Why do girls always for a bad guy?
By yumcookie
@yumcookie (146)
United States
December 15, 2010 10:27am CST
I'm not really sure if its just me but we as girls seem to have weird attraction for dating guys who treat us like dirt. I know all men are not like this but sometimes it takes us forever to find the perfect man. Then for some we let go of the perfect man thinking we'll have better. I've never been in too many relationships myself but the guys I'm attracted too usually turn out to be complete jerks after I find out a little more about them. So gals, tell me why we fall for guys who treat us unfairly? And for guys, tell me your luck with women, is it just as hard to find a girl who who will treat you right?
(In terms of "being treated right" and "fairly" I simply mean treating you like a human being, as an equal in the relationship you share.)
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13 responses
@uath13 (8192)
• United States
15 Dec 10
That's a trick of human perception.
Lets look at lions for a second. The females look for the biggest toughest male they can find. It's pretty odvious which that is since he mauls all the other males. It's pretty clear he'll be the best defender of the family.
Humans have similar base instincts. Women look for strong tough men who they think will stand up for them. Unfortunantly the men who look all big & bad also mistreat the ones they're supposed to be protecting. Meanwhile the guys who would actually take good care of a woman look far more innocent. They often get discarded & mistreated.
It takes a certain amount of maturity before the girls realize that the strong silent type is a better choice thant the bad boy.
@harshavardini1 (235)
• India
17 Dec 10
hi dear
i also felt for a guy who treats me unfairly.
i guess we get attracted to them because they show lots of love towards us at beginning.........
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
16 Dec 10
I might be an exception, as I'm with a really lovely and good guy 
Not all girls fall for bad boys or girls, but it's true that it's hard to find the right person, and sometimes we just fall for someone else's looks first, and start a relationship without considering that person's personality. Of course after a while we will find out what's behind that pretty face, and often it's not a good thing.
Finding the right person is a hit and miss. It's not that everyone fall for bad people, but that we don't see the bad points of that person at first.
Not all girls fall for bad boys or girls, but it's true that it's hard to find the right person, and sometimes we just fall for someone else's looks first, and start a relationship without considering that person's personality. Of course after a while we will find out what's behind that pretty face, and often it's not a good thing.
Finding the right person is a hit and miss. It's not that everyone fall for bad people, but that we don't see the bad points of that person at first.
@freeboy90 (456)
• Italy
16 Dec 10
This is a very common thing I'd say. For some weird reason girls do like that kind of guys and I don't even try to understand women anymore just because many things in their world does not make sense
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I think girls love to ask for attention and to complain when they don't get it.
I had a friend : good looking and the most caring person in the world, gave everything to his girl, wrote songs to her and gave a lot of attention. Well in the end she got tired of it and broke up with him.
So if you ask me for an explination I'm not sure I can give one and I think probably there is not one.
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I think girls love to ask for attention and to complain when they don't get it.
I had a friend : good looking and the most caring person in the world, gave everything to his girl, wrote songs to her and gave a lot of attention. Well in the end she got tired of it and broke up with him.
So if you ask me for an explination I'm not sure I can give one and I think probably there is not one.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
16 Dec 10
I know how you feel. cuz I also seem to have this weird attraction. for over a year I haven;t been able to get over this guy who shows the bad boy image. at first he was really sweet to me. but later he started to change an now he's a complete jerk. but I don't know why I still love him.
and I don't understand us girls why we can't appreciate someone that treats us nicely. he cares for us and we treat him like sh** and in the end we leave him thinking we could find better. and we end up lonely suffering for an idiot. so i can't really give you an answer
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
15 Dec 10
I really wish I knew. It's like asking "why do all the bad ones get the good ones?" Of course, that is not always entirely true, I think it's just a matter of perception. Sometimes two deserving people end up together and have a wonderful life...i.e. like George Burns and his Gracie :) Relationships like that give me hope that love exists, and deserving people end up with good spouses or significant others.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
15 Dec 10
That is the exactly same question I would like to post a few days ago. There is a girl I like a few years back, I treated so good, but I knew that she never likes me. Eventually, I just have to give up. No matter, whenever she is in trouble, I will help her out unconditionally. But she rather like someone who treat her like dirt, and I just don't understand why. That is unfair right? Anyway, I wish you luck, and hope that you will find your Mr. Right.
@nicregi (1934)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 10
Hi there. I noticed some girls love to be with mysterious guys. Guys who are full of mystery, or has a bad boy look and they gonna fall for it. Of course not all but this is definitely a trend. I feel that that could just be puppy love or trying out new things :D
@aluadacbs (10)
• Brazil
15 Dec 10
believe me, i don't like bad guys, they will be always bad, specially if you look for a serius relationship.
@henrybejobgt (6)
• Indonesia
15 Dec 10
For me.. Looking for women who are nice and friendly it is extremely difficult,go back to ourselves,if we just have to behace themselves a bad or abusive towards women,so it is not unlikely that couples would get too rough, i was as he always attempted to do good and friendly, i'm not boasting, but i'm here to tell a little about me, but i did not escape from the properties negatife, i was angry and sometimes like to think of strange.. so .. all men or no man is perfect
