betrayal

@cssiduyz (1054)
Indonesia
December 31, 2010 4:38am CST
What should we do to a good friend who betrayed us? I have good friends, I made friends with him was almost 7 years. And for that we always share the love, and sorrow. We help each other and cherish. And, since 3 years ago I liked a person and I always tell or vent to my friends that about people I like and wish that my friend helped me to approach people that I liked it, all my secrets were my friend already know. However, today my friend is actually dating with people that I like it. Do you think it is a betrayal? please provide an explanation. -_-
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10 responses
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
4 Jan 11
uhmm, indeed, it looks like your friend is wrong. fair for you to decide friendship, I think it will evoke emotion. But try to think further. he is a friend near you, it's not cool to live if friends have turned into enemies. if you can better, you better find a solution to keep the friendship.
@alone33 (80)
• Indonesia
3 Jan 11
if we betray our friends, we should not retaliate because it is her bad behavior. we should ask our friends and asking what your friends mean to you, so that he betrayed you. hopefully in that way can help you and there is no such thing as conflict between you guys and hopefully you guys can reunite friendship.
@krmh00 (4)
• United States
1 Jan 11
I remember the situations like that can really hurt. I think in a way it might be a little betrayal as this friend should have been up front with you; however, you should keep a forgiving heart towards this friend. I wouldn't necessarily tell this friend everything anymore but would be there as a friend for him. People make unwise decisions especially when it comes to dating, example in your case of dating someone you like. And be more confident in yourself! Don't rely on friends to help you out in situations like that because as you see it can set you up to be taken advantage of.
• Italy
1 Jan 11
Thats a strange situation i cannot understand why your friend has behaved in this way.Whatever the situation was your friend must have to tell you first and to date with your like ones but he or she hide all this from you. I suggest you that make clear straight discussion with your friend and ask him the reasons behind this, maybe he have some valid reasons because there are plenty of situations in life and we can not figure out the facts until we know the both sides story. If you find him guilty then do nothing only leave him because such type of friend can be dangerous for your future life. Dont get angry or revenge taker just leave him and go ahead in your own life.
• Philippines
1 Jan 11
Hi! Know what? I have been in the same situation -- almost the same. I've had my best friend in high school who I treated as my own sister, for we're both the only child in the family. We shared everything under the sun. And she knew how much I loved this guy who happened to be my first true love. And now, the guy and my best friend shared four long years of relationship as couple. It's really painful that it takes years for me to move on. But forgiveness is the key. Anyways, according to you, you just like the person, and she's not yours, same as I never own the guy. Yes, it's really hard to forget, but at least don't make your hear bitter. Learn to forgive, and just be happy and enjoy your life for in the end you will be able to find someone better than what you wanted. :P Oh, by the way, have you talk with this friend of yours? Did you already ask him why he keeps on dating all the girls you like? It's better if you two will talk about this matter. :) God bless!
• Philippines
1 Jan 11
Hi! Know what? I've been on the same situation --almost the same. I've had my best friend in high school who I treated as my own sister, for we're both the only child in the family. We shared everything under the sun. And she knew how much I loved this guy who happened to be my first true love. And now, the guy and my best friend shared four years of relationship as couple. It's really painful that it takes years for me to move on. But forgiveness is the key. Yes, it's really hard to forget, but at least don't make your heart bitter. Learn to forgive and just be happy and enjoy your life for in the end you will be able to find someone better than what you wanted. :P Oh, by the way, have you talked to this friend of yours? This may sound a little bit bitter but I THINK (just an opinion :P) that guy envies you so much. You know, when insecurity strikes, people tend to do anything to prove that they are better. Just be proud that he idolizes you! LOL.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
1 Jan 11
i dont think it`s betrayal my friend.. iam sorry say like that but you must accept this condition love began from the hear of the both person maybe you like or love a woman but she doesnt love you, and your love relationship doesnt happen..right? it same with your friends...if he becoma a lover a woman, it means that woman loves your friend.. right??
@nakula2009 (2325)
• Indonesia
1 Jan 11
you should continue to foster good with your friend, if the problem is only that small, you better forget about the people you love it and look again because a friend's wedding is very hard to find let alone your friends that you love to help you get a problem when his
@lenapoo (674)
• United States
31 Dec 10
The final decision is yours to make, but overall I would say that if someone is your friend they dont do things that would hurt you especially not intentionally to the point that you feel that you have been betrayed...As far as the dating situation I would say that sometimes friends end up liking the same people and more than not someone is going to be emotionally betrayed....A person can't help who they love or care for, but it's about the approach they take to letting others around them know their feelings and intentions that matter the most.....I must say that out of all the good friends that I've had over the years...Not a 1 has tried to steal or go behind me and get with a guy that i dated or liked....It all boils down to a matter of respect.....
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
31 Dec 10
hi, forgiveness is the best answer of it, dont blame your friend even she/he betrayed you, just dont the anger stay in your heart.