It's difficult to love people that hates us!

Ecuador
January 9, 2011 1:19pm CST
There's some people that you find really easy to love. People that is friendly, respectful, those ones are easy to love. But there's other kind of people, people who aren't too easy to coexist with. There are some disrespectful people, or people that you don't agree with the way of living, their beliefs, their manners and customs. So, how can I be more tolerant with these people. Sometimes I find that is really difficult to love people that may hate you. How difficult has it been for you to love people who hate you?
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11 responses
• Qatar
9 Jan 11
will it depends in the way you treat people. Because people dont want to be tolerated but respected. Anyway we are not created to be the same how dull the life then will be. You also dont have to agree on people manners but you have to respect what they believe in. if you respect me i will respect you and love you.
• Ecuador
9 Jan 11
It's not easy to respect some people, but if you respect any person, it's not the same of loving that person. To love is really difficult, but if we respect, we are closer to love that person.
• Qatar
9 Jan 11
Love is difficult but respect is easy.
• Ecuador
10 Jan 11
I agree with that statement. But I think you can love through respect.
• Pakistan
9 Jan 11
Honestly i don't even try to love them! I just accept or in some cases try to accept that they exist and i will just have to live with them. I used to feel depressed at first but lately, i have developed this attitude of understanding and acceptance that there always going to be people who will disagree with you, find faults in everything you do so its better to just take them as they are and move forward coz they aren't going to change! They have been living like this for some time and a transformation is not going to take place overnight. However, there are situations where i simply feel like banging my head against a wall and/wishing something evil for them! I think that there is class of humans who wouldn't leave you alone and would go to any length to drive you insane and this is when the situations turns for the worst because there is nothing which you can do about it!!So even if your patience and tolerance is boundless, it doesn't matter as theirs isn't!
• Ecuador
10 Jan 11
I'd prefer to love people instead of just coexisting with them. Is best to feel comfortable in this world, and comfortable with all the people that lives around you.
• Pakistan
11 Jan 11
yes but i find that once you love some one, you naturally want them to love you back or at least show some warmth! and when its not a bitterness develops inside you not immediately but after some time and that is one feeling i hate!
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
11 Jan 11
i don't like being with people. i don't like adjusting to different kinds of character that's why i prefer to be alone most of the time. it's hard to mingle with people you really dont feel like having conversation with but this happens to me most of the time. but i don't care much about them. if they say hi or smile, i'll return it back but i prefer not to engage into a small talk or whatever. in my office, they're all ok but i don't like to be with them after office. i guess we won't match, i mean our character.
@dianmelydia (2269)
• Indonesia
10 Jan 11
I think it just about a mindset to hate or love your enemy. If people believe that we can't live alone or we won't know when we need someone's help no matter whether from our friend or enemy, then we could give in for any problem. I believe it's not a good thing to hate someone for more than 2 or 3 days. When we hate someone, just hate on that moment, then we must try our best and as fast as we can to forgive. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.
• Ecuador
10 Jan 11
It's not good to hate someone for more than some minutes. We must forgive the people that hurt us. Thanks for the answer.
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@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
hi, definitely yes, its hard to love them, especially when they hates you, of course i will hate them too, but sometimes i just ignore them just not to ruin my day...LOL..
@Pisces54 (49)
• United States
10 Jan 11
I don't love or hate people who don't love me. I just feel indifferent to them. Most of the time I just ignore them. If I can't avoid them then I try to be civil but not friendly towards them. I try not to let them affect me or what I do in my life. I've accepted the saying" you can't please everybody so try to please yourself". That's life.
• Ecuador
10 Jan 11
We all are people, and I think we all deserve some attention and some love. So, I try not to ignore people even if they don't love me. Thanks for the answer.
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
10 Jan 11
honestly I don't love people that don't love me I admire anyone that can do that, though I have gone from hating people who hate me, to completely ignoring them even if they need help to me that's a big leap but going from ignoring, to loving people who hate me that's one leap I don't think I can achieve it in this life time anyone who can take that leap, I really hope they will never regret it
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
Good Day! For me its not difficult because if you really love someone, no matter what he is, no matter how he hates you you still love him and you just can't explain why? Like me, there is this guy whom I really love but he hates me. I just don't know why? He gets annoyed when he sees me because he doesn't like me but I still love him. :)
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
10 Jan 11
When someone says that they hate us, that can drag us down as well as our opinion of ourselves. it may be hard to have any kinds of feelings for this person. Being liked or loved puts things in a much better perspective when we love someone. Hate puts a very negative spin on the world.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
Actually, you can more or less sense if a person hate you. So, in order to avoid further antagonism between the two of you , avoid being with that person alone or just being near her. That way, your day will not be ruined !
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
10 Jan 11
For me the best thing to do with this kind of people is to ignore them;of course,there are situations in life when you can't avoid contacts with people you don't like or don't like you,and in this case I do my best to behave politely with them,but I can't say that I try to smile to them or say something nice;I simply try not to spend too much time in their company and I keep the distance asa much as I can.