when does the love happen to me?Who can tell me?
By koAebryant
@koAebryant (358)
China
December 21, 2010 6:49am CST
It was a cloudy cold day today.We had an English class as usual.I do not know why,when I saw the girl who I like,although she refused me,I have mixed feelings.Now,I do not want to learn and do everything.She appear in my mind now and then.I am very clear,she do not like me at all.But I can not control myself.What should I do? As I reflect on all the events of ourselves,the relationship is very simple.At the first class,I fell in love with her at first sight.Then I muster up courage to ask her telephone number,she tell me her number,but she refused my invitation to dinner with me.About one week later,I invited her again,she refused me another time.I can dare say that she understood my purpose.She later sent me a short message to tell me that"I have a boy friend,you can go for other girls in our class".Torwards this,I gave up.But the indescribable feeling come when I meet her every time.Although we do not understand each other and talk very little ,why do I have such feelings?When and how does the love happen to me?the love for me is so far away.I am depressed,I thirst for good love.When does it happen to me?I do not know.
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5 responses
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
25 Dec 10
It is a question no one can answer koAebryant! Love happens when it is meant to happen and to desperately seek at every moment of the day will not hurry it along. What you should do is put this girl you like behind you and forget her; you will get over those feelings in time. Meanwhile you should find things that you enjoy doing and live your life the best way you can. Stop looking so hard and love will more than likely come.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
22 Dec 10
love is a strange thing... it comes at a time that you least expected... and it is really personal... only the person who is going through it can feel it... so i can't really answer your question... you are the only one who can answer your question... and i personally think that if the girl already has a boyfriend, may be you really have to give her up... take care and have a nice day...
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
21 Dec 10
It will happen when it happens. It will happen when you mature. It will happen when you know more about yourself. Do you have any friends? Having friends grounds you because they will knock some sense into when you need it. My friends were constantly knocking sense into me when it came to men because they did not want me to make the same mistakes that they made.
Okay, this girl that you want, she is clearly taken, and she clearly wants you to seek out other women because she is not the one for you. That is just how it is. The feelings that you have for her, are mostly feelings of lust. It's the physical and not so much the emotional. Physically, you think that she is beautiful, but if you knew what her personality was like, I am sure that you would think that she was either the worst woman in the world, or she was the best thing that ever happened to you.
You can be physically attracted to a person, a lot of people are physically attracted to people, but if you don't know their personality, and if you have no emotional compatibility with them, then they aren't worth your time.
You have to move on. I know that it sucks that she refused you, but learn from that experience and move on. If she is taken, then sadly, she is taken and there is nothing that you can do about it.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
22 Dec 10
When you least expect it , a girl will fall for you.With me, I had just been left by a guy I thought I loved. I was like you , ready to love but I didn't know if I would ever find the right guy. And then out of the blue, I met my guy. He was just a friend at first and then I fell for him. I believe all of this happened because I was ready And my heart was open. So just keep looking and keep your heart open.
Of course it will be and may always be awkward with the girl in English class. Love doesn't Just disappear. Just grime and bear it. Hopefully next semester she won't be in your class.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
21 Dec 10
It is quite difficult to predict love my friend as sometimes it simply happens, especially when least expect it.
So I truly wish you all the love in the word as everyone certainly deserves love.
