why it is not acceptable for the third time. It's not easy to moved on when someone we love so much could have caused us the pain. And giving a second chance is not easier either since we are investing again the trust,love and devotion. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@Freezole (246)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 10
absolutely the second chance is not easy to start..but if he/she is truly conscious and repent everything he/she has done before and also promise not to repeat same mistake again, than I'll try to give he/she a second chance to prove it.
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@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
hello again, The woman you would love is so lucky,because men seldom gives a woman another chance. I knew that ,men are are not as expressive when it comes to love compared to women. have a good day always
• Philippines
17 Mar 11
halu jai i did it already my dear,.lol because he hurt me many times,i forgiven him and giving him many chances but he doesn't stop hurting me.until i was tired for it. take care jai
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@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
17 Mar 11
hello Syd, Uhmn...now you are saying that...but before you were saying the opposite thing You even cried like a cow when your mom asks you not to marry that guy love yah
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
halu Jaihao, yes,because my head was bump into the wall,that's why i was awaken already (LOL) anyway,lvzu too.
• Philippines
21 Dec 10
Good Morning Jaiho, Giving another chance to someone is also giving the chance to do the same mistake again, no one wants to find someone who is similar to someone who cause sorrow and pain in the past of her/his life. I 'd rather walk alone with a happy heart and smile on my face than to holding while walking to someone who can give me sorrow and pain that can lead me to hatred and negative outlook in life. Maybe if he will ask me if i can love him again i will tell him " I already did and you let it go, I want someone else who is not like you".No difference in telling it won't be him again. :D It seems you are doing good now and i am happy for you :) love yah!
@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
22 Dec 10
hmnn, i am always doing good...and you know that ,more than i do hahaa
• Philippines
22 Dec 10
aha!really?uuuhhmmm.............i will just agree on you :P
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• India
4 Dec 10
I love someone !! too much !! Now she is not with me either. I am sure, i can't love anyone else like that, and now not to her also.
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@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
hello cluster, It's not easy to love again when you have given all your best to that someone and yet you lost. It seems that you get tired of loving and giving love,because you felt it's all in vain. I knew few friends who are afraid of falling in love again after a traumatic experience. Love is sweet,and bitter when you get hurt. Thanks for your response and have a great day
• India
7 Dec 10
I am not tired of loving her.I got tired of trying to get out of it.I can't. All the things i feel ,dreams are running in my vains. Why we love someone ? it kills us softly.
• India
3 Jan 11
Hello I am happily married since 45 years, i never had premarital love affairs in my opinion if some body broke ones heart, he/she should never be trusted for the second time,,, just forget and ignore,, this world is full of cheaters.. Thank you so much for this discussion. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. . Cheers have a lucky day ahead. God bless you.
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@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
5 Jan 11
hello dada, Yes,this world is full of cheaters. I admire people who are sincere especially when it comes to love. And congrats for having a wonderful married life for 45 years. i wish you all the best on your married life dada. Have a good day always
@leeh2229 (85)
• Philippines
23 Dec 10
I am the type of person i guess that when i let of anything in my life, i wont be crawling back to get it nor accept it back... cause I in the first i don't want to make the same mistake over and over again!
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@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
23 Dec 10
Hello leeh, Precisely,why let that person keeps hurting,when you deserve someone who will love you more than he can. That is why i am also wondering some people stays in a relationship when they've been suffering pain all the time. Well,it's their life,just wonder what the reason,when they complain but still stays with the same person. Thanks for your response and HAPPY HOLIDAY
@shibham (17025)
• India
22 Dec 10
Hi didi.. I think you have something negative in your life. I don't know what and never ask in public. BUt be sure... True love comes once in a life and never forget to welcome it. For me, i have already run a lot for a true love and when it will come, definitely i shall ask it for my second life. Have a nice day.
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@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
22 Dec 10
hello dear bhai, My life is an open book here in mylot. though it is not detailed by lines. But,almost everything about my life is written here in mylot already. Mylot becomes my public diary,cause i always have this principle in life that,i am who i am,what you see is what you get. I am frank and i don't want to hide anything from everyone,because i don't like explaining things to people. Besides,i don't have secrets to hide...so i am a very transparent person my dear brother. how i really wish you can publish a book of my life Have a great day always dear bhai
@Xansus (950)
• Bulgaria
5 Dec 10
Hardly Doubting that this will happen but even if it happens i'll think about it of course . Yes she broke my heart , but i don't mind risking heart brake again instead of just being lonely and well we already know a lot of our mistakes and our bad sides . Well if i have someone else i will not even reconsider :) It really depends on the situation and on the two persons :P
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@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
hello Xansus, There are couples that after the second chance,lived much happier,and i can say,they are lucky. But there are also second chances that still doesn't worked out after giving it a try. In an instant that you've wrote,of course if you are already engaged to other person,it will be hard to give another chance with the past. That's one of the hardest part either,being torn into two (esp if you still love your past) It remind me of the song that goes this way "torn between two lovers,feeling like a fool,loving both of you is breaking all the rules" Thanks for your response and have a great day always
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
Hello jaiho, If only i can teach my heart then why should i be on his arms again the second time? There's a song that goes like this. I'd rather have bad times with you than good times with some else I'd rather be beside you in storm, than safe and warm by myself I'd rather have hard times together, than to have it easy apart I'd rather have the one who holds my heart.. . . And i believe that there's only one love, one great love that no one can replace it. True love can cause us great pain but after the spirit of deep forgiveness there's heaven awaits. Happy Mylotting!!
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@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
hello sardonyx, that's something... I like the lyrics of that song. I knew couples who successfully lives after giving each other a second chance,like the saying goes "love is lovelier the second time around" but,it's not applicable to everybody. There are other second chances that did not worked out too. In some event,it's like gambling...whether to win or lose. Lucky are those who wins...and for those who lost it the second time,it was real frustration. Forgiving is easy,but loving the same person like the first time is a big question. Maybe that depends on how the scar is,or how much it hurts the concerned one. Thanks for your response and have a great day always
@SimpleBB (1332)
• Philippines
4 Dec 10
For me, it depends. If I really love this person and he did it once and unintentional or let say was influenced by something that he could not resist, probably I would be able to give him another chance. Why? Mainly because why is he there asking for forgiveness? Maybe he just did it abruptly and soon realized that he still need and want to win me back. On the contrary, if he did something that really made a deep scar in my heart that caused me to forget all the good things we've shared, well then, that could make me get over him that fast and easy, thus I could pushed him away.
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@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
hello SimpleBB, You got good points here. Yes,if it caused by the circumstances then that would be acceptable. But,if he did intentionally because he wanted to...then,that's another story. Pain of heartbreak caused by someone we love so much always leaves a deep scar that only time can tell if it's totally healed. Loving the same person again is another risks to take...it's like trusting him/her again like a stranger. thanks for your response and have a great day always
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
4 Dec 10
It's hard to move on from a broken heart. there are so many feelings and emotions that overtake you. When you finally get to a point where you thnk you have gotten over the past, it comes back to haunt you. This is a true test of your character when you are faced with the one who broke your heart. Everyone deserves a second chance. We have to be the one willing to give it. We are all human and forgiveness is something that helps us to move forward.
@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
hello sender, That's a big challenge giving another chance to a person who caused you pain and frustration. And you are right,unless you faced the person once again,until then you will realized the true feeling you had towards him/her. you might forgive and be friends,or give him/her another chance,he/she might have changed for the better. But for some people,they don't like risking once more with the same person,but would rather prefer risking another try with another person. Thanks for your response and have a great day
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
4 Dec 10
from a broken heart's standpoint: "damn no! where was him when i needed him the most? he doesn't have a single idea he put me to hell. the pain is freaking killing me! he deserves no place in my life again."
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@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
hello margaux, Great expression "where the h*ll is he when i needed him the most" Yah,the guts to asks another chance,when he never had any idea about the suffering and pain that you go through when he left you broken hearted. And now,he comes asking another chance like nothing happens (d*mned) Let him suffer and feel the same thing (wish he knows how it is to be neglected) Thanks for your response and have a good day
@Sreekala (18142)
• India
4 Dec 10
Hi sister, If the person left you/me by breaking the heart how can we trust the person again. Moreover he/she took long time to realize the mistake then better to draw strong line in between. dear, I am not an easy forgiving person if somebody hurts me even in friendship. I will try my best to maintain the friendship and relationships but if a person felt uncomfortable with me better to let the person ‘GO’. However, please remember, I won’t give a chance to you for coming back Love you, have a nice weekend to you.
@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
hello sister Sree, Precisely,it's easy to forgive but not to trust again someone who betrays at the first place. And,yes if that someone really loves you,why does it takes a long time before coming back again. There's a few things to consider aside from love and forgiveness,because there is no guarantee that he will not do the same thing again. Imagine the pain and suffering,and now that you have already forget all those pains,here comes that someone asking another chance... Love is not a game that we can try again once we lost. Not every second chance succeed,so,it's not easy to give another try. Thanks for your response and have a great day always
• United States
4 Dec 10
Coming from someone who isn't always good at the relationship thing and who tends to screw up a lot, I would say I would forgive the person. There's no reason to hold a grudge towards someone..especially if they're truly sorry and would like to change. I also don't think it would take that much bravery to turn them away after they hurt you. If anything, it seems to me like that would be taking the easy way out and letting your fear of possibly getting hurt again, get the best of you. But, that's just me. :)
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@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
hello melissa, Yes,it's not good to keep the hatred in our heart,we can always forgive anyone who had done wrong things to us. Forgiving will give us peace of mind and good vibes. Giving one more chance is not bad at all either as long as we love the person and we want to give another chance. Taking risks is always the name of love,and giving one more chance is taking risks,it might turn out with good result. Thanks for your response and have a good day
• United States
4 Dec 10
There is only one person who has truly broken my heart. I see him as a complete monster now. So, I will be one of those people who is brave enough to say "If I should love again, I am sure that won't be you." My heart could never love such a person again.
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@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
hello chelsea, I admire you for that. Not everyone has the guts to say those words,mostly they give another chance. And not every second chance also succeed,some still get the hurting like it is the first time. Some even give second,third and fourth chance (i wonder how they were able to manage the pain) It's hard to moved on from a heartbreak that was caused by someone we dearly love. And i understand hy you are hesitant to give another chance to the person who caused you pain. Trust is so hard to give for the second time. Thanks for your response and have a good day
• United States
3 Dec 10
Looking back at my past relationships I have to say I would never get back as there is a reason why the broke my heart in the past, and well it took me time to move on. I do not go back in life at all, perhaps because it was painful.
@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
Hello hardworkinggurl, I understand why some people doesn't want to give another chance. If the pain is unmeasurable ,which i'm sure it's really painful,they don't want to take risk once more. Sometimes giving one more chance is lovelier the second time around,but sometimes it's not. Sometimes,after the second chance...still he/she will hurt you again...and that would be another pain and hearbreaking event that might lead us into frustration and life devastation. Love is sweet,but you can even taste the bitterness of it literally once you have a broken heart. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@devijay78 (1576)
• India
3 Dec 10
Once a person has betrayed you, it would be very difficult to trust him/her again. Forgiving the person will help the wound heal and move on. But forgiving does not mean getting back with the same person. Both are entirely different. Forgiving the person is to heal yourself and in some small way feel satisfied that the person has realised that he/she has hurt you which he/she should not have done. But that is the extent to which I would be willing to go. Getting back with that person is a definite no even though it would be too tempting. Once the trust is broken, it is very difficult to build it again. If it was my husband, I would at least think about it for my daughter's sake. But if it was someone else, then a definite no.
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@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
hello devijay, Precisely,that would be entirely different. Forgiving doesn't mean accepting and getting back again in a relationship. Forgiving people who have done wrong to us give us peace of mind and living in peace is one achievement that money and power can't buy. Giving another chance to someone we love is normal thing,wishing they won't hurt or do the same mistake again. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
3 Dec 10
Hi sweetie. I won't give another chance. Why leave me in the first place then? It only means you will leave and hurt me again. I won't take that chance at all. I would rather say that i should love again, but it won't be him then. We can be hurt only so much, then it's done and oveer with. TATA.
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@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
hello saphy, You explained everything well my dear. Yes,it's true...why leave in the first place if he loves you. If you stayed faithful,why can't he? (hmnnn...make sense really) Thanks for your response and have a great day always
• India
3 Dec 10
Hello, This reminds me of a song by Lara Fabian, [i]Did I ever tell you how you live in me Every waking moment, even in my dreams And if all this talk is crazy And you don't know what I mean Does it really matter Just as long as I believe I will love again Though my heart is breaking, I will love again Stronger than before I will love again Even if it takes a lifetime to get over you Heaven only knows, I will love again People never tell you The way they truly feel I would die for you gladly If I knew it was for real So if all this talk sounds crazy And the words don't come out right Does it really matter If it gets me through this night If I'm true to myself, nobody else can take the place of you But I've got to move on, tell me what else can I do I will love again One day I know, I will love again You can't stop me from loving again, breathing again Feeling again I know, one day, I'll love again [/i] It's important that you move on. But to move on, it's important to forget and leave behind your past. And to forget things you need to forgive him. I know it's very hard. But it is necessary for your own wellbeing and for the sake of people who are connected with you. Don't even think if he deserves forgiveness. Forgive him just because you want to have a better life for yourself. You want to move on. Thanks. God bless you.
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@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
hello dear bhai, You love music huh,and thanks for this wonderful lyrics that you have here. Anyway,this topic is inspired from a song too. I was listening to my favorite singer and when he sing this song,this topic pop up in my mind. The song originally has the title "IF I SHOULD LOVE AGAIN" Here is some lines of that song too (just to share for you) "if i should love again, if i find someone new, it would be make believe,for in heart it would be you and though i hold her close and want her now and then i'll still be loving you if i should love again" I know it is not good to keep hatred in our hearts and giving forgiveness is one way of making ourself free from all the burdens of a broken heart. It's not easy to moved on from a broken heart. It's not easy to just say "i had forgiven you" to someone whom you trust and betrayed you. But,learning to live in peace pays a great price (sacrifice is the best name) Thanks for your response and have a good day always
• India
3 Dec 10
sure, I will really accept her love.Because every individual in this earth will do a mistake .And once they realized there mistake its more than enough instead punishing him/her is waste of time.And one more thing is if they realized there mistake they will not make that mistake again.And in case of love we cannot hate the person we loved most and if we hate them then it is not a true love .As far as in my case I will surely accept her love .
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@jaiho2009 (38810)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
hello ajith, When we loved someone so much,we are always willing to give them another chance no matter how much they've hurt us. I've done such thing before,i was cheated and give that someone another chance (many times) And living with hatred in our heart is not good either. Even if we don't give that someone another chance,just giving them forgiveness is good enough to be fair with. thanks for your response and have a good day always