When should I feel that I have to leave a lover...

I don't blame you for not wanting to have anything to with it, but that IS your friend so it's ok to give advice(in my opinion)just don't be judgmental.If she cherish your friendship she will understand.

hi, i think, your friend should analyze it, dont make a decision immediately, tell to your friend that they have to talk about their problems, she should know the side of her boyfriend, and let him explain to your friend.

I think before she does anything she needs to explain to her boyfriend about how she feels when he does these things. it could be that he is busy at work when she calls so he cannot answer.. I do not think she should leave without understanding why he is like this.

If that relationship is not working out anymore then maybe it is time to leave but since this is about your friend, she should be the one to make that decision. If she asks you again then say that if you are in her shoes you would leave that boy but the decision is still up to her. The most important thing though is that you will be there for her no matter what her decision might be and hope that someday she will realize that she could better. For now, just be there for her.

See...not answering a phone call or not messaging cant be a reason to break up. There can be lot of reason for that. A person can have lot of work so that he/she cant get that quality time. But the thing is....if a person really need the distance from another person, that can be understood from the behavior or the way of talking. So what I would suggest...to observe that person...everyone has to give some time to the relationship....if the relation is really worthy...the person cant stay long time apart from his/her partner. But if anyone finds that there is no meaning in the relationship anymore, then its better to stop that.

Hi, It is very difficult to fully understand what is going on in someone else's relationship, only the two people involved know exactly what's going on. Clearly, his behaviour is upsetting your friend. If it only happened once or twice I would say that he might just be having a bad day and she should try not to get too upset about it. However, if it's happening regularly then she needs to talk to him, calmly, and ask him directly why he is treating her badly. If he truly loves her, he will explain what is bothering him and make more of an effort with his girlfriend. If he dismisses her worries and continues treating her badly, then your friend should let him know that she won't accept his bad treatment. If it was me, I would end the relationship if he doesn't improve his behaviour towards her.

Hello again. It's late and you're still up. anyway, before doing a decision i guess you friend should also consider the field of her partner, maybe he's busy working? Resting? Or taking a break? Is your friend a girlfriend type who frequent monitoring her boyfriend? If yes, maybe the guy was sicked of frequent receiving SMS's from the girl.Men doesn't like girls who are detective nor acting like their mom. This are some of the reason's i observed why men avoiding their girl and eventually will lead to separation. These are their little ways of avoiding and want to end up the relationship. Actually i also applied their styles when i was in a relationship and there's no valid reasons to breakup, it's effective and they give up.lol You did the right thing by not influencing your friend's decision in ending the relationship. Listening to her heartaches are already enough and a big help.

Leaving a lover is never an easy choice to make. I would say that it's time to leave a lover when the feelings in the relationship are not what they used to be.

I feel like I'm in the same boat with your friend. I can totally relate to what she's into. And if I'm not mistaken, could it be that his boyfriend is always playing the famous computer game called DoTA(Defense of the Ancients)? Let me share you a bit of my story. I'm still with my boyfriend right now. We've been together for 2 years. I know that he's fond of playing that game even before I met him in person. During the first year of our relationship, he wasn't committed at all. He seldom text me or call me even if he received tons and tons of my text messages and missed calls. Until one time, I really got tired of his excuses.. I confronted him about the problem. I even suggested that a break-up could solve the issue we had. I asked him if it's okay if we both split up for good. He said "no" and he asked for another chance. I was hesitant to give him a chance but I did give him a second chance. From that time on, I witnessed him change gradually... Right now, he still finds time to play the game but I have accepted what he is.. As for your friend, it's better to weigh things out first before jumping into a conclusion. There really was a time when it was too much for me to bear, I brought up the issue to him and we both made it clear when we talked it over. If it's taking her patience to the lowest level, she needs to talk to her boyfriend about this. She has to assess if her boyfriend still values her worth or if she's still an important part of her boyfriend's life. She also has to let him understand that he has to compromise with her to meet halfway despite their differences. If it means nothing to her boyfriend, then that'd be the time to give up the relationship.

Good day jordq9, i believe you and your boyfriend just need some misunderstanding. It's better to talk about it before it gets to worse and comes to the point that you will hurt each others feeling. That's according to my own experience. Everything will settle if you give each other a time. Time to talk about your relationship and time for each other. I hope it will help you jordq7. Have a great day! :)

For me, these are not sufficient grounds for a break-up. These are just minor issues that could be patched-up if both will just spare ample time for a heart to heart talk, baring their hearts out on whatever it is in the realationship that needs to be considered. If you'd ask me, I would only leave my partner if he cheated on me, hurt me physically or he doesn't love me anymore.