my husband is annoying the heck outta me lately
By birdie816
@birdie816 (1276)
United States
December 24, 2010 10:02am CST
ok, dont get me wrong, i love my husband very much. it's just that lately he is really gettin on my last nerve.it doesnt seem to matter what he does...it just drives me crazy. i don't know if all married couples feel this way at times, but i know i am REALLY feeling it right now lol. so my issue is not that i want to sivorce him or anything, especially since we've only been married for a few months and of course because i love him so much. my issue is that i dont want to treat him like dirt until this feeling passes (which is exactly what i've been doing for the last few days) as it always does. i want to know how i can get past this sooner.
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6 responses
@pratiksanghvi (1281)
• India
25 Dec 10
I just feel that you are really tensed now a days and you are removing all your Frustration on him. I feel you should stop doing this cause your these activities may be surely hurting your Husband and that is a very bad thing.
I think you should give yourself sometime and leave your husband and all the Tension for a few days. Why don't you plan out a 2-3 day trip with your Friends or consider meeting your mother. You should give yourself some time to recover and stop treating your Husband like that he doesn't deserve it.
I think you should give yourself sometime and leave your husband and all the Tension for a few days. Why don't you plan out a 2-3 day trip with your Friends or consider meeting your mother. You should give yourself some time to recover and stop treating your Husband like that he doesn't deserve it.
@pratiksanghvi (1281)
• India
27 Dec 10
How do you solve the problem is entirely up to you. All I feel is that your Husband is your life partner just share with him the thing and maybe he will get a solution for you. A husband is your Life partner who should walk with you on your every step and not like a Dog, whom you can treat as you want. Remember he is not your Dog.
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
26 Dec 10
yeah you are right. he does not deserve to be treated like i treat him alot of the time. i can tell that i really am hurting him and confusing him, not just because he feels like he is being attacked, but also because he does not know what he can do to help me and it only seems like what he is trying to do to help is making the situation worse. so after a while he is very withdrawn and just stops trying because he hates to see me hurting or upset. i am not sure if i would be able to arrange this trip idea, but at least one day out with a really good female friend of mine would help i'm sure.....but as for the mother thing, well that's a whole other story entirely lol (and not a good one lol)
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@piya84 (2581)
• India
25 Dec 10
hello birdie
With marriage comes many responsibilities.Its natural that you are under huge stress.
You have not mention what are those things which drives you nut so all i can do is guess.Also people below 20 generally want to live carefree life without any responsibilities.So try to understand this is going to be difficult for him and you as well.Take is lightly.Get some self help books.Find out how to manage home,finance and other things.There will be lot less stress if you plan things properly.
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
26 Dec 10
well actually, were not both only 19. he is 20 and actually closer to being 21 in a few months. but anyway i get the point you are trying to make. it's not just all people under 20, it's young people in general. some people are almost 30 and still want to live a carefree life with no responsibilities...so maybe it's just that typically the younger you are, the more trouble you are likely to have with marriage because you are not used to being on your own, let alone living with somebody else (other than your parents). it took me like 18 years to get used to the stuff my mother and brother do lol...so i guess i just gotta wait it out til i get used to it (hopefully it won't take another 18 years to get used to marriage though lol)
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
25 Dec 10
this happens to me lots of time as well... i feel like i don't want to mistreat my hubby even though i am really annoyed by him... but at the end i still did because i couldn't control my temper and i regret it after that... but that is just us, humans... sometimes we tend to collapse and doesn't realise what are we doing especially when we are tempted... i try my very best to control my temper nowadays and be more patient with my hubby... take care and have a nice day...
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
26 Dec 10
hm.....it's weird. i have noticed alot of flares in my temper over the last few months. it's actually getting pretty out of hand. in alot of ways i don't even think it has a thing to do with my husband because he really is great and he loves me so much. he treats me really well...and i seem to repay him by nitpicking and blowing things out of proportion. i'm sure a small portion of this is my being human, but i just think it is getting out of hand lately.
@Ruby_Dawn (617)
• Spokane, Washington
24 Dec 10
oh I get like that from time to time and I like you feel guilty for treating my husband like dirt when I get that way..
I know it is not really anything he is doing it is just the way I get sometimes,I think everyone probably goes through stuff like this.
what I usually do when I feel like that is to stay away from my hubby as much as possible either playing on the computer or off reading by my self and it always passes in a day or so..he usually asks me if I am mad at him and I tell him "no I am just in one of my moods" and he understands and gives me my space (we have been together almost 13 years)
I am not sure what you can do to make these moods pass sooner because I have not figured that one out my self yet lol but maybe you could try meditating
well I hope you have a great day and Merry Christmas eve :)
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
24 Dec 10
hm...i think i should seriously try that (staying away from him). it's just kinda hard to avoid him though at times because we live in such a small space. but it is still worth a shot. but it is good to know that at least i am not the only one who goes through this even thought it doesn't seem like there is a concrete solution to this problem....and Merry Christmas (eve) to u too :)
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
24 Dec 10
Oh birdie sounds like you are really stressed out. I read from one of the responses that you are 19, may I suggest you really find some quiet quality time to express to your husband the issues you are experiencing.
May I also suggest that you do not say, YOU, YOU, see some people get immediately offended, so I would say to your sweetie, honey please help me with my problem, then tell him what is irritating you and reminding him that because you love him, this is why you would like to discuss what the issues are.
I so wish you the best of luck as two people living together can be quite difficult and unless each one compromises on what bothers one another it will not improve. Best of luck as it does sound you really do love him.
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
24 Dec 10
i have already tried talking to him about it, but i guess i need to take he focus off of him all the time and try to acknowledge my own flaws before i get so upset with him. he is not this horrible person that i treat him as. i seem to be the one with the problem. and i guess you could say that i am pretty stressed out. i have only been married for about two and a half months, i've moved twice in the last 3 months, and there has been alot of other drama. maybe i am just taking all the stress out on him :\
@neerajagrawl (58)
• India
25 Dec 10
it's good that you love your husband a lot. but you told that you don't find him good him when he do some dirty thing. i'll suggest you that cooperation is the best method to live together with each other. so try to adjust with him and be tolerant to things which annoy you about him.
happy married life.
