Is It That Easy?
By Toni
@toniganzon (72279)
Philippines
December 6, 2010 7:40am CST
Tonight I received another love proposal.
This guy is from a chat room that pays and I'm an active member in that site. I met good friends from that site and yes I do enjoy talking although I haven't been that active for the past few days.
When somebody asks for my facebook account, I don't give it because they couldn't find me anyway but I can find those people and add them up. I have added a few from that site.
Now here comes this 25-year old guy telling me that he fell in love with me because of the way I talk and because of my photos. How could that be possible? I just can't understand because we hardly talk to each other and we barely knew each other. And he just saw my photos and he's telling me I've got kind good eyes.
I told him I really couldn't believe that and he's dead serious in proving his love to me.
Could you believe this guy? 
13 responses
@Elixiress (3878)
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6 Dec 10
He sounds really creepy to me. If he does generally love you then it is likely that he will have some form of mental condition whether or not it is diagnosed. On the other hand he could not actually love you and is just trying to take advantage of you by saying he does, hoping that maybe you will send him money or something.
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@Elixiress (3878)
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7 Dec 10
Well there is a way between the birds and the bees, which would fall under the "creepy" category lol.
On a nicer note, he could buy you things off your Amazon wishlist or send you items that you have mentioned that you like.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
8 Dec 10
LOL! Thanks for that one! I'll consider that ahaaha, shopping in Amazon!
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
And he said he's gonna prove his love to me. How can he do that? hahahah
@fourjems08 (550)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
Sounds just like any other guy -- a sweet talker. Only foolish girl would fall for it. Of course most of the people you met online are not serious. You could play his games if you want too. Just be careful not to fall though. :)
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
Would be impossible for me to fall for him! I'm married, he's not, he's young just 25 ahahaha and so foolish!
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
I'm not an easy person and I can't be teased that way hahaha! It's impossible to ruin my family just because of someone I haven't met or is not important to me at all.
@getbiswa2000 (5545)
• India
8 Dec 10
Hi,
To answer this question I should first see your eyes. 
I think your username has something to do with this guy making a proposal. The kind of username you have there is misleading. It gives a false impression about you. This guy thought that you're available and tried to impress you by all means possible. Don't worry about it. It's just a sudden urge of pleasure, which will pass soon. Try not to pay any attention to that guy and you'll soon find that guy ogling at other girls. That's just a regular guy with extreme hunger for pleasure. Your candid and humorous nature turned him on and mislead him in believing you're ready for his proposal. You change that approach and he will be away from you. Thanks.
God bless you.
I think your username has something to do with this guy making a proposal. The kind of username you have there is misleading. It gives a false impression about you. This guy thought that you're available and tried to impress you by all means possible. Don't worry about it. It's just a sudden urge of pleasure, which will pass soon. Try not to pay any attention to that guy and you'll soon find that guy ogling at other girls. That's just a regular guy with extreme hunger for pleasure. Your candid and humorous nature turned him on and mislead him in believing you're ready for his proposal. You change that approach and he will be away from you. Thanks.
God bless you. 1 person likes this
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
8 Dec 10
Hahahaha, yeah indeed my username there is so misleading, it's just a little strange though because lately I've been talking there seriously and he's a new member. I never talked to him there the way I used to talk to you. He said it's because of my facebook photos hahaha!
@sardonyx777 (450)
• Philippines
8 Dec 10
@getbiswa
Hi! you seems right on this friend. Having a name such as her :) oh! were talking about you Toni! hello are you in there? hehehe. is totally misleading a man with great urge. This is one of the sweet sour prize to a woman like you.
But you have a nice suggestion above biswa.
@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
It would really depend on how long you've been communicating with each other and the topics. It is now possible in this age. So how long have you known him online?
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@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
8 Dec 10
Wow that is fast! Now I'm interested to see you pictures in Facebook as well
How serious he is would depend on your conversations. If he was able to discern your personality from you Facebook and your chats, it would be a possible starting point.
However, I agree with other posts that he may just be a guy who has seen a beautiful girl and wants to be with her. It may creep you out but there are guys and even girls who don't have offline lives who act that way online.
How serious he is would depend on your conversations. If he was able to discern your personality from you Facebook and your chats, it would be a possible starting point.
However, I agree with other posts that he may just be a guy who has seen a beautiful girl and wants to be with her. It may creep you out but there are guys and even girls who don't have offline lives who act that way online.@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
8 Dec 10
I've talked to everybody in that chat room for over a month and I haven't talked to him alone in particular. Maybe I made a few lines with him maybe just for a week before he proposed.
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@sardonyx777 (450)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
Hello toni,
All are unique from each other and distinctive especially we came from different countries. Maybe he is maybe not. But upon reading most of your words in here even me i can be fall for you.
Do you still chatting with each other? Well, its your choice now. Keeping in touch with clear intentions is not bad for me. Releasing emotions like appreciation is not bad at all but going beyond the limit you know what i mean is another story. Anything could happen but again its your choice.
I have that experience also. I reciprocated his words of endearment because that's how i felt on that same moment. Nothing to be super deep serious. Reality check! We are just facing our own electronic gadget.
THanks! Bottom line of that is you are adorable!
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
8 Dec 10
I chat with everybody in ro2 like you. You can see there that i chat with almost everybody and I don't ignore no one. He will be out for five days that's what he said because he will go on vacation. We chat only from ro2.
@rs1lencer (38)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 10
i dont believe him. love cant come just from see a photo. that is not love. he like you just from your look. he only love how you looks like. not the entire YOU. but if you still want to know the reality then meet him. give him chance to show you how is his love. but still be carefull.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
8 Dec 10
I already told him that what he has for me is just a mere attraction and not love at all, but he insisted! Well in meeting him, I don't have any plans at all.
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
6 Dec 10
HI Toni hun.
Ill start with this, I met my boyfriend through the internet...BUT; we began talking for months then decided to met and go out then began dating...it took us 2 months to say I love you after we dated. I don't think this guy who proclaims his love for you understands love. He may think you are attractive and like the way you talk the times you have talked but he doesn't know the things that make you tick, the you inside so I don't think he can know that he loves you.
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@redmaryjane (891)
• United States
7 Dec 10
I met my boyfriend through the Internet too. It took us a while before we actually said "I love you" to each other and it did take a longer while before he proposed. These things take time, and if someone (online or otherwise) really loves you, they'll take their time before saying they're in love with you. It'll take time for them even realize that they're in love with you.
@JudgeIronFist (2472)
• Singapore
7 Dec 10
Nope it's not that easy. Chatrooms are full of traps and bad people, who are always on the hunt for their prey. Perverts and stalkers especially. You must not believe that person. His glib tongue is used to fool girls into doing 'things' with him. Chatrooms always have dangers and risks that you must be aware of. It's not possible to know a person just through a chat. He's probably a scammer. Don't get fooled by him.
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@sunnycool (12714)
• India
7 Dec 10
Even i proposed a girl straight away --- we hardly knew each other then and its the same even now...quiet an handful of interactions thats it! Unlike the guy you talking about...i haven't seen her pics,dont know a bit about her as where she lives,what she does --- ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! And i'm not going to bug her for details either...coz i least care about them.And the damn fact is i'm being as skeptical as she is about me.If you ask me how serious i'm about this ... only time would show it.great day.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Dec 10
Hi Toni,
I saw some of your pics too and loved them - remember the one that was without any makeup
Hey, wait. Try out some fun here. I know you are not serious but there is a fun angle that you can have for sometime. It is internet and here there is no real life love story that is gonna happen. It is not something from the movie- "You Have Got Mail" it is just a phase and would pass over soon.
On Serious grounds - tell him plain and simple - the fact - you are not interested. Thats all you can do or worst - remove him from your List - ban him for ever.
Cheers,
theSids.
Hey, wait. Try out some fun here. I know you are not serious but there is a fun angle that you can have for sometime. It is internet and here there is no real life love story that is gonna happen. It is not something from the movie- "You Have Got Mail" it is just a phase and would pass over soon.
On Serious grounds - tell him plain and simple - the fact - you are not interested. Thats all you can do or worst - remove him from your List - ban him for ever.
Cheers,
theSids.1 person likes this
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
Thanks for that friend, well he's not giving up and he told me he'll come here someday hahaha!
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
6 Dec 10
ahah well i guess that the guy maybe wants a gf and saw that you are cute and sweet and decided to ask you to be his lover ahah he thinks you are pretty and also maybe he thinks you are a good girl and wants to meet you better^^ anyway you have a husband already and he knows that right? anyway i really wish that the guy isnt lying about his feelings anyway bcs you could be good friends :)
well i guess that the guy maybe wants a gf and saw that you are cute and sweet and decided to ask you to be his lover ahah he thinks you are pretty and also maybe he thinks you are a good girl and wants to meet you better^^ anyway you have a husband already and he knows that right? anyway i really wish that the guy isnt lying about his feelings anyway bcs you could be good friends :)1 person likes this
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
Yeah he knows I'm married, he saw my facebook! And he's so serious in proving his love ahahha!
@lady_di1210 (263)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
There's no harm in confessing one's feeling over the internet. Besides he can't see you in person anyway. That guy is way too creepy. If he's really is serious with what he's telling you, then he'd be ready to come over to your place and meet you up regardless of how much it costs to travel across oceans.
There's nothing to worry about.. You can tell him that you're married, and if he doesn't believe or if he can't accept the truth, just ignore him. It's not that you're hurting his feelings but it's for your own safety.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
He saw in my facebook that i'm married and made some comments on my photos with my son!
