I hate Goodbyes
By lady_di1210
@lady_di1210 (263)
Philippines
January 12, 2011 8:44am CST
Just a while ago, my boyfriend invited me on a lunch date in a fast food restaurant. I was so delighted when he called up. So we met and ate lunch together. After lunch we headed towards the public utility jeepney stop to send me home. I was hesitant to leave him because an hour of seeing him is not enough for me. I know he wanted to play computer games in the internet cafe all by himself but I was dissatisfied by his choice. I still want to spend some quality time with him.
What I did was, I chose to walk home without even saying goodbye to him and never looked back at him. When I got home, I called him. I really got mad to the point that I texted all the thoughts that came out in my head as if I was nagging. He got my messages and replied that he's on his way towards my home..
I was surprised when he arrived. He said I have an issue with "goodbyes"... It's true that I hate seeing him leave or hate it when he says I have to leave and see him the next day.
What should I do so I won't get downhearted when he says goodbye the next time around? I know I'd still meet him the next day and onwards but I seem to be so attached that I get a separation anxiety when he's leaving.. I'm like a child who hates seeing my mommy go away for work.
Can you guys help me out? What's the best solution for this issue?
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4 responses
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
A lot of people hate goodbyes but yours was a bit different. I have to agree to the other mylotters that you have to be mature enough. That kind of trait wouldn't help anyone's relationship nurture. You'll know it when certain problems are coming out that will contribute to something negative.
I suggest that you practice to say goodbye. You'll get used to it someday. It's not like you'll never see your boyfriend again so don't be that weak - sorry for the term.
Good luck with your love life! 
Stay pretty and be happy.@lady_di1210 (263)
• Philippines
17 Jan 11
I'm glad I did! I tend to get really moody at times you know.. ^_^ At last I took hold of it and controlled my temper.
Thank you for all your wishes.
Happy Mylotting and God bless to you... ^_^
@lady_di1210 (263)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Indeed... It's not healthy for our relationship if I keep on acting childish. I've been seeing him for over 2 years. This is just the first time that I've ever expressed my annoying behavior to him, and hoping it won't happen again. Maybe I was just too selfish thinking so much about him leaving too early.
Anyway, I have thought of a solution to this issue just before I went to bed yesterday. I called him up before I went to sleep and really said sorry with all sincerity. We have talked things over and I explained why I got furious about his idea. Great news, we're back on the track. Things like these spice up a relationship. All we have to do is face it, deal with it, be open-minded -- that's teaching each other to grow in maturity and in love.. ^_^
eLsMarie.. Thank for your comment!
Happy Mylotting!
@aeiou78 (3445)
• Malaysia
13 Jan 11
You hate to say or to hear goodbye. You hate to hear or to say seeing you again.
You like everything with you forever.
Can it be happened in our life?
Your boyfriend can be with you now, but tomorrow or the day after tomorrow, both of you still have to say seeing you again or goodbye to each other.
This is the fact in our life.
If you can not change the situation to make no goobye in our life, youu have to change yourself to adopt the fact by saying goodbye or seeing you again in your life.
You need to change.
@lady_di1210 (263)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Hi aeiou78!
I'm glad I did change that childish attitude. In reality I can't be with him forever because he'll be working across oceans soon enough. I've learned my lesson based on what I have experienced yesterday. It did hurt him a lot when I did that. So this time, I won't have to be emotionally sensitive about myself. I should also learn how to deal with his situation... Now I understand.. ^_^
@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
12 Jan 11
I know how you feel. I hate good byes too and im the same way at times but i know im going to be seeing my boyfriend in the next 12 hours anyways so i say well ill see you tommorrow and ill call or text you when i get home. I try not to think about it i guess at times but i do and i know its hard. I work full time and they comeon here to make some extra money of course but i try to stay busy when im not with him to make the day go by faster so i can see him when i get home from work. We dont live together either and its harder on us of course when traveling back and forth to see eachother and i feel we are wasting money doing that so this year i hope to get a house with him and live a happy life.
@lady_di1210 (263)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
I thought I was the only one who hate goodbyes.. Thank God I'm not alone.. ^_^ I just dropped by to see him a while ago. Everything went very well. I guess I was just overreacting yesterday. I really apologized a lot for what I did. Hoping I won't whine like a child anymore.
When parting time comes we just have to face reality. You're right, all we have to do is to think positive when saying goodbye is hard for us to bear. We'd still see them anyway.. Hoping for the all the best why not reply "take care...." ^_^
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
13 Jan 11
When you love someone, goodbye has to be the hardest word to say and the most difficult thing to go through.Saying goodbye is like losing a piece of your heart to someone.@lady_di1210 (263)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
You're right sender621.. It's really hard to say goodbye especially when you really care for someone that much.. Goodbyes worry me sometimes because I often think of my loved one's welfare. Hoping he'll have a safe trip when he's on his own and nothing will go wrong..
