How do you manage to do household activities alone when spouse out of Station?
@chaitra001 (3278)
Bangalore, India
December 11, 2010 8:53pm CST
Hi friends.. My husband is going out of station on work for a week.. and its really difficult for me to manage all the works alone because I am addicted to taking help from him.. 
and main reason I cant stay alone in big house so I have asked my sister to join me and help me.. and for paying bills and all he used to do some of those works and he had done most of the things before today and we used to shop vegetables and fruits in the weekend for the full week.. That is also done yesterday so I need not have to worry on those.. 
but he used to drop me to office almost daily but for next 5 days I have to use public transport since I dont know driving.. Other than this he made all arrangements so that his absense should not disturb our daily routine.. but I really miss him this full week.. 
What about you friends how you people will make arrangements to carry out your daily routines if your spouse is out of station for few days.. please share..
and main reason I cant stay alone in big house so I have asked my sister to join me and help me.. and for paying bills and all he used to do some of those works and he had done most of the things before today and we used to shop vegetables and fruits in the weekend for the full week.. That is also done yesterday so I need not have to worry on those.. but he used to drop me to office almost daily but for next 5 days I have to use public transport since I dont know driving.. Other than this he made all arrangements so that his absense should not disturb our daily routine.. but I really miss him this full week..
What about you friends how you people will make arrangements to carry out your daily routines if your spouse is out of station for few days.. please share..2 people like this
7 responses
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
15 Dec 10
Hi Chaitra!
I just could not reply to your post earlier. Now he would have gone and you will be managing your affairs alone? I know it get difficult when the partner is away and one is required to do all the errands single handedly. Please do not worry, these 5 days will pass somehow and he will be back with you after 5 days. Handling all the affairs yourself will give you some confidence and courage to face the odds (without him). I am sure you will be able to manage, all the best.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
16 Dec 10
Hi deepak.. Thanks for the support and giving me courage.. yes its almost 3-4 days now.. I am adjusted little bit.. Since I am scared to stay alone I requested my sister to stay with me for these 5 days.. So she is with me but I am managing 95% of the works myself..
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
16 Dec 10
thats great you are helping her to do household jobs..
@eshaan (6188)
• India
12 Dec 10
For me...i have no problems...as i am house-wife..our work are fully divided..and i do all the house-work and he the outside ones...so he only gives money...and that is very easy...he gives before going..so i only enjoy doing less work when he is out..but yes..still i miss him....
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
13 Dec 10
Hi eshaan.. Thanks for sharing dear.. yes when we are alone we often feel to lazy to do few works isnt it.. and also mylot attracts me more when he is not here lol..
@anamarp (93)
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
Hey I am a mother of 1 little baby boy., he is 7 months old. And we know that we have to work hard for our family's future.So my husband find a job that must be out in like a week or two.So only me and my baby in the house, Now is the challenge day, how am i going to clean the house and so some stuff if I am carrying my baby? I love to clean very much, I enjoy cleaning our house, I want it to be very clean but how am i going to do it with a baby? so when time come that my baby will sleep thats the time I will do the action and do it as fast as I can. so that I can finish it before my baby wake up. Time came that I can't even take shower coz I can't leave my baby and me taking shower.Just set your time..and do multitasking
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
14 Dec 10
Hi anamarp.. Thanks for sharing.. you are doing a great job.. yes you can only do work whenever your baby is sleeping.. Yes managing time and multitasking is very much necessary for this fast going life style..
@r3jcorp (1382)
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
Its really hard if our husband is not in the house. Since we are married, we never hire a helper to do task in the house, we always shared on doing it. Even when our children are still a baby, my husband take care of them during the day and drive his jeepney in the evening for an earning. I think it would be fun to do that way.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
12 Dec 10
Hi thanks for shring your opinion.. Happy mylotting..
@aodoerfer (113)
• United States
12 Dec 10
It's definitely easier to do some things when my spouse is home, but because of his schedule, he's often not around, and I guess I'm pretty used to doing stuff on my own now. I just plan things out well before I ever leave the house so that I can get what I need done quickly. I make checklists of everything I need to accomplish and mark things off. You'll adjust after a few days I'm sure! Once you get used to doing things on your own it gets a lot simpler.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
16 Dec 10
Hi friend.. Thanks for sharing.. yes its almost 3-4 days now so I am adjusted little bit.. any way he will be back tommorrow..
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
12 Dec 10
It certainly is a wonderful feeling to have our mate help with the household activities around the house. However with my bad experience of not such a great husband I once had, I realized I had to take on more of the responsibilities. Which later then proved to me that it was the right thing to do as I was a single mother for several years and owned a home. So financially I was not able to hire anyone and so I was prepared to do a great many things that my ex-husband never did.
If we have a great partner as I do now we share willingly the responsibilities, but both of us also do our fair share. This way if I am not able or he is not, then each one of us can survive on own.
So take small steps into doing what you can, therefore it gets easier each time.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
12 Dec 10
Hi hardworkinggurl.. Sorry to know about your bad experience.. hope you have been very strong in making decision.. and thanks for your suggestions yes I need to start doing few works myself so than whenever he has to go out of station I can manage alone..
