pathetic or desperate??
By ever_purple
@ever_purple (522)
Philippines
December 26, 2010 12:01am CST
i had a friend, a close friend and im really worried about her. i dont know perhaps because she's tired of being a single lady that's why she is so anxious on having a boyfriend!! she is fun of going on parties or elsewhere hoping she might found someone there. she is really getting worse and im extremely worried about her. i find it pathetic but on the other hand more of being desperate act because i know she is not a type of a girl doing these crazy things she does!! what would you advice me to do with my friend. i dont want her to continue being like this!!
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8 responses
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
26 Dec 10
I wonder how old is your friend. You maybe worrying too much. She just wants to have fun and that she isn't really desperate of having a boyfriend.
Though going out to parties is also another way of finding a date but it doesn't guarantee a long and lasting relationship. Dating different men in just a short period of tie will only make things worst and perhaps, she might be giving a wrong impression about herself.
Better to warn her or talk to her. It is the only way you can find out her real motives in going out to parties more often than usual... Goodluck.:)
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
27 Dec 10
i read from your comment to the other mylotter's responses that your friend is only 19... she is still so young and there is no reason to be so desperate and worried of having no boyfriend... just ask her to calm down... tell her that the more she is trying to look for a boyfriend, the more she won't find one... but if she just let things go naturally, someone will unexpectedly come into her life... this is based on my own experience... take care and have a nice day...
@ever_purple (522)
• Philippines
3 Jan 11
that was exactly i told her. fortunately in a way i can see that she listens but there is still a tendency for her to be back at being a party girl. i really find her unpredictable but i can sense her determination on refraining from doing such... may i ask, you have said based on your own experience you have found your match unexpectedly? i hope you can share to me that and i will let my friend read it perhaps she might be totally stop partying and learn how to wait for her match too=))
@Valene82 (89)
• United States
31 Dec 10
I think it would be best to just help her feel good about herself any way you can so that she doesn't feel so strongly that she needs a man to make her complete or happy. A man will not make you complete or happy! He might help make you happier, but if you are not a happy, content person when you meet him, you still will be unhappy even after being with this person.
You might also introduce to her to some nice men that you think are good guys. The worst thing that could happen right now is that she just takes the first loser she finds since she is so desperate to have a guy. So at least if the guys you surround her with are good ones, you'll know she will have someone good if she manages to get one as a boyfriend.
The bottom line is try to help her feel positive and confident in her life without a man and try to steer her away from stupid guys. Don't let her feel so unhappy being single that she takes whatever she can get. Of course, this is really up to her, but you can influence her and help her as a good friend.
@ever_purple (522)
• Philippines
3 Jan 11
thanks valen for your response. it truly helped me on helping my friend.dont worry i will definitely take your advice!!God bless=))
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
26 Dec 10
Hello ever,
How old your friend is? maybe she is just trying to have fun maybe you can advice her that looking for someone is not by doing such things, there is lot of single persons out there who is happy even without significant one. Sometimes people look for a partner becoz they want to be loved or to experience how to be in a relationship.
Hope she will find someone who can love her more she can do. :)
have a nice day!
@ever_purple (522)
• Philippines
26 Dec 10
she's same age w/ mine 19. yah i believe so... i really hope that she would finally find her match!!=))
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
26 Dec 10
oh 19?still young she should enjoy life first :)
Tell her that there is more important things to do becoz in the right time she will find someone who is really destined to her, searching and partying is not good there is no assurance that she will find someone, what if she find someone but will take advantage of her feelings.
i hope you can help her :)
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
27 Dec 10
If it is really what she wants, I guess you can't do anything about it....I have a lot of girl friends who literally won't survived without a love life.
I guess if she is busy like if she is working this will divert her attention, how about encouraging her to look for a job she likes or do some recreational activities like sports so she will not only spend her time partying!
@ever_purple (522)
• Philippines
3 Jan 11
yah im saying that to her but she answer me this "i know but in my 19 years of existence here on earth i never had a boyfriend yet and its not normal" then i just shut up..
