Do you think your best friend is your worst foe?
November 18, 2006 12:57pm CST
Did something such as this ever happen to you? What happen?
18 Nov 06
ya there is...i had understood the worst part of him only lately, he abuses u, he scolds u or comment on u and u should just take it friendly, even he ll do the same it seems...i thought he hasn't self respect, but we at least we do have...so, i thought i wud reduce talking..and that was just a beginning...he told me that he wants to destroy me..coz it seems, the persons whom he knew and who know abt him better, should either be his friends or foes, and not neutral...from that day onwards, i started to hate him..he is one and only enemy of mine at present...but i do think sometimes...why do i need to have enemy at this age only...but then i think,...i can't help it, can I?
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18 Nov 06
I have had best friends turn against me. Therefore they weren't my best friends anymore. In high school my group of best friends all of the sudden one day thought they were too good for me and stopped talking to me and acting cold. I was told that they wanted to move up the social ladder. Then my other best friend when I was going to get married and had been going to be my maid of honor...told me she couldn't be there, she thought she was going to be working out of town...mind you she had at least a year notice in advance. We haven't talked since.
10 Feb 07
Yes, It had something do to with material things. I don't want to discuss it because it's a private matter. The reason why your best friend is your worst foe is because you give them the authority to hurt you. They've known you well that they know where your weak spots are. Friendship means you can show your vulnerable side to them without being scoffed at and now since you're enemies they can easily manipulate those vulnerable side of yours. Not to mention the history you had together, all the stupid things you did in the name of friendship. If they're desperate enough to humiliate you in front of your family and other friends they wouldn't hesitate to deliver those low blows on you. From one argument it led to another to the point it already out of context. Bitter people will say harsh things and desperate people will do anything and everything just to humiliate you. Just don't go to their level. That's why I don't have a best friend but I have a lot of very close friends. I also make it my habit to introduce my friends to other friends whom they haven't met or don't know yet. That way if a conflict or argument would arise at least they know the personality of the people involved and they have an idea on who is the more sensible person they can take a stand on. I once had to court one of my close girl friend. She lied on me and she turned the whole story around. She had a lot of believers in her college who are on her side because she was a beauty queen BUT none of those college believers have ever met or even seen me so that pissed me off because they have already passed judgment on someone they never knew. On the other hand my friends personally know that girl because we were all HS friends back then and best of all my HS friends were my entourage when I was courting her. At least they were there, unlike her college friends.