We are taught to love and to share and to not be selfish. Right? Then why?

United States
December 20, 2010 10:14pm CST
are we so selfish with our lovers/ partner? most of us won't share our partners. why? We want them all to ourselves. Why? And if someone even looks at our partners most of us are ready to kill and will kill if pushed to far. Why? Why when it comes to relationships all the rules change?
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@deedee328 (1122)
• United States
21 Dec 10
We are taught to give love and to share toys and possessions. Our partners are not possessions. We are not suppose to share our partners in the way that you are referring to. The rules are different in marriages because God says to "to become one". I won't share my husband sexually because that is not what marriage is about and I don't want him to bring home any diseases that he could get from being with someone else. I certainly do not want him to have any more children. I don't get jealous at other women looking at my husband. That is just human nature. If you need a tire changed, or a kitchen pipe fixed, I will share my husband, but if you want a new playmate, you better look elsewhere.
• United States
23 Dec 10
Thank you for your reply.
• Philippines
21 Dec 10
Good morning! I think no one likes to share her/his partner to anyone they say that our heart only has 2 receptors so it means there is no place for third party :d. I am not a super jealous type of girlfriend but seeing my man with someone else is really not a good idea. Being in a relationship is not just buying some stuff that you can share to everyone:) The rules can break in all aspects of life but i think breaking someone's nose especially if she is a threat is a better idea. ( am i too harsh? :D).
• United States
23 Dec 10
Aloha, No you weren't too harsh at all. I love to hear how people really think. The reason why I asked this question was to see what people think. My thinking is very different but then again I live in a place where the Alternative lifestyle is very common.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
21 Dec 10
hello, There is always an exception to the rule. Anyway,i don't think anyone wants to share their partner with other people. I couldn't just imagine my partner kissing with other girls in front of me. And i don't know anybody else's who is willing to share their partner to other people Welcome to mylot and Happy Holiday
• United States
23 Dec 10
Thank you. And Happy Holidays to you also ^ - ^
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
21 Dec 10
could you share your boyfriend with another woman? I don't think so...or at least I couldn't. now it's not like I'm going to kill him or her if I caught them together in bad...I would probably feel terrible but I will definitely have to get over it and move on. we are taught to share our possesion...but a human it;s not an object that we posses. he is with us because he decides so. and as long as he doesn't have to share you with other men I don;t see why you should accept that
• United States
23 Dec 10
Yes, I do share my partner, And we have a lot of fun. I have an alternative lifestyle. Here in Hawaii it's pretty common.