Forgiven and forgotten, is it possible??

@piperu (113)
Indonesia
January 1, 2011 7:37am CST
I love someone and then he hurt me so bad, I already forgive him and let him go, but after years I still can't get him out of my mind. The memories keep coming without control. Even I try to make busy all day. Until when I should feel like this?
5 responses
@krieyszel (330)
• Philippines
1 Jan 11
Only time heals the pain,maybe it takes a very long time but there will be the right time to ease all behind in the past.Yes! it is possible to forgive and forget,even we've hurt us so badly before.But,I think what we should do is to give time yourself to retreat on it.Set at least one day to cry and express your been hiding feeling.This will really makes your feeling so light and also to accept the fact that it over.It's been almost after how many time.So, give yourself to move out from bitterness and show up the world happy again.I know, it very hard but try to think how pity yourself to still be live in past.Don't let be a prisoner and trapped from the past.Move on, and cope up.The best thing to helps it easy way, is to talk that person one on one and asks for forgiveness and forgiven. Don't waste your time, in a world who doesn't yours at all.Decision the right thing because you can't never be back that what have been lost and over.
@piperu (113)
• Indonesia
2 Jan 11
Hello krieyszel.. I try to move on. I quit the job (we were in same company before), take a holiday trip, do my hobbies, sight seeing with friends. Still I cant forget. Even in my dream, he shown up. My best friend told me to open my heart to someone new. But it seem I'm not ready if I still thinking of him. Yeah I'm being patient after years. I will give more time to myself recovery. Thank u for your response :)
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
1 Jan 11
Piperu... That is the same uestion I have been asking myself for years. I love my husband so much but he betrayed me and tainted our love. To make the story short, he asked for my forgiveness and though we are still living under the same roof, I can not seem to forget the pain and the past. Though I can honestly say that I have forgiven him. But, yes, it is possible. Day after day, I endure the pain, fear and uncertainties of not knowing what to do and where to go just to forget him and what he did. How I hate him sometime when I see that he is enjoying his life while I am suffering in silence. But, with God's grace and my persistent effort to convince myself to love ME a little more, I am slowly finally moving on. I guess, the heart knows when to stop when it really has to stop and move on. Just help yourself and pray to God more often than you used to. It helps a lot with the healing. Do not rush, take your time and your heart to heal. You'll get there.
@piperu (113)
• Indonesia
2 Jan 11
Hai eurekafemme... Thank u for sharing. I feel the same like you. Sometime I dont want to see him happy while I'm suffered. I know it is wrong. I deserve my own happiness. I will give myself more time to deal with this situation. Hapy new year :)
1 Jan 11
instead of running away from memories, recall the most precious moments that you've spnet with him. everything'll go fine.. even though he's hurt you, he's been your love! so chill and enjoy..
@piperu (113)
• Indonesia
2 Jan 11
Yup, I can't reject him. Maybe the memories can become an alarm if I'm trap in similar situation like this again (hope not!).
• United States
2 Jan 11
It sounds like you may need to do some soul searching to make sure you have truly forgiven him. However, i say "forgive for sure - forget h*ll no!" You don't want to repeat decisions that you've paid for The only way to keep from repeating is to remember!
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
1 Jan 11
Forgiving someone that has hurt me is not the hard part for me to deal with. forgetting the transgression seems to cling deeper to me. i can easily forgive. i just can't seem to forget too.