My sister passed and my family changed...
By dani43326
@dani43326 (12)
United States
December 7, 2010 10:55pm CST
I wanted to post this to see if this has ever happened to your family.My sister passed away in june of '05 she was the baby of four girls.I lived by myself with three kids,when i got the call she passed away from diabetes. No one had known she had even had it.It threw my family in shock and a whirlwind of emotions these past five years.We use to be very close, my mom sisters and i.But now we have fallen apart it feels like we lost that closeness i thought we would be there more for eatch other but its not like that at all.My older sister has not talked to my mom in over 2 years! I barely do anymore we email more than anything and that might be once every 3 to 4 months!I have a friend who lost her dad and she told me after his death her family wasnt as tight.So im wondering if anyone elses family is like that after the death of a loved one?
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5 responses
@angeline1 (144)
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9 Dec 10
I know the feeling of lossing a family member.everyone
Just have to move on with their lives.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
8 Dec 10
Hi dani
First and foremost,i would like to welcome you here in mylot.I hope you will enjoy your stay here.it's good that you've join the site.advices of the members can make you smile or sometimes makes you laugh,so bare with us.
Anyway,going back to your discussion,it is actually a different situation.this is the first time i read about this.if we are going to analyze the situation,with what happen,you should be tight or should be more close to another.have you not open up with your mom?or maybe she is still on the process of recovery or adjustment.is your sister, a favorite daughter of your mom?give your mom more time until she was able to move on and accept that her daughter is already gone.or you can also do the first move.why not visit your mom or your sister,or you can set up a simple reunion?i hope my advices help you.
First and foremost,i would like to welcome you here in mylot.I hope you will enjoy your stay here.it's good that you've join the site.advices of the members can make you smile or sometimes makes you laugh,so bare with us.
Anyway,going back to your discussion,it is actually a different situation.this is the first time i read about this.if we are going to analyze the situation,with what happen,you should be tight or should be more close to another.have you not open up with your mom?or maybe she is still on the process of recovery or adjustment.is your sister, a favorite daughter of your mom?give your mom more time until she was able to move on and accept that her daughter is already gone.or you can also do the first move.why not visit your mom or your sister,or you can set up a simple reunion?i hope my advices help you.
@iwrite (5034)
• Singapore
8 Dec 10
Well I am not sure, but my family and our culture have close relationship with each other. My grand mother just pass away and you know it was a great lost to all of us.
We felt the lost among all of us. I hope that we treasure of the living and not wait till the pass away before we regret.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
8 Dec 10
I have four siblings and i'm the youngest in the family. We used to play all together in one room and and spend the holidays together all the time. When my parents got killed when I was 13, things changed between us. We became distant, stiff, and the fun that used to be there no longer existed.
I think it's so difficult to let the closeness stay when somebody who used to bind the family together is no longer there.
