I am a good listener. How well do you listen to things going on around you?

January 7, 2011 9:08pm CST
Hello people of internet world. I have always liked listening to my friends and family's point of view on things. What there interest are and what they are most passionate about. An I think that is point about being a good friend and a good parent if you have kids most of all mainly if you have teenage kids. Yes, parents of my internet community you gave to loosen the rungs but not let completely go. If you do not have a senice of trust relationship with you're child they won't tell you a thing they will just go behind you're back and do it. Mainly these days the reason why teenagers these days do not come out and talk to their parents is because there scared to. There afraid there going to get yelled at or even worse in some cases. There fear shuts them down that is why you have to maintain that certain level of trust. Don't try to be cool that just humiliates them. Be you're self. They don't trust you they won't talk to you. Remember that parents. As for friends always be there for them listen closely carefully to their words and make sure you give them the support they need. Because when you need them they will always be there for you.
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• New Zealand
13 Jan 11
I suppose anyone could be a good listeners to any thing going on around them if it concerns or interests them. However, they may not show any signs of interest that indicates they are listening.(Many reasons...) I know this because I happen to be such an example. (I suppose you may consider this an disability to interact with people on an interpersonal level.) Easily misunderstood to individuals who don't understand me. It is possible to have someone to show they are interested in listening but really have their mind elsewhere. (I have personally encountered many people who are like this.) I would however be more focused on listening(provided I am interested) rather than showing I am listening. (I suppose I am losing the ability of active listening.)
@daliaj (5689)
• India
9 Jan 11
I am a good listener too. When I say that it doesn't mean that I am good at listening things that go around me. I am a good at listening to people when they talk to me and I have some patience to listen to even a very boring talker. So, talkative people may like my company. I am not very attentive to things going around me, that is an entirely differnt topic.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
9 Jan 11
I try to be a very good listener at what goes on around me. that is how you keep up with the important things that go on in your life. Anyone can hear. not everyone can listen. it makes a difference to yourself and to others when you listen well.
• Pakistan
8 Jan 11
I have always felt that there is this huge communication gap between the younger and older generation and to me it seems a senseless loss. You don't loose anything by listening to your parents but you do gain from their experience and their advice. I am blessed to have a mother and father who listen to my every cry and i try to reciprocate in kind as i know they won't ever tell me anything which isn't good for me. I also feel relaxed after these sessions like i have unloaded my worries and i gain an extra pair of brain in return. Its very important to develop this kind of a relationship and it requires mutual cooperation and effort but in the long run it is rewarding and helps in building and maintaining the integrity of a family as it is the family which is going to stand by your side through thick and thin.
@rexrevol (328)
• Philippines
8 Jan 11
If it interests me and has a potential in filling up my burning curiosity, then I'd really listen very carefully. If it's required, I'll listen intellectually. If it's inspirational, I'll listen attentively. If it's garbage, I don't hang on to it. G.I.G.O. = Garbage In, Garbage Out.
• India
8 Jan 11
Well thanks for the advice there. But the students of today are more like Deeds speak louder than words sort of people so they just go around doing whatever they want to do. They hear but they don't listen. Hearing is with the ear whereas listening is with the mind. Students only hear stuff from one ear and then throw them out of the other. I am saying so because i am a student and i do that most of the time myself. I am not speaking for all the students but for some of them i am. I have done things which i cant bring back now. But most of them were bad and good things also. Cheers!