Have you ever stuck by someone because you didn't want to be alone?

United States
January 5, 2011 11:41pm CST
Have you ever stuck by your significant other even though you lost interest of them just because you don't want to be by yourself (alone) Or scared to find another significant other? I have a friend who is dating a guy for a couple years and shes scared to let go because she doesn't want to start dating again and is scared she can't find someone. That is just weird, the world is huge you'll find someone!! Anyone ever been in this position or could relate?
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@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
7 Jan 11
I never allow myself to be stuck to someone whom i cannot relate to , anymore. Sometimes, loneliness is just a state of the mind. Besides, there are a lot of ways of not being alone. You can always have your best friends , your family and office mates to share whatever you like sharing. Besides, why should your friend be afraid of dating others and finding someone new? If she has found somebody before , then she could very well find someone new again. She must just be confident of herself and most of all, love herself more.
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• United States
7 Jan 11
I agree. Shes scared because she dated this particular person for awhile and shes not ready to be single. Lol. Thanks for sharing &I would never stay in that position either.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
7 Jan 11
I have never felt like i was stuck with someone. it is more fun to be with someone than to be alone, but i don't mind being alone. i wouldn't stay with someone just so I wouldn't be alone.
• United States
7 Jan 11
Lol yeah same here. Thanks for sharing [=
@lingli_78 (12846)
• Australia
7 Jan 11
not really... i just think that if your partner is your destined one, then he/she won't go anywhere... so i don't have to be afraid and stuck with him just for the sake not wanting to be alone... and you are right... the world is huge and i definitely will be able to find someone... take care and have a nice day...
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• United States
7 Jan 11
Thanks for sharing & yeah the world is big [ =
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
6 Jan 11
never, i would feel humiliated and have only me to blame it's difficult sometimes like the time when i was alone cause i didn't like the guys available but being with someone just to be is even worse cause we could feel like a looser or something, i know i would, not that the thought never crossed my mind, it surely did :)
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• United States
7 Jan 11
Thanks for sharing & I never either =)
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
6 Jan 11
Sticking it out with someone just because you don't want to be alone is a pity thing to do. Why waste your time with someone you don't like or love? Better find another , make yourself more visible and who knows that right man is just around the corner,waiting to be noticed by you!
• United States
7 Jan 11
Yeah, not my position but I agree. Theres a lot of other people out there :P Thanks for sharing!
• India
6 Jan 11
Some of us have an inherent feeling of loneliness. People who are meant to be a public figure can't be in seclusion for long. But probably the greatest factor that plays a role here is a low self esteem. People are often unaware about their own capabilities. They don't usually have a very high opinion about themselves. These people stick to one friend, one girlfriend, one job and one residence. It's not that being loyal to only one person is wrong. But compromising at every step in a relationship is simply unacceptable. If your friend find someone superior to his current girlfriend, he will think about having a new relationship. The most important thing he wants is stability. He doesn't want to be kept alone. This is because he has a sense of insecurity very fundamental in his psyche. He is immovable in his mind and hardly ever ready to explore newer opportunities.
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• United States
7 Jan 11
Yeah, it is common instinct but I wouldn't want to stick by someone if I was unhappy, there is a lot in this world. There is more opportunities, I agree. Thanks for sharing :)
• China
7 Jan 11
I can understand your friend's choice. It is a general custom which obstruct her start again. She was scared of facing another guy who was totally strange except just a little feeling. Acturally, I'm very scared of myself being in this situation. I'm ok to be alone. I'm pretty sure in this point. But I often over-worried about our relationship(I mean with my partner). I was worried that oneday we stuck by each other as you said because we did not want to be alone. I'm anxious and fearful about the future.
• United States
7 Jan 11
Yeah it is scary ]= No one wants to be in this situation either but it's hard. Thanks for sharing [ =
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
7 Jan 11
Your friend really should move on if she has lost interest in him because it's just not worth it to stay with someone that she no longer loves it is pointless. She shouldn't be scared to be lonely and she will find someone else many people in this world and she can find one that's for sure.
• United States
7 Jan 11
Yeah, I agree thats what I've been telling her. Thanks for sharing [=
@freymind (1352)
• Philippines
6 Jan 11
i was stuck with my ex because he said that he doesn't want me to break up with him and that we'll sort our problems in no time. it turns out that i've wasted almost 4 years with him though i'm already losing my love for him. and at the back of my mind i also stayed because i thought that there'll be no one else who'll love me or care for me. it turns out he's just so close i'm just blinded by the relationship that i was in. God gave me my love and i'm happy now. yes you're right. there's a lot of people in the world and she'll find the right one for her. just talk to her and let her realize this. or pray with her for guidance. i pray that she'll open her heart and mind. God bless.
• United States
7 Jan 11
I am sorry to hear but I'm glad you're out of it. Sorry you wasted four years but you learned form the relationship [ = Thanks for sharing!
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
7 Jan 11
hi, hmmm...i already experienced that this last november only, when i was left alone by my lover. i almost did what he wants for the sake of not living me alone. but still, i am alone now.....so sad...
@Naylani (111)
• United States
7 Jan 11
Yes, I have in the past remained in bad or unhealthy relationships because I didn't want to be alone, or I was afraid to start over. It is very difficult to start again mainly because of the fear of the unknown and also fear of rejection. I realized that it's ok to be alone for a while. Perhaps we shouldn't get into another relationship when we aren't ready or still going through a "love hangover". when we are ready the heart will tell you