does his/her past matter?
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
December 25, 2010 4:38am CST
does your partner's past matter to you? would you like to know about his/her previous relationship? what if person that knew her/him tell you that he wasn't such a good person in the past?what will you do?
5 responses
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
25 Dec 10
Yes, someone's past matters to a degree...their childhood, their parents, previous relationships, etc..they make the person who he or she is. As far as other relationships...sometimes those relationships are not the right mix, and bring out the wrong characteristics that are part of the persons ideal character. We can believe little of what someone's past partner says about them..they might just want to get even with the person and tearing them down might be their only option. The one thing I do know, a person with a shady past will change for the right person, but we can't expect them to change...if you are the right person for each other you will only bring out the best in each other.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
25 Dec 10
yes I totally agree with you.who you are in childhood defines you as an adult. what a child sees in his family it's what he consider normal.so the way he's parents treat each other might be the way he'll try to treat you for example. past love relationship which failed might not have such a big effect on him as long as he knows to learn from his mistakes( because a relationship ends it's both individual's fault)
@DoctorDidi (7018)
• India
26 Dec 10
No. I believe no one should care for the past of the partner but, of course, should care for the present and the subsequent consequences which may occur in the future.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
25 Dec 10
i think it should not matter, the less we know the less it would hurt. of course we have to know a bit of it but with respect to our partners as to how much they are willing to let us know.
for me.. it matters most that i am valued and that i am with the person i am with now... not his past and well i believe since it is the past, there should no longer be any issues and no time wasted talking about it, but rather planning and talking about our future together. =)
@Jacobus1919 (1683)
• Philippines
25 Dec 10
A person's past is important but not a good gauge if it does matter or not. A partner's past may haunt or may not haunt. But technically it does not matter. What is important is she/he learned something from that past. And NOW is more important and the future is much more. What happened is done, but cherishing what is now is far greater of importance.
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
25 Dec 10
Actually past of my partner not really matter to me, I should forget his/her past because the most important to me is the present and coming future. However if I found such thing it is not matter also to me because I love her/him so I can love what he/she now. See you around
